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New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/8/2010 5:27:20 PM   
SexySea


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Status: offline 		I was wondering if there might be any Dommes here in Calgary that might mentor my very shy friend into becoming a switch or a top?  Her new boyfriend is a bottom and they would like to add kink to their relationship.  Any advice?  Any websites?  Any book reccomendations?  Any RL training available?  I'm trying to get her to start a profile on here so lok for her soon.

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/8/2010 5:37:51 PM   
mstrjx


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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/8/2010 6:05:08 PM   
BonesFromAsh


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Status: offline 		Both the FAQs threads in this forum and at the top of the main message board page offer a link for a website that lists groups/organizations all over the world.

Also, as far as books, if you do a search for "BDSM booklist" (by ResidentSadist) you'll find a wealth of printed information available.

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/8/2010 6:11:41 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		What are we to be punishing men for? For being born? Being men? Not being women? Being different? Being little boys? For the past lovers we had? I'm not sure I get this punishment thing.




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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/8/2010 6:17:33 PM   
BonesFromAsh


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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/8/2010 10:56:53 PM   
Wickad


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I'd suggest the OP's friend start by attending the local munch. They have a yahoo group under albertasocietyforkink - they are the ASK. I'm not sure where they are meeting of late but the organizers are good folks and should be able to point her in the right direction. As for folks who could mentor her ... I guess she'd have to figure out a bit more of what she is about. I can think of a few I would not recommend but naming names on this board would not be allowed - lol - ... and I wouldn't anyway simply due to my own set of personal rules.

Good luck to the OP's friend and maybe the OP might want to tag along and meet some folks as well. BDSM and being a Dominant woman is not simply about punishment.

Wickad

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/9/2010 1:26:34 AM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		Firstly, this is something the lady in question needs to have stirrings within herself that tell her she would like to do this. Otherwise, at best she will become a Service Top under the control of the kinky boyfriend, that may/may not actually satisfy his needs.

Second, it could be the thought of "punishing" her bf that is making her so shy about it! We have other threads arguing the fors and againsts a punishment dynamic, but she might find it easier to think in terms of play. Sounds a whole lot more fun! And if he has submissive or service tendencies as well as kinky bottoming, phrase it in terms of her being able to get him to do what she wants ... that usually sounds really good to the newbie Domme!

Thirdly, there is a wealth of reading material available ... and local folks too. One of the best sites IMO is the Albany power exchange site for eg. Tell her good luck!

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/9/2010 4:32:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

What are we to be punishing men for? For being born? Being men? Not being women? Being different? Being little boys? For the past lovers we had? I'm not sure I get this punishment thing.





Gawd, Lockit. If I ever saw a question that contained its own answer on this forum, this was it. I reckon most of the men, and all of the women, reading this forum, will have shaken their heads at reading that comment.

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/9/2010 5:53:07 AM   
servantforuse


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Status: offline 		I think that sexysea should be doing other things in her life first. Not filing charges on a man that raped her because she met him at a BDSM get together is just the wrong thing to do. She is setting up some other woman to go through what she went through.

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/9/2010 6:55:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ah. Now I've read the OP's profile.

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/10/2010 9:49:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		LOL...Lockit..Men are punished just because! They all have done something wrong sometime!

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/14/2010 4:03:31 PM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		If you truly want to punish a man MARRY him.

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/14/2010 4:15:02 PM   
Lockit


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LOL...Lockit..Men are punished just because! They all have done something wrong sometime!


Okay, okay... I don't mind a lil tiny gold object when he is really sorry for something... lol But you know, I make mistakes and I do things wrong and I wouldn't think that punishing me would do much. I look at what I did and correct it. If I can't see it, I hope someone points it out to me.

Punishment for me is play time and boy oh boy, that boy is in trouble! lol

My job isn't to raise him, but to love him, play with him and make him a bit crazy in a good kind of way. If he really needs a mother, I would gladly send him home to her.


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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/14/2010 4:17:40 PM   
Lockit


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If you truly want to punish a man MARRY him.


You suck! lol Yet I love you anyway!

Now, studies have shown that men do better when married and women don't do as well on the happiness scale. What's that tell ya? You have it backwards my dear.


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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/14/2010 4:24:07 PM   
Lockit


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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

What are we to be punishing men for? For being born? Being men? Not being women? Being different? Being little boys? For the past lovers we had? I'm not sure I get this punishment thing.





Gawd, Lockit. If I ever saw a question that contained its own answer on this forum, this was it. I reckon most of the men, and all of the women, reading this forum, will have shaken their heads at reading that comment.


Oh shush! lol


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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/14/2010 4:56:09 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I'm not sure I get this punishment thing.





Spoilsport.

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/14/2010 5:17:48 PM   
Lockit


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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

I'm not sure I get this punishment thing.



Spoilsport.


Brat... bend over! (You missed the part where I said in play... that boy, oh boy is in trouble!)


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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/14/2010 5:19:54 PM   
Politesub53


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Status: offline 		Hmmm Lockit, so you only play at punishment. This stuff is serious.....lol

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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/14/2010 5:25:49 PM   
Lockit


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Status: offline 		Politesub! Let me make this very clear. Just because you always make me laugh when you have been bad, doesn't mean I still won't beat your ass! I will thank you for the laugh and still tell you to bend over. You aren't getting out of it because you make me laugh!

Just what are you still doing on your feet? Hum? (I even did the eye brow thing, you better listen up buddy.)


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RE: New to the whole world of punishing men - 8/14/2010 5:34:05 PM   
Politesub53


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