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RE: How did you meet? - 4/22/2006 9:19:37 PM   
cuddleheart50


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I've met two Doms here on Collarme.

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/22/2006 9:34:06 PM   
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This is our story.
 
Phoenix and I meet in Gorean role-play and became friends. I often found myself slipping into his IM laying my head on his lap sometimes we would talk about our days, other times he would simply run his hand through my hair, other times we would be simply play poker together.
Over time we began turning to each other more and more. He was  involved in another relationship at the time but we saw our friendship growing daily. In time Phoenix became my best friend, my closest confidant and I was his.
 
There came a point the real time reationship he was in ended and I found myself batteling within myself. I found myself in love with my best  friend aching to be owned and Mastered by him. In time I found myself begging his collar.
I was so suprised when he put his collar on me, I was so proud to be his. Then before I knew it my world was turned upside down. The man I loved was battling with self doubt and the need for closure  with his previous relationship. The day he took his collar off me I cried for hours but I knew he needed this for himself and for us, even if we were only meant to be friends.
 
During the following days and weeks, we both cried. We both were so scared of hurting, hurting ourselves or someone else.My worse fear though was that I would loose my best friend. Several weeks passed and he told me he would be making the trip to Maryland with me and my kids.
 
I had my doubts, would he really fly from NewYork to California to simply get on a train the next day with me and the kids, a woman he had released a woman who had cried so many tears because of indescision. Would he really show up?
 
Decemeber 1, 2005 I found myself at the Modesto airport at 1 am melting into his arms. That moment I knew, I knew I loved him and wanted to try and fix us. We spent that night in each others arms and the next 5 days on  train with 2 kids. I remember the snow ball fights and the nights he would complain about not being able to get comfy. I remember seeing that look in his eyes.
 
*blushes*
 
He was amazing. It felt so right, so natural. He stayed several day with us in Maryland. I hated it when he had to go back to NewYork, to settle work and other things.
 
January 15, 2005 was the begining of the rest of our lives. Phoenix made the biggest move of his life and moved to a strange State, away from his job, his family, and his friends simply because he wanted me as his girl.
 
July 18,after our kids went to bed my Master and I were curled up in bed watching Van Helsing. I give it thumbs up by the way!  And I looked over and I relized something, I was next to the man i wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Not because he's my Master, or because he makes me laugh, or because we have a perfect relationship, but because he is become part of my family, the head of our family. Because with all our inperfections as man / woman, Master / slave and even friends at times we work through it, we grow stronger, I am better person because of it all good and bad.
I found myself asking my Master to marry me. I was never one for tradition.
 
*laughs*
 
 He told me to get to my knees, patted the floor beside our bed. I got this chill over me, much like when I begged his collar. He put his hands on my cheeks and said yes. I told him not to tease me.
 
Our wedding is tenatively set for September 21, 2006.
 
 
Nika{Phoenix}
 


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RE: How did you meet? - 4/22/2006 9:37:34 PM   
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hmmm well i met my current Mistrees slash Wife  online in chat. we im'd a lot became friend even as i was coming under consideration of another, and despite her wishing to do much the same, she was responsable, and respectfull enough to back off for that time. though  we continued speakign as friends and growing closer, she even became a friend of the then Mistress,.. came to visit all of us for a few days.. unfortunitly the timing in a way sucked for an overly enjoyable visit on my part as the day she came i was relased.. all the same for us as a couple it became a begingin rl meeting and her being there to help me through the release.... it took a while longer till i was ready to try again yet when i was she was there, patiantly waiting  for me to approach.( she had already more then once said she would take me at any time, all i had to do was let her know i wanted it.)  ... a few more months later we met again, got to know each other better.. and then again together for nearly a month when she put me under a traning collar. .. those early days were h ard, the distance between us limiting visits, till i moved to be with Her.. and  in the end , my origional relase turne dout to be the best even in my life,..  of course now were lookign to add some to our household.. 

