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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 8:58:00 AM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: wandersalone

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A friend suggested I post a message here as it helped her find her Dom.



Dayum they must really hate you!!

(is it just me or do married men get way more flak than married women seeking a bit on the side?)



No, its not just you seeing that. Married woman cheat just as much as married men, but the morality police don't get half as involved.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 8:58:05 AM   
wandersalone


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Hey, Jeffff, you have laurel and are keeping LaT as your les Domme on the side, and you're still wondering about turning on MissA? The OP could take lessons from you...


Ahem........who is keeping WHO???



LaT....I reckon Steven needs a spanking for daring to suggest that a mere anteater would be able to keep you


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 9:09:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: wandersalone

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A friend suggested I post a message here as it helped her find her Dom.



Dayum they must really hate you!!




Actually this is where he lied to begin with.  I never said I found a dom here.  I'm not looking for that.  What I said is "I'm dating a few I've met through here.  Nothing serious, as yet..."

When I protested that this wasn't true, he claimed "Literary License."  I claim outright lie.
I've already privately apologized to a few for this thread, now it's time to apologize publicly before it gets locked.
Humming.. "I'm sorry..."  (Thank you Brenda Lee)





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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 9:15:36 AM   
Jeffff


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 9:17:52 AM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		It's a moot point, since she don't know, however some spouses do know on some level, and are ok with it once the discussions been had, but they want to be completely ignorant of their love's choice to fuck around, Like my Daddy for instance, He sometimes gives me permission to be up to what ever my little heart desires that once included giving me permission to have sex with another lady and her mate, if I wished, with trusted people, but he has a rule, do NOT tell me what you and so and so were up to, I don't want to know.


so even if she did know, on some level, calling her up and saying hey I am  so and so, and your husband will be dominating me, is that ok with you,  can't happen, and in my mind is disrespectful of the don't ask don't tell arrangement.

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,and um if ya say the spouse knows,then how bout We all get on the phone and say hello to one another,that's cool too right? ~ jewels

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 9:26:26 AM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		For one, who said he was looking to fuck another, I never saw him say he wanted sex from this female submissive, and two, I think also, you'd be more likely to bring home something nasty and transmittable with hookers. When you're in a personal relationship with someone, you can demand things like STD checks, and get to know them well enough to know their sexual health practices.

A hooker on a corner, isn't going to spend a lot of time with you building a relationship, telling you her sexual history, Providing you with a current and up to date STD check. Time is money for them, and they'd loose out on the sex they could be having, if they spent to much time dithering about with one person, on issues like sexual health.

I'm not advocating cheating, but If someone was going to cheat on me, I'd be more angry and hurt if they went the irresponsible rout, and didn't choose someone he knew was clean and wasn't a sex worker having sex with every tom dick and harry who paid her,  for a living.
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ORIGINAL: Jasmineinbloom

I'm not advocating prostitution, because I feel it exploits already exploited people, but...why don't you fellows who feel compelled to cheat on your spouses go out on a local street corner and purchase your infidelities?

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 9:47:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom

For one, who said he was looking to fuck another, I never saw him say he wanted sex from this female submissive, and two, I think also, you'd be more likely to bring home something nasty and transmittable with hookers. When you're in a personal relationship with someone, you can demand things like STD checks, and get to know them well enough to know their sexual health practices.

A hooker on a corner, isn't going to spend a lot of time with you building a relationship, telling you her sexual history, Providing you with a current and up to date STD check. Time is money for them, and they'd loose out on the sex they could be having, if they spent to much time dithering about with one person, on issues like sexual health.

I'm not advocating cheating, but If someone was going to cheat on me, I'd be more angry and hurt if they went the irresponsible rout, and didn't choose someone he knew was clean and wasn't a sex worker having sex with every tom dick and harry who paid her,  for a living.


The OP's profile mentions looking for a woman who is bisexual as he wants to have a threesome at some stage so I think it is safe to assume he is seeking a sexual relationship.

Also if a person goes to a brothel (at least here in Australia) the workers are tested regularly and condoms have to be worn by clients. 

I also like the irony of the part I have bolded above mentioning getting to know someone well enough.  have you forgotten that the OP is hoping to find someone to have sex with who is not his wife.... how can you trust anything that he would be saying about his sexual history or current sexual behaviours/partners?


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 10:19:14 AM   
Jasmineinbloom


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Status: offline 		I honestly don't believe the OP is seeking to involve himself with someone on a deep enough level to find out anything about them other than if they will allow him to fulfill his bdsm fantasies. I do not feel that prostitutes are an option over cheating, just stating that if a man wishes to cheat, and he will cheat anyway, why emotionally involve another woman? Go to a sex worker who will not demand any attachements. If a person randomly cheats, believe me, he/she has just as much opportunity to contract nasty coochie bugs. If not more. Because they're under the false belief that being married makes you cleaner.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 10:38:17 AM   
domiguy


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Status: offline 		It happens. Girlfriends and wives fall into comas all the time....Do you not watch soaps, they have no axe to grind in this fight?

