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Amidst the turmoil and criticism of CM and the changes that have occurred to the lifestyle in general, and because this issue seems to be seeping into many other threads, I thought I would bring it together in one place.
It has been said that CM has changed, even "ruined" and there have been many comments that CM has become more mainstream and less tolerant of the more experienced couples/individuals.
I'm not going to say that it's been "ruined". I am going to say that as time has gone by, there are fewer participants who lean more towards the outer edges. A few categories for this come to mind and please excuse the terms that I'm going to use here. I'm not trying to be offensive, I just am attempting to convey My thoughts.
There are fewer extreme sadists and masochists, especially those into hardcore play. It's My impression that there are fewer strict M/s dynamic participants. I could probably count the leather folks who still participate on these boards on both hands and have fingers left over. Being on My side of the fence, yes, people in these categories had issues here. In fairness, My basis for this comes not just from the boards, but from discussing this with some away from the computer screen.
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I'd like to ask all of you, what is CM to you?
To be fair, that changes from day to day. It's rare that anything is ever one thing to Me. It can be a learning opportunity, a teaching opportunity, a networking site, a place to meet friends, a place to joke around, a place for good discussion, or entertainment. It really depends on what I find here each day.
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Do you think it has changed?
Yes, I do.
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It that change for the better or worse?
Some of both. I'm not going to say that I'm happy that there are fewer people (in My opinion) with lifestyle experience on the forums. That's where the meat of this place is for Me. I'm not going to identify with those who have questions about wiitwd that are at the beginner level or could have been answered by reading a copy of "SM101". I like helping out at times but I think people need to have more than one method for their answers.
As far as better, I think most people like the new moderation "better" than it was before. I do wonder if the pendulum has swung too far the other way. I've covered that subject in other places.
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What would you like to see differently?
I'd like to see a little more politeness come back. That's not something that the site, nor I, can control.
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What do YOU do to resolve conflicts and make CM a place for the accepting and open exchange of ideas for everyone?
I'll admit. This isn't always My strong suit. A lot of this can depend on how it's framed. If we get posts in the Mistress section of "who likes to screw subs up the ass", that's not going to go over really well with Me. I don't really think antagonists and drive by fantasists add value to the site. Somebody who signs up the first day, found it's not a wankfest, and leaves doesn't matter to Me.
Personal conflicts? I've had My share of those, too. There are probably five people on the site that I absolutely can't stand and would change munch groups if I saw them there in real life. Which, is ok. I'm sure there are people out there who can't stand the sight of Me, either. More and more, I just skip what they have to say here and keep them blocked in private mail.
Most of it though, I hope I navigate well enough. I've been known to apologize when I've been wrong or try more than once to convey My opinion. More often than not, it ends on a good note.
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