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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Hello Iron Bear,
Your point, as well as Focus' are on target.  However, I disagree with you about the fellow in the OP.  The issue isn't whether or not ED is involved.  To *me* the issue is that she wants to be touched, and he's not touching her.  It's a nonsexual touching she's talking about from a later post. 

I've dated a wonderful man with ED.  Great guy, great lover even.  He loved touching me.  All the time.  I loved it too.  The ED was not an issue because, like you, he discussed it with me pretty much from the very beginning.  If it *is* an issue for the fellow, his *not* discussing it when she clearly wants more (and hopefully has voiced that - but really who knows?) is a sign that there is something else missing.  He would need to manage his own issues around this.  A man who really wants to be with a woman will bite the bullet and deal with the issues. 

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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Never ask others why a man won't do something. Ask him point blank.

Men do whatever they want, when they want, how they want when it comes to sex and touching.

If there is a medical reason (which I did not even consider since the OP mentioned non sexual cuddling) then that is another thing to discuss.

But in general in my experience, if a man wants you, he will crawl through broken glass to touch you.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Never ask others why a man won't do something. Ask him point blank.

Men do whatever they want, when they want, how they want when it comes to sex and touching.

If there is a medical reason (which I did not even consider since the OP mentioned non sexual cuddling) then that is another thing to discuss.

But in general in my experience, if a man wants you, he will crawl through broken glass to touch you.

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ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

I vote with Animus on this one. Too many of us - and I include myself in this - have made the mistake of seeing the red flag, but instead of it meaning STOP, like our gut tells us to do, we have some wiring that instead says "What's the problem and how can I fix it?"

As Animus says, this is not your problem and you cannot fix it. What his behavior is telling you is that he is physically and emotionally unavailable. This red flag means STOP.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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But in general in my experience, if a man wants you, he will crawl through broken glass to touch you.

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

Ideas like this are like the school of thought that "If he only loved me more, he would do x". Having unrealistic expectations of men, doesn't make them different than they are. It makes you miserable. I have no expectation of anyone ever crawling through broken glass to touch me, why would that EVER make sense?

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ORIGINAL: laurell3


Ideas like this are like the school of thought that "If he only loved me more, he would do x". Having unrealistic expectations of men, doesn't make them different than they are. It makes you miserable.

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I have no expectation of anyone ever crawling through broken glass to touch me, why would that EVER make sense?

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
But in general in my experience, if a man wants you, he will crawl through broken glass to touch you.

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ORIGINAL: Zevar

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
But in general in my experience, if a man wants you, he will crawl through broken glass to touch you.

For myself, I would and did face the fiercest of adversarial conditions in order to simply touch the lady I desired. This remains true for myself. What is the one you desire not worth fighting through? The following song that was significant between myself and my beloved companion comes to mind. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z0WDS-EQoIM

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ORIGINAL: domiguy


Is it really sharp glass or maybe kind of rounded off from years in the ocean?