I wish the op well. If he were a married woman he would be a disgusting whore for such pursuits.

I sleep well knowing these facts.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 10:44:38 AM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		God I hate being called on my judgment of someone who wants to cheat/lie and do harm, even to an old fashioned, ignorant family, with a guy you know is going to get caught. Then to be called the morality police! lol Damn! lol I always claimed to be honorable, ethical and the like but never claimed to be moral! I am an opinionated old bitch! I can live with that. That Lockit is sure a terd for calling it like she sees it and thinking and saying the guy is too stupid to get away with cheating. lol That's a little harder to live with... but oh well. I'm shit! lol

After spending most my life dealing with the effects of liar's/cheater's and people (not just men) who caused harm to their families, I am opinionated. Seeing a child, holding a child who has been broken because mom or dad decided to be a lil frisky just sticks in your memory bank, even mine. Clean up on aisle four isn't so easy when you are talking people's lives. I spent months talking to, befriending and helping the wife of the man who was trying to cheat with me, who had never been married of course and believe me, every night trying to wade through the pain, the dealing with the fact she didn't see it because of the con job and how wonderful he was to her... except when she worked while he played. I guess you could call that my personal problem, but hey, I am human enough to have an attitude about that. Another fault of mine. lol

I feel a similar way about breath play... it touched my life and I have a strong opinion and an attitude about it. I will never be perfect enough to overlook certain things. I have an opinion and as long as I am not being fucked all night and recovering by day... I am free to speak about it. So I will deal with the judgment... after all... I made mine! lol

I still love you all, although we disagree to some degree, on this one!




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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 10:50:28 AM   
Jasmineinbloom


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Status: offline 		If I were married to this guy, he'd be the one falling into a coma after I got done with his ass.


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 11:00:54 AM   
hlen5


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... Other than "cheating".. I'm usually very trustworthy.. if that makes any sense at all.


It doesn't.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 11:19:17 AM   
Jeffff


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 12:27:38 PM   
poise


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Not sure how this developed into discussion of married or not.. that is not the issue..maybe a better question is how to introduce an "old fashioned" woman who thinks anything other than missionary is "dirty and perverted" and get her into the kink I am now into..


It's pretty amazing the power good communication holds in removing inhibitions.
I've not read anywhere in this thread where you mention your attempt to bring
your wife into this lifestyle with you, whether it was through action or conversation.
Think about how you "got into the kink you are now into". Buy some video's.
Buy a book/magazine that mentions this kink you have and leave it lying open somewhere.
(woman are curious! she will read it) Buy some accessories and slowly introduce them into your intimate moments together. If you are truly looking for that happy ending, I hope you invite her into the lifestyle first, before seeking your pleasures elsewhere.
The assumptions you hold about one another put you in little boxes that limit who you can be in each others eyes.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 1:02:51 PM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		I don't care if you have a cock or a vagina; if you lie, cheat and deceive those you promised to be faithful to, don't look for help and/or validation from me. I'd definitely say the same thing to a woman.

We're all entitled to our opinions here and to express them. To call people the "safety police" (in other situations) or the "morality police" (in this situation) negates their opinions without considering the merits of those opinions. (imo)

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 1:41:13 PM   
January


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Hey.. it might end up with a happy ending if I can bring her into this lifestyle..


Good luck with that. Your first choice was to cheat on her. That means you are, at the minimum, selfish and impatient. Neither of these qualities will help you convert a vanilla parter to kink.

Now that you've decided to switch gears from "finding a sub to cheat with" to "changing your wife", maybe you can start a new thread on how to convert vanilla to kink. It's been done a million times. The threads have been started a million times. Successful conversions, not so much.

January

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 2:13:22 PM   
BonesFromAsh


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...the morality police...



Just one question before I accept this assignment...do I get a tazer?  It's not too much to ask...really.

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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 3:12:10 PM   
BDSMPleasures


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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 3:18:07 PM   
January


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something constructive.. wow, thanks


So you're too lazy to look up conversion techniques yourself? There are many threads on the subject. Search them.

You think actually doing those things to turn a vanilla is going to be easier than a search?

Bye,

January



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RE: Challenges in Finding a Submissive Female - 7/14/2010 3:30:22 PM   
laurell3


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

Other than the 3 or 4 women I have whacked with Domiguy, I am usually not a killer.



That's comforting.......................I wonder if I can move in the next day............

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