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/22/2006 9:50:43 PM   
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I met him here. He had written an amazing fantasy in response to some post on the boards. I do not remember if I told him in a private message or on the board,but the fantasy he had written had intrigued me. Shortly after that he approached, we chatted, and ta da...I am now the quite happy and proud owner of Delight Machine, who continues to delight on a regular basis.

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/22/2006 10:17:57 PM   
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I met my owner on eBay. Yes, really. He and I were bidding against each other on the same flogger and apparently I was annoying him my outbidding him over and over. eBay used to have a policy where anyone could request the personal details of any other user, however, when someone requested personal info, they returned the favor by sending you their personal info via e-mail in return.

He was new to eBay and being curious as to who was outbidding him, stumbled on the "request info" button and eBay obligingly e-mail him my real name, real address, real phone number, etc. They then sent me an e-mail with all of brief note saying he had requested my info and then obligingly gave me his personal info.

I had had a very harrowing experience six months prior to that (no need for details) so was a bit paranoid at the time. I immediately e-mailed him and basically called him a degenerate stalker. I was appalled to have learned via the kind folks at eBay that this man lived only two hours from me and was within easy driving distance if he really were a degenerate stalker.

To make a long story short, he won the flogger, we continued to exchange e-mails and began talking on the phone.  Two months later used the flogger on me. That was eight years ago this month. I guess in this case, he really did get me on eBay.

P.S.: I think eBay only gives out personal info now between a buyer and seller and not quite as freely as they used to. I really should have sent them a thank you note for their horribly lax privacy policies at the time.




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RE: How did you meet? - 4/23/2006 3:59:36 AM   
ExistentialSteel


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I find online meetings to be an important way to get to know someone. It is my giant sifter even if I’m not sifting these days. I get a good feel for someone online. Intelligence, humor and values surface after a while.
 
I met CE on AOL in the Southern Subs chat room. I saw that she was from Georgia, too, and said hi. From there it became funny because as we narrowed down the locations, we found that we lived a few miles apart. We exchanged pics early on and met after about a week of chatting and phone calls.
 
The first meeting brings up points that were discussed on the vanilla sex thread. I drove to her house to meet her, talk live and so on without any agreement that we would play. As things turned out, we ended up having sex and even though I had no toys and hadn’t really discussed any BDSM preferences with her. During the sexual play, I ended up spanking her a bit and using my belt on her lightly. I mean, it just comes out like that at times when I’m trying to be so good.

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/23/2006 4:08:23 AM   
Dustyn


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I bought a pack of smokes and gas for the mower... she took my money and asked me if she had a 'pooch'... I never do things the right way around...

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/23/2006 6:17:21 AM   
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Thorns and i met in a Yahoo chat room called:  Bondage A Go-Go:1  over five years ago.

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/24/2006 11:52:41 AM   
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I found my submissive and wife (jill) on-line... or actually, she found me. We were both using the l a v a life site at the time because they had an option to check off in their "Intimate Encounters" section for D/s. she was living about 100 miles away from me at the time, and was outside the range I was searching for someone in. Luckily, she was searching out further since there were not many prospects near where she was. she had not even put in a profile on that part of the site when she came across mine there. she wanted to send me a smile, and had to put in a profile before she could. Luckily for us both, she decided to take the chance and send that smile to me just over 4 years ago. Today we are very happily married for over 3 years, and have a 27 month old daughter. The Internet makes the world a much smaller place, and for us, it brought the chance to meet to person we were really searching for.

