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southernsultry -> Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 10:51:36 AM)
If your Master only wants to touch your face, view your eyes, tell you how lovely you are but won't touch you....at all...what gives? I know he loves me--but am I'm a glass house? Thanks:)

LadyPact -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 10:53:47 AM)
From which angle? Do you mean he won't beat you? Won't have sex with you? Won't hold your hand or embrace you? If you give Me a little more to go on, it might help in answering the question.

DarkSteven -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 11:02:07 AM)
You want him to touch you and he won't. Have you discussed this? Has he given a reason?

texangael -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 11:02:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernsultry If your Master only wants to touch your face, view your eyes, tell you how lovely you are but won't touch you....at all...what gives? I know he loves me--but am I'm a glass house? Thanks:) What gives is he does not desire to touch you. Why that might be is a question only he can answer. Anyone else would only be guessing.

southernsultry -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 11:04:56 AM)
quote: From which angle? Do you mean he won't beat you? Won't have sex with you? Won't hold your hand or embrace you? quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact From which angle? Do you mean he won't beat you? Won't have sex with you? Won't hold your hand or embrace you? If you give Me a little more to go on, it might help in answering the question. Embracing, holding. That's all.

southernsultry -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 11:06:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven You want him to touch you and he won't. Have you discussed this? Has he given a reason? He isn't my "Dom" but wants to be---I have discussed this with him and and he says he "processing" it all so to speak.

angelikaJ -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 11:08:24 AM)
1) Is your Master married?

texangael -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 11:09:36 AM)
quote: He isn't my "Dom" but wants to be---I have discussed this with him and and he says he "processing" it all so to speak. It is quite possible you are ready for more "touching" at this stage than he is. Everyone lives at their own pace. Perhaps in this moment yours is faster than his.

southernsultry -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 11:10:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ 1) Is your Master married? No, not married.

Chrisincuffs -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 11:19:38 AM)
I'm wondering if maybe he's doing this because he knows how badly you want him to and is showing his Dominance by not giving into your wishes at this time. If that is the case, I guess try laying off the subject and see if he comes around

angelikaJ -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 11:51:18 AM)
There is so little information to go on: How new is the relationship? Has he been a Master before? Have you been a submissive before? He says he is processing it all... if you are unsure as to what he means by that, have you asked him? If there is information that I want my Master to know, I will tell him in a clear manner. Likewise, if he wants to know things, he will ask me. If I have a question, I will ask him and if I need clarification afterwards, I will tell him that as well.

markbugger -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 1:31:13 PM)
DUMP HIM!

texangael -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 1:33:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: markbugger DUMP HIM! <sarcasm> Now THAT'S helpful! </sarcasm>

Focus50 -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 2:06:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact From which angle? Do you mean he won't beat you? Won't have sex with you? Won't hold your hand or embrace you? If you give Me a little more to go on, it might help in answering the question. Opening words from the OP: "If your Master only wants to touch your face..." You're not slipping a little, LP? :) I mean, most vanilla relationships (maybe all) have got more intimate kink going on than face touching. lol OP, men are typically visual and "hands-on" creatures within their intimate relationships and one possibility why yours isn't may be physical or medical. If the male "equipment" isn't working as it should, it can trigger overwhelming feelings of inadequacy. This can make for one very conflicted man, which can manifest as a "window-shopping" relationship rather than moving to the next logical steps, such as intimacy. I had an "equipment" injury that took several years to get past and it was rather odd that the only inadequacy I felt was when I got close to a woman. Alone, I was mostly fine and I wouldn't go socialising etc but as soon as someone picqued an interest anyway, I'd stall at "window-shopping". I'd want to move forward but the more I dwelled on the catastrophic possibility of failure in the sack (which equals failing as a man), the more inviting just being alone became. Therein lies the conflict - relationship failure as a man vs being a "normal" single fella who's merely lonely. Loneliness can be a withering cancer for many but there are worse things for men who can't be a man where it matters. And being a man first is even more primal than exercising one's dominance needs. I very much doubt this is some dom teasing thing.... Like a good drug pusher, Doms tend not to do denial until after you've been given a taste of the good stuff. Denial just doesn't work as a sadistical tease or torture for a Dom until the sub knows what she's being denied of. OP, I think your Dom owes you some heart to heart honesty no matter what he's got going on. "Stalled" equates to conflicted.... Focus.

southernsultry -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 2:16:02 PM)
Focus...I agree. I tend to find men like this...or maybe I'm overlooking the "real ones?" Dunno. Shrugs. Thanks for the advice everyone:)

Aileen1968 -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 2:32:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernsultry If your Master only wants to touch your face, view your eyes, tell you how lovely you are but won't touch you....at all...what gives? I know he loves me--but am I'm a glass house? Thanks:) If you can live without physical contact then stay with him. If you can't then leave. His inability or choice to not touch you has nothing to do with being dominant. To me, it's more of a personality type. Some people are just not touchy feely. As for "processing" from him...what is there to process? It's not rocket science. He either wants to touch you or doesn't.

TreasureKY -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 2:43:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernsultry Focus...I agree. I tend to find men like this...or maybe I'm overlooking the "real ones?" It has nothing to do with being "real"... it has everything to do with age and health and mindset. The sad thing is, it's not likely to change without some serious effort on his part. The hard part is, you're going to have to battle feeling responsible.

ShoreBound149 -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 3:14:54 PM)
Open sores? Persistent rash? Rolls of lard? Noticeable pussing?

laurell3 -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 4:35:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: southernsultry quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven You want him to touch you and he won't. Have you discussed this? Has he given a reason? He isn't my "Dom" but wants to be---I have discussed this with him and and he says he "processing" it all so to speak. I think it's funny everyone came up with so many conclusions with NO information. How long has this been going on? How long have you known him? How many times have you seen him in person? What has he said about WHY he is processing it all? Did you ask? Did you tell him what your expectations where of a relationship?

DarkSteven -> RE: Hi...if Master won't touch you? (7/30/2010 4:36:45 PM)
southern, at this stage he's still courting you, and being as agreeable as he's going to get. I'd reconsider whether you'd want to be with him, if such an issue seems intractable at this point.

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