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Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 10:58:27 AM

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I am a 48 yr old newbie and i have corresponded with a few prospects that seem compatible but there is one guy that seems to be able to push all my buttons with his correspondence and drives me wild with desire and need but he is only 26 yrs old is he too young to be the master of a 48 yr old

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 11:00:42 AM

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Only you can answer that question. For *me* he would be too young, but I am not you!

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 11:01:10 AM

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oh no here we go again...

no, in my opinion he's not too young if you have compatibility and are prepared to deal with age difference issues when they arise. There's going to be a few people behind me saying otherwise though I'm sure. Only you and he know what works for the two of you.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 11:10:37 AM

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Age is only a number.

Are you at a similar level of wisdom and maturity?

Or heck- maybe he's wiser and more mature than you. In that case, I'd definitely tap him... Just sayin'.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 11:39:53 AM

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No. he is not too young.... but I would ask is it primarily sexual? If so then GO FOR IT... sadly one day you will have to get to know each other as people and you will see that the difference in age means he won't get most of the references you make and you might not get many of his.

Realize that his Pop Culture is Saved By the Bell and Back Street Boys.
Yours are Dynasty and how Jefferson Airplane became Jeffeson Starship and then Starship.

There will be things to talk about but there will also be a LOT to explain.

Where's the Beef will not be someting he will get.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 12:00:36 PM

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quote:

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I am a 48 yr old newbie and i have corresponded with a few prospects that seem compatible but there is one guy that seems to be able to push all my buttons with his correspondence and drives me wild with desire and need but he is only 26 yrs old is he too young to be the master of a 48 yr old.

poshlady,

I'm going to answer your question from two perspectives. I believe the issues concerning age are dependent on what you're really seeking. The gentlemen in question is young and if you desire a relationship with him you must be brutally honest and prepared for the reactions you'll receive. I won't sugarcoat it and pretend that will always be positive. I'd definitely figure out where he stands on the subject and what he desires in the long run. Would that entail family or a deeper commitment? Are you willing to entertain those things or are your interests aligned with the physical? Be upfront with one another and you'll alleviate a lot of confusion in between.

Now here's the skinny. I have a child within that age range, although she's a bit younger. We've had this discussion and I've made my preferences known based on what's suitable for her, where she is, and what she can reasonably handle. She's inexperienced so we have to be realistic in our selections. I'd probably come undone. But I'm speaking as a mother in that vain, not a woman expressing tolerance of another person's kink. There's a difference.

I've seen this play out and sometimes the results are good and others downright ugly. I'd definitely pose the question regarding his family and ask how he feels they'd respond. I'd also consider if the assumption is negative if you're comfortable going forward or keeping things undercover instead. Laying things out makes sense and relegates the situation to what's practical versus mentally attractive but impossible to create. Best of luck.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 12:07:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: poshlady

I am a 48 yr old newbie and i have corresponded with a few prospects that seem compatible but there is one guy that seems to be able to push all my buttons with his correspondence and drives me wild with desire and need but he is only 26 yrs old is he too young to be the master of a 48 yr old

Keep the common sense chip in the *on* position in your brain and don't let words sway you too much until you meet face to face. Chemistry online does not always equate to offline chemistry.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 12:23:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan
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Realize that his Pop Culture is Saved By the Bell and Back Street Boys.
Yours are Dynasty and how Jefferson Airplane became Jeffeson Starship and then Starship.

There will be things to talk about but there will also be a LOT to explain.

Where's the Beef will not be something he will get.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 12:43:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming

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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan
<snip>
Realize that his Pop Culture is Saved By the Bell and Back Street Boys.
Yours are Dynasty and how Jefferson Airplane became Jeffeson Starship and then Starship.

There will be things to talk about but there will also be a LOT to explain.

Where's the Beef will not be something he will get.

QSM

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Me: Welcome Back Kotter

My kids: Saved By The Bell

I'm an Odd Duck.... I fall in the degree that I LIKE pop culture. I tend to have a BASIC understanding of the 60's to Today. I may not have been alive when Haight-Ashbury was on the tongues of a movement.... but I understand what it was about.

I LOVED Welcome Back Kotter and I remember watching the Saturday Morning Cartoon Line up that Saves By The Bell was originally aired on... I also remember Shake Rattle and Roll.

I also get it when someone say "Good Night John-Boy" I know what Vita veta vegamin was Mocking and I even know the actual commercials that weren't jokes.

I LOVE Jack Benny, and Benny Hill.

I am Ageless in that respect.

Truth of the matter is I am 6 years older than my partner and most of the things I watched growing up.... she has never seen.

For the 80's freaks out there Small Wonder, My Stepdad's an Alien, My Two Dads, Webster, Punky Bruster, and Smurfs are all corber stones in the corners of my mind.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 12:47:33 PM

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No one can possibly answer that question but you, and after you spend time with him in person. We can all give our judgments, but in the end, is the connection you feel with him a great one? Can he actually Dom you in a very successful, pleasurable way? Do you have compatible desires and goals with this involvement?

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 1:28:17 PM

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Yep, he's too young for you...! You asking suggests you already know it, too.

"Correspondence" sounds like you've never met r/l and no matter how well he can push your buttons on screen, you (and I) just know you're gonna have problems taking direction from someone young enough to be your son.

And have you asked why a 26yo is chasing a sub old enough to be his mum?

Errrm, welcome to the Forums, btw. :)

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 1:53:41 PM

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if you ring each others bell and it works forget about age - go for it, have fun and enjoy each other.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 2:13:32 PM

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quote:

And have you asked why a 26yo is chasing a sub old enough to be his mum?