Steven--

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/24/2006 12:03:58 PM   
mixielicous


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

I'm curious about how others in the lifestyle have met. Whether it's your partner, Dom, sub, romantic interest, play partners, friends, whatever.
Did you meet online? At a play party? At a dungeon? A munch? Through a dating service?
And... have you noticed any difference in how relationships (regardless of how casual or deep) pan out depending on how you've met?




i met my D online [NEVER thought that would be ME] completely random thru a dating site W/we were both playing on as 'Nillas. Bordem i guess, coz neither of U/us had ever done anything like that. W/we would chat online a bit and then finally met. Luckily for me one night a few months ago He decided to slap me when i dug my nails into Him during sex, and He got a giggle in response. Both had a love for M/s but had not yet divulged this 411. W/we just lucked out i guess.

W/we are completely 100% compatable, and i cannot say today, if meeting online had anything to do with it. still not one fight, still regular sex, and no fade .. you know, THE fade [amazing]

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/24/2006 12:39:15 PM   
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Master met me on CM

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/24/2006 3:09:08 PM   
apb


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I met my first Master and Mistress in real time at the local club.  I only went there because it was the weekend of Hurricane Katrina and the dive trip I was scheduled to take to Ft Lauderdale was cancelled.  A friend of mine invited me to go along and watch her get a flogging ...  I had been to the club before but this time I started to get intrigued and ended up getting involved in the lifestyle thanks to them.

I went to an all-girl's night with that Mistress, which was where I met someone I had heard a lot about but not run across ...  She was (and still is) my first Master's Domme.  She had such presence that I felt myself instantly drawn to her.  That night she took over Domming me once my then Mistress had warmed me up.

The difference in energy was amazing.  I felt sexually aroused in a scene for the first time ever.  I remember her leaning down and whispering "you're such a good little girl" in my ear.  The way she dragged her long red nails up and down my body and led me around the room by my hair was an experience that just lit me up from head to toe (and still does).  There is nothing I like better than to be dragged by my hair to an intense scene with my MissTress.

I consider myself a very lucky little sub as she moved in with me last weekend and we are now full time partners as well as MissTress/sub.  The last 8 months have been an incredible learning experience for me.  I have always been attracted to strong personality types, but I have discovered that the mistake I was making was in getting involved with domineering types rather than a Domme.

Tress and I have a wonderful, sharing relationship.  For the first time in my life I feel like I really have an EQUAL partner.

I love you Tress .... 


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RE: How did you meet? - 4/24/2006 4:20:43 PM   
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I met my daddy at college. He was in a class with my roommate (a class on Milton, I think) and came back with her after class to continue their discussion. I didn't like him at first...he seemed to be insufferably arrogant. He started hanging out with us...first for the campus food, then for our Xbox, then for our company, and then eventually for just mine. It took a long time (over a year) until we finally admitted to being any any kind of recognizable relationship - the fact that we were both with other people only compounded the situation.

But we've been together now for over two years and have been living together since last July, and I truly never thought my life could be like this. It's all so different from what I ever imagined, and so much better. remember the first time he ever whipped me, and I remember thinking, "This is it...this is me. This is what I need." He is a dominant person, not just a Dom, and I've always been submissive in life, but before him I never realized that this could really be my life. And now, it is.

Respectfully,
Avalon

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/24/2006 4:30:41 PM   
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I met my Dom on Literotica when I needed help with a story. We did work on the story for about a day and half and then discovered our mutual interest in BDSM. A year later we are blissfully living together and growing closer everyday.

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/25/2006 4:46:17 AM   
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i don't know if i should be encouraged or depressed more. i have been looking for a Domme for 18 years. Thought it would be easier when the internet really started to take off. i am happy for you all. Just know how lucky you all are.
lauren

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RE: How did you meet? - 4/25/2006 6:48:58 AM   
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quote:

I'm curious about how others in the lifestyle have met. Whether it's your partner, Dom, sub, romantic interest, play partners, friends, whatever.
Did you meet online? At a play party? At a dungeon? A munch? Through a dating service?
And... have you noticed any difference in how relationships (regardless of how casual or deep) pan out depending on how you've met?


Met him online, his IM box appeared.  He found me through collarme.  Nope, i havent a difference. 

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