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CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Training ?????? (8/27/2010 2:00:16 PM)
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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince
Training ??????????
Where did this term come from? For those that have a fair amount of time in this path we walk..were you ever trained?
Oh yes, I was -absolutely- trained... I started out on the kneeling end of the leash, which is a requirement for lifestyle newcomers when they come into our household, and despite several years on the 'fringes', mostly as a counselor for those who had immersed themselves in BDSM, authority dynamics, and fetish life, I was still far from deep immersion myself.
During my decade in training, I was trained in EVERY aspect of life as a servant in our household, from tea service and proper cleaning techniques to BDSM and body modification activities (including my initial training in temporary and permanent body piercing, strike and cautery branding). I was trained, in protocols, in forms of address, in exotic forms of speech, in languages (I wish I used my French more these days, as it's atrophied from lack of use!), in presentation, in entertainment (dance, card games, music - both instrumental and voice, formal debate, etc.), as well as being schooled in some sexual techniques that I hadn't been exposed to before, and getting some 'correction' in some techniques that had been an unpleasant chore, but which improved once different techniques were applied. I was also taught the basics of running a business, office management, customer service skills, and was encouraged to obtain outside training to further my skills as an arbitrator, esoteric arts practitioner/trainer, and alternative-lifestyle counselor.
Now that I'm on the other end of the leash, I enjoy the process of training ours. How they're trained really depends on why they've come to the Household. If they're coming to serve, then once we've seen how they do the things they're expected to do, we initiate training to help them find more efficient, more effective ways of completing their service. If they've come to entertain, we evaluate their skills and train them in the things that they would both -enjoy- and have the propensity to be skilled at (we also encourage those who are NOT being formally trained in a skill to 'audit' training sessions for things that they're interested in, but don't exhibit an affinity for -- who knows... they may come to show that they like it enough that they -become- skilled at it regardless of natural affinity!).
For those relatively new folks that "seek" to be trained by their model Dominant...what do you think it means?
For years this term has raised the hackles on my neck whenever it comes up in conversation of in some profile as I grope for a sense of what it is or how it is to be employed.
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For some it is meeting tests; for others it is being subjected to being broken and the list goes on. In your view is it necessary? In my view, it really depends on what one is looking for in the situation one is getting involved in. If one is interested in getting involved in a high-protocol situation, then one will at least need to be trained until one is well versed in the requisite protocols. If one is unable to complete the duties that one has been assigned due to not knowing the techniques or not being able to manage the project, then one certainly requires training in order to be able to complete the work skillfully and efficiently. Likewise with any training -- if it serves a useful purpose for both trainee and the recipient of the skills, then it is certainly necessary.
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What say you on the subject? I would not be the person that I am today, had I not undergone significant training over the course of my lifetime. I find all of it valuable -- even the things that I learned but do not use on a regular basis (French, anyone?). I found the PROCESS of training to be an opportunity to challenge myself under well-defined parameters, and value highly the fact that I -had- those opportunities. I would hope that those individuals who come to serve with us and who undergo training in one or more areas find it beneficial as well.
Calla
CP
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