Because 20 goes into 40 a lot more times than 40 goes into 20? LOL Just kidding.

Personally I draw the line at 10 years younger. But that's just me. I once dated a guy that was more than 10 years younger and he was just too much effort to train. ;) As others have said, its up to you. If you feel comfortable with it, go for it. If not then don't. There may be comments or questions, but its up to you if you feel you can handle them.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 2:32:20 PM

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And have you asked why a 26yo is chasing a sub old enough to be his mum?

There's a hidden tenderness in his words. I feel it. I'm a believer.

Everyone is getting a p.y.t. Maybe I need to join the bandwagon.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 2:52:32 PM

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well when I was twenty I doubt I dated a woman who was less that 15 years older than me for the better part of 5 years. From 20 to 25 I pretty much dated only women who were older.....

We had more to talk about.

They weren't on cell phones. They weren't talking about their nails, they weren't cancelling dates to hang out with girlfriends, they weren't freaked out when I told them I was Kinky, they enjoyed my youth, sexually, physically, and Mentally, they liked that I was interested in their stories about what they had gone through, I appreciated their sexuality and their ability to act on it.

I appreciated their patience, and their ability to be spontaneous. I appreciated that they new things sexually about themselves that younger women just don't. I also appreciated that when it came to kink they were pretty sure what they wanted and had lived long enough to know things change and so rarely if ever did they say "Never"

I appreciate the fact that they simply KNOW more, and about things that aren't education based.... they know good restraunts, and little places I had passed by over and over and over again and because they had been around they had been IN them.

Not everyone was this way, but more offten then not this was the truth for me.

Oddly enough I married a woman 6 years younger than me.... odd how things work.

I rarely have anything in common with people my own age. All that said. NO ONE IS TOO OLD FOR ANYONE. (Unless they are a Pedophile and you are a Minor) All that being said if he Makes you happy and you have thought through the fact that as you Hit 50 he hits 30 and that 20 year age gap is going to make a SERIOUS difference unless there is REAL LOVE there.

So if your interest is all because it makes your Pussy wet and his Dick Hard.... call it what it is... Horny Prime Hook-up... but don't put yourself or him in a position when in a few years you wonder about actual connection once the Hot Fucky Fucky stops.

Just don't be stupid.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 3:34:05 PM

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ORIGINAL: poshlady

I am a 48 yr old newbie and i have corresponded with a few prospects that seem compatible but there is one guy that seems to be able to push all my buttons with his correspondence and drives me wild with desire and need but he is only 26 yrs old is he too young to be the master of a 48 yr old

Have you spoken of things other than him being your master and you being his slave? It can get very exciting to the point of excluding all other talk when the chemistry is on high, but sometimes you have to take a step back and ask yourself "Would I enjoy this person's company if we were in no way compatible sexually?" If the answer is no, then there is a problem.

I place less of a value on age than others. I have friends in their twenties, thirties, forties, and fifties, and the age difference does not prevent us from relating to each other. I find that attitudes towards life matters more than age or even sharing common interests. As time passes and I meet more people, being able to carry on a fun conversation has become one of my must-haves in a mate.

That being said, I was once ditched by a date because I didn't remember events of the Reagan administration, mostly due to not being born yet. Oh well...

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ORIGINAL: AQuietSimpleMan

Realize that his Pop Culture is Saved By the Bell and Back Street Boys.

If he's 26 and listened to the Back Street Boys as a teen, the OP may have bigger problems. Namely that she's talking to a girl.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 3:36:03 PM

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For me it would be.

for you? I have no idea. Is he?

Only you can answer that.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 3:44:12 PM

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Not necessarily. He might be just right (for you). How do you feel about having a dominant that is 20 yrs younger?

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 3:45:23 PM

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Realize that his Pop Culture is Saved By the Bell and Back Street Boys.

If he's 26 and listened to the Back Street Boys as a teen, the OP may have bigger problems. Namely that she's talking to a girl.

How could you NOT listen to the Back Street Boys and still listen to the radio in 1998?

Just curious... I even liked one of their songs... It was called "The Call". About the Guys who Cheat on their partners.... It was..... Catchy....

But then again we all know I'm a Girl.

So whatever,

The Point is Pop Culuture is often not something that the Age Gap can Span. I admit to wanting to know what was Popular during any time line it's like crack to me...

Anyway, I think this could be an EXCELLENT SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP. I do not know what kind of longevity it could have once the excitment of banging a hard body wears off. Then you are left with two people who only have who they are to fall back on.

Just my Pennies on this.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 3:57:45 PM

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I am a 48 yr old newbie and i have corresponded with a few prospects that seem compatible but there is one guy that seems to be able to push all my buttons with his correspondence and drives me wild with desire and need but he is only 26 yrs old is he too young to be the master of a 48 yr old

In general, no—and I speak from my own experience from when I was quite dominant in my mid-twenties. Ultimately, if both parties find interest and suitability in each other, the numerical age difference shouldn't hinder a D/s relationship—sexually charged or otherwise. In fact, such a contrast brings about vibrant and particular psychological pleasures; it's interesting mentally dominating and belting someone over your knee who is old enough to be your parent.

I will insert a word of caution, however: given your age difference, it's likely that eventually his interests will turn to younger females as time moves on. 48 is not old enough to be undesirable, of course, but much can change in the course of five or ten years. An older female/younger male relationship can be tremendously fun and rewarding, so long as you keep things in perspective and prepare emotionally for the inevitable divergence. Retain a sense of reality about this—especially when you submit to one so young who will be your Master. I'm not certain how you use that word, but I know in my world that term is reserved for one to whom you give all—physically and emotionally.

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