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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 8:29:56 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		I am dating a guy 9 years younger than me.  He had to do a lot of work to talk me into the entire dating thing, because I was uncomfortable with the thought of it.  We have a lot of fun together.  He pays more attention to me than any other guy I have dated in the past.  He is attentive to a flattering degree.  He definitely sees me as younger than my years and it makes me feel good.  We have our differences, but who doesn't.  

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 8:34:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		Go you, katy!

Mostly younger dudes ask me out... partially because I am around a lot of younger men, but I have this mental block to that idea...



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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 8:38:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Julia, lift that mental block. Join the dark side with me and Katy.

We are just vile cougars. Everyone says so!

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 8:41:50 PM   
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Julia, lift that mental block. Join the dark side with me and Katy.

We are just vile cougars. Everyone says so!


This is my personal issue, but it squicks me out. anyone younger than maybe 38 I want nothing to do with. It is a turn off for me. That mental block is firmly entrenched.... I'd sooner eat poo....lol. It is that much of a limit....lol

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 8:43:02 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Sometimes going all cougar can be a blast.  Who knew?  It probably helps if the guy finds older women attractive, and some actually do.  

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 8:44:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, they certainly do. I would say 99% of all guys who ask me out are younger.

Unless it's something in the water?

I am cougar, hear me roar. :)

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 8:45:01 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		Julia, speaking as an old chick, I can tell you that the numbers get more difficult as you age, as far as the available pool of men from whom you can choose.  I never, ever thought I would find myself dating a guy 9 years younger, I have always preferred older guys.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 8:51:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		I know the demographics... and perhaps in a few years it won't feel that way to me

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/13/2010 9:54:52 PM   
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It really isn't "socitety", I worry about being unfair to the younger man. I am NOT a breeder, not interested in adopting, and have a future as caregiver to three older family members... that's a lot to put on someone twenty years younger than me. Yes, those same things would be in place for someone older, but I think to myself, wow, what if I had today's life twenty years ago?


LadyHibiscus,

I don't think your assertions are odd. I feel the same. And for what it's worth my father echoed similar sentiments to me about older men when I was eighteen. I'll admit that I've been approached a lot by younger men. But I have my limits. It would be hypocritical of me to cavort with a man my daughter's age when I'd have issues with her doing the reverse. Plus I don't think I'm that patient. I look at it from the fairness perspective and right now I can't say I'd move in either direction. That's a lot. And in some respects I'm selfish. I don't want the responsibilities with the older person or the learning curve with the younger. But maybe that will change. Who knows.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 12:10:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		I dont think someone 10 years either way is a thing. Not a cougar at all. 10 years either way is no biggie. I know some happily married folks with this degree of age diff and it doesnt look or seem wrong at all to me.

Like most folks I think it is up to you. If ya both want each other and feel you can handle the age difference go for it!

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 5:55:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Sometimes going all cougar can be a blast.  Who knew?  It probably helps if the guy finds older women attractive, and some actually do.  


They find it attractive that you can buy them beer.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 6:05:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		if they are 20 like me, then i would agree domi( btw, you have a shout-out on the race thread in poli/relig). but anyway, 9 years isnt that big of a difference. while i'm not in a position to date younger men, from what i've seen, it is often a huge benifit for the younger men because they grow up a bit. and thats always a good thing.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 6:12:16 AM   
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if they are 20 like me, then i would agree domi( btw, you have a shout-out on the race thread in poli/relig).


Thanks!! I never let an opportunity pass buy to call black folks colored. "Those kind of people" really eat that shit up.

Are you still getting married? It would be nice for you to come to Chicago and visit some relatives and maybe I could tap dat shit while you are up here.

What's thirty years? Just call me Thommy J. Sally, role playing is hot!!!

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 6:16:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Married? nope. i was only thinking about it. and i doubt you have the proper skills to tap it lol.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 4:07:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I am dating a guy 9 years younger than me.  He had to do a lot of work to talk me into the entire dating thing, because I was uncomfortable with the thought of it.  We have a lot of fun together.  ...We have our differences, but who doesn't.  


Same here. He is nine years younger, and we're having a ball.

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 4:32:26 PM   
pyroaquatic


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Status: offline 		Well lady of posh...

you have you answers and the decision is yours.

Personally I am tired of being scraped off for 'being so young' and supposedly inexperienced in all walks of life.

More like a crawl craving rugburns but heY!

Us young people like to get freaky, naughty and warped with a side of twisted bending. Plus I heard we rebound like rubber sponges.

Most of the time I listen to classical music which is way past anyone's time. Good Jazz, folk, and funk and other awkward little bands (*cough SEATBELTS) that I do not care to categorize. I'm not sure how my music is lame seeing how the elements are the same.

If your BoyMAN thing presses your buttons that is because you want him to. Somewhere in that brain wants a hot young stud(ette) and damn it you can have it. With or without chocolate syrup. Perhaps if he was cognizant and wizened like an old fart like me (such an old soul i have been told. HOW CAN A SOUL HAVE AN AGE?! PLEASE EXPLAIN.)

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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 4:38:44 PM   
pyroaquatic


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ORIGINAL: domiguy


quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

Sometimes going all cougar can be a blast.  Who knew?  It probably helps if the guy finds older women attractive, and some actually do.  


They find it attractive that you can buy them beer.


I find it attractive if she is attracted. Poison down a different throat please thank you. Domiprick.... it keeps me searching for a heart of gold (but i am getting old.)


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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 5:32:42 PM   
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Realize that his Pop Culture is Saved By the Bell and Back Street Boys.


OMG!  What a sorry pop culture to have to fall back on!  That just SUCKS!

I'm with the "He's too young" crowd.  However, he's not 18 or 19 or under 25, so I don't feel as strongly about the deal.  But for me, I would be very uncomfortable in that situation.  I mean, how do you introduce him to your kids?  I couldn't go there.  Besides, I've found that men that age just seem like kids to me.  They'll all say they're not, but to me, they are, especially if their age is that close to the age of my own kids. 


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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 5:35:22 PM   
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I dont think someone 10 years either way is a thing. Not a cougar at all. 10 years either way is no biggie.


Yeah, I'm in this school of thought, though, for me, I still don't want anyone younger than me.  But that's just me.  There is a pretty hot little 42 yr old on here I wouldn't mind having a talk with.  I'm blushing just thinking about it!


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RE: Is he too young for me ? - 7/14/2010 6:09:33 PM   
pyroaquatic


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Status: offline 		Darling Darling,
have some cookies or strange candy.

There are some exceptions Savage Darling. There are always exceptions.
Wait...

Except exceptions. wait... what?

There are always exceptions, except that. I've had far to much sun today.

For example, out of all of my peers not one can tell me they have heard of throatsinging let alone perform it. A sad disconnect.

If I hate my peers for how immature and unwise they are where does this leave me? I want nothing to do with that idiotic lot. Of course there ARE exceptions but I am not expecting there to be exceptions.

I expect nothing and thus I shall be surprised and revived.

thank you for the thought nuggets regardless

Good night..zzzzzzzzz


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