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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 10:22:15 AM

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Aileen-in case you weren't aware, you absolutely rock.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 10:38:48 AM

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Nothing admirable or rockin here.
Just a fuckup who tries to learn from her mistakes.
I do know that I will never cheat on anyone else ever again.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 10:39:09 AM

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just a wonderful lady and poster all around aileen!!!

wow....how brave....im impressed more than before

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 10:42:18 AM

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Nothing admirable or rockin here.
Just a fuckup who tries to learn from her mistakes.
I do know that I will never cheat on anyone else ever again.

Yeah, but it takes guts and insight to do so,which most people lack.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 10:51:47 AM

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Aileen, I think I've told you this before, but I really admire you for being willing to post a comment like that. It takes a lot of balls to stand up and say what you did there. I appreciate the fact that you are willing to do so.

I second this.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 10:52:20 AM

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Yeah Aileen rules. We know it.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 10:53:51 AM

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Nothing admirable or rockin here.
Just a fuckup who tries to learn from her mistakes.
I do know that I will never cheat on anyone else ever again.

The thing that makes it admirable is that you are willing to expose something you are not proud of to try to help someone else from making the same mistake...

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 10:55:04 AM

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Everyone is absolutely right here in commenting.. i just wonder what his thinking is on Honesty in a relationship? so so many people think.. " well what she doesnt know wont hurt her" .. but in the end it always does.. no one is exempt. and always ( almost always) found out in the end as well... or they say " the kids will be nurt so i stay * insert a long drawn out sigh for feeling sorry for me please here * ) and here's a huge clue! the KIDS KNOW! lol they can see you are not loving or affectionate or intimate.. they are kids not morons! They know the difference.

In the end i feel sorry for you for not ever really getting to persue your dreams.. because while you will feed and feel full.. it wont ever be as rich as it can be for you. and in the process .. everyone elses lives around you will suck because of it including yours.

Be careful.. there are alot of ppl out there who would find it sporting to break up your marriage under the guise of being with you .... and when this happens.. how will you ever really be able to trust another person lying and cheating??? i , personally, wish you luck , but.. i cannot ever live like that .. i feel for your wife and your family.

And to Aaileen .. you are brave and honorable for standing up and sharing your mistakes with others so that they might gleen some insight and not go there.. i am glad you found happiness and admire you! thank you.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:00:11 AM

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just wonder what his thinking is on Honesty in a relationship? so so many people think.. " well what she doesnt know wont hurt her" .. but in the end it always does.. no one is exempt.

I suppose I am too damn selfish to cheat on someone. I wouldn't hurt myself that way. It would hurt to know I lacked the wherewithal to live an authentic life. I had a married submissive friend (not from this site, but a friend that I found in a vanilla setting... we discovered our submissiveness about the same time). She cheated on her hubby who would not meet her needs. She regrets it. She wants an authentic life these days, and living a lie is not living authentically

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:00:46 AM

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Before this gets all soft and fluffy and out of control I would like to remind you....

You're a cunt!

I hope this helps.

Also, this has been spell checked. There will be no joy for you here....:)

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:03:00 AM

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Before this gets all soft and fluffy and out of control I would like to remind you....

You're a cunt!

I hope this helps.

Also, this has been spell checked. There will be no joy for you here....:)

The question is will this post live to see another day?

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:06:54 AM

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Of course it will. I am friends with Ron. He owns this site.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:26:42 AM

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Of course it will. I am friends with Ron. He owns this site.

He stole my cone, will you talk to him?

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:28:26 AM

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Oh, and I would like to be removed from the 'Condemned' list. It is so boring.

Something like 'Grumpy Bitch' would probably be more fitting (at least on days like today...), definitely more colourful.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:29:30 AM

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Nothing admirable or rockin here.
Just a fuckup who tries to learn from her mistakes.
I do know that I will never cheat on anyone else ever again.

Wrong. It's decided, you rock.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:30:17 AM

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I try very hard to separate myself from finding fault in others, value judgments and imposing the life forces guiding me. To focus my thoughts on only the positive but based on your comments and condemnations you have received it would seem obvious the missing link is the damage you are doing to yourself. Not your wife or the other woman.
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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:32:58 AM

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Oh, and I would like to be removed from the 'Condemned' list. It is so boring.

Something like 'Grumpy Bitch' would probably be more fitting (at least on days like today...), definitely more colourful.

If you wouldn't mind a suggestion, I think something referring to your sense of humor would be more fitting.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:38:33 AM

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LadyP, you can suggest anything you want to me, at any time.

What avenue that take one or both of us down.......well that is for our victims to worry about.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:45:28 AM

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Oh, and I would like to be removed from the 'Condemned' list. It is so boring.

Something like 'Grumpy Bitch' would probably be more fitting (at least on days like today...), definitely more colourful.

If you wouldn't mind a suggestion, I think something referring to your sense of humor would be more fitting.

Yes the humor would be an accurate road to go down, or the farm GrumpyFunnyFarmTiger?

I dont find you grumpy though LaT.

Then again funny and farm side by side might be misconstrued.

FunnyGrumpyFarmTiger?

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/15/2010 11:46:54 AM

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If she knows or not is between her and I. None of you know enough about me or my situation to be able to issue a blanket condemation of me personally, one can only say that you don't like this sort of behavior in general terms... everything is not always black and white... there are always shades of gray...

Been a long time since I have posted on the forums; and I know this was addressed specifically to someone else. However, can't you see the hypocrisy in your statement? How can it be between you AND her, if you are not telling her? You are trying to justify and validate something that you desperately want to make acceptable behavior. However, you can't. Be honest with yourself first.   Sometimes, things ARE black and white, and we squint real hard, because we WANT them to be gray. But, just because we want something to be true, it don't make it so.

Now, before you claim I am judging you, I'm not.   And, it's not that I don't give a damn, either. I know what it's like not to like the choices you have in life (hence, my screen name).   The point is this: if you want your wife to remain your wife, you owe her honesty. She deserves to know the man she has forsaken all others for. She deserves to know what's going on with you. And, if you disagree, then you need to start thinking that maybe she deserves for you to let her go, or at least give her all the facts, so that SHE can make an informed decision. No, it's not pleasant, no it's not what you want to do. But, you claim to care about this woman, and if you REALLY do, you need to make her as much a priority as you make yourself.

It's easy to lie to yourself. To say you are keeping it from her to protect her. And, on some level it may even be true, but think for a moment of what it is you are trying to protect her FROM. You are trying to protect her from something she should not have to worry about; her own husband. You are trying to protect her from the one thing in life you actually DO have control over- yourself. No matter what you say and do to try to justify it, in the end, you are going to lose.   You might NOT lose her, I don't know her.   But, you lose self respect, integrity, the ability to identify as a trustworthy and honest man. And you can never undo the harm you are contemplating. Never. Think about it.

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