laurell3
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Amidst the turmoil and criticism of CM and the changes that have occurred to the lifestyle in general, and because this issue seems to be seeping into many other threads, I thought I would bring it together in one place.
It has been said that CM has changed, even "ruined" and there have been many comments that CM has become more mainstream and less tolerant of the more experienced couples/individuals.
I'm not going to say that it's been "ruined". I am going to say that as time has gone by, there are fewer participants who lean more towards the outer edges. A few categories for this come to mind and please excuse the terms that I'm going to use here. I'm not trying to be offensive, I just am attempting to convey My thoughts.
Yeah, no problem that is actually one of the purposes of the thread. What do you think CM as an orginazation can do to adddress that?
There are fewer extreme sadists and masochists, especially those into hardcore play. It's My impression that there are fewer strict M/s dynamic participants. I could probably count the leather folks who still participate on these boards on both hands and have fingers left over. Being on My side of the fence, yes, people in these categories had issues here. In fairness, My basis for this comes not just from the boards, but from discussing this with some away from the computer screen.
I agree. I don't however know, how much of that has to do with ego and how much has to do with CM. Please don't take offense, but being controlled isn't really the majority of hardcore players viewpoint of acceptable. Although, I do agree, that I personally note their absences as well as I have been rather vocal at proclaiming on other sites.
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I'd like to ask all of you, what is CM to you?
To be fair, that changes from day to day. It's rare that anything is ever one thing to Me. It can be a learning opportunity, a teaching opportunity, a networking site, a place to meet friends, a place to joke around, a place for good discussion, or entertainment. It really depends on what I find here each day.
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Do you think it has changed?
Yes, I do.
I also agree with this.
quote]It that change for the better or worse?
Some of both. I'm not going to say that I'm happy that there are fewer people (in My opinion) with lifestyle experience on the forums. That's where the meat of this place is for Me. I'm not going to identify with those who have questions about wiitwd that are at the beginner level or could have been answered by reading a copy of "SM101". I like helping out at times but I think people need to have more than one method for their answers.
As far as better, I think most people like the new moderation "better" than it was before. I do wonder if the pendulum has swung too far the other way. I've covered that subject in other places.
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What would you like to see differently?
I'd like to see a little more politeness come back. That's not something that the site, nor I, can control.
I agree there are fewer people on the boards that have SUBSTANTIAL lifestyle experience, but not necessarily experience in general. I know LP that you are committed to educating. I for one can tell you that the majority of the "educating" that I got online and felt was competent and rational came at the written word of you or KoM, please don't change that despite frustations you may have.quote:
What do YOU do to resolve conflicts and make CM a place for the accepting and open exchange of ideas for everyone?
I'll admit. This isn't always My strong suit. A lot of this can depend on how it's framed. If we get posts in the Mistress section of "who likes to screw subs up the ass", that's not going to go over really well with Me. I don't really think antagonists and drive by fantasists add value to the site. Somebody who signs up the first day, found it's not a wankfest, and leaves doesn't matter to Me.
I agree with this as well, I do believe that the number of posters that come here just to stir shit and claim all as "abusive" has risen and pushed people away.
Please forgive my errors, it's late and I cannot see the "color" quotes to fix them...I think you get the point
< Message edited by laurell3 -- 7/22/2010 8:33:21 PM >
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