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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 8:36:16 PM   
Myles


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Status: offline 		ya know why is it those who are real get soo upset when someone mentions fakes if your not fake it shouldnt bother you cause I would think if it wouldnt pertain to those who are real . It doesnt bother me one iota that some feel I hold a grudge or am a whiner cause in reality I know Im not hmmmmmmmmm somethign to ponder

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 8:43:00 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Myles, you need to ponder.

You are holding a grudge because on every single thread where a new guy starts complaining and whining about fakes, no real submissives, why no subs will strip on cam for him, why no sub will shove something up her ass for him, etc. etc. you rush in to make a snarky comment because you feel you got picked on in your first go around.

Instead of getting OVER it, you keep harping on it and the very act of defending these crybabies shows that you still identify with them.

That is what I see and I am sure others see. There were MANY on your original thread who were nice to you and ended up joking and being cool, but you are not getting past it.

Then again, there are tons of trolls who end up not getting over their initial experience here and somehow they go POOF. The ones that get over it, end up having fun on the boards.

Ponder that.

And it has nothing to do with being real or not; everyone here is REAL, but they may not be for everyone.

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 9:28:47 PM   
tazzygirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Myles

ya know why is it those who are real get soo upset when someone mentions fakes if your not fake it shouldnt bother you cause I would think if it wouldnt pertain to those who are real . It doesnt bother me one iota that some feel I hold a grudge or am a whiner cause in reality I know Im not hmmmmmmmmm somethign to ponder


I will be honest with you, Myles.

I get upset because some ass decides to try and browbeat a submissive into cam sex when he has not proven himself a dominant. D/s isnt about show and tell. I left that far behind in grade school. Any swinging dick can tell a woman to get on cam and shove a dildo up her ass for his amusement. What part of that speaks to his ability to dominate her? If she is refusing, he obviously has not even come close. So he comes here and whines, trying to get men to agree with him in the hopes of convincing at least one girl that he is right.

I rant against posts like this because its wrong to try and coerce a submissive into sex acts by such a pathetic display of attempted manliness.

Does that make you feel better?

Have i performed such acts? Yes. With men who have shown me they have my best interests at heart and truly taken the time to get to know me and won my submissive act. Not by some petty attempt to try and mentally force me to get on a cam so they can cop a nut. If a man feels i am worth his time and effort, he will wait till i am ready, instead finding a porn video to help.

A cock is not the be-all-end-all of my world... until i decide it is.

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 9:39:12 PM   
poise


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: Myles

ya know why is it those who are real get soo upset when someone mentions fakes if your not fake it shouldnt bother you cause I would think if it wouldnt pertain to those who are real . It doesnt bother me one iota that some feel I hold a grudge or am a whiner cause in reality I know Im not hmmmmmmmmm somethign to ponder


I will be honest with you, Myles.

I get upset because some ass decides to try and browbeat a submissive into cam sex when he has not proven himself a dominant. D/s isnt about show and tell. I left that far behind in grade school. Any swinging dick can tell a woman to get on cam and shove a dildo up her ass for his amusement. What part of that speaks to his ability to dominate her? If she is refusing, he obviously has not even come close. So he comes here and whines, trying to get men to agree with him in the hopes of convincing at least one girl that he is right.

I rant against posts like this because its wrong to try and coerce a submissive into sex acts by such a pathetic display of attempted manliness.

Does that make you feel better?

Have i performed such acts? Yes. With men who have shown me they have my best interests at heart and truly taken the time to get to know me and won my submissive act. Not by some petty attempt to try and mentally force me to get on a cam so they can cop a nut. If a man feels i am worth his time and effort, he will wait till i am ready, instead finding a porn video to help.

A cock is not the be-all-end-all of my world... until i decide it is.




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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 9:50:49 PM   
Hillwilliam


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Status: offline 		So, according to the OP, My mistake is actually getting to KNOW subs and develop trust before tellin em to get naked and shove a dildo up their ass on cam for Me. DAMN, who woulda thunk it *facepalms* Im an abject failure.

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 9:53:35 PM   
Myles


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Status: offline 		Tazzy you are indeed correct there are asses that do definitly abound on here as well as other sites. If they want to vent, let them I say, sometimes it better off getting things of your chest than holdng it in. If someone brow beats another into doing something or telling them that they are fakes and such it is their own shortcomings that are showing loud and clear. You can only get hurt as much as you let yourself get hurt. On the other hand there are 5 fingers no wait . On the other side of the coin there are also folks out there who get off on leading others on, just for shits and giggles, which I dont get, as is the case with some. You cannot say this one is fake or that one is a whiner without truly knowing them, which is all but impossible on here unles each indivdual takes the time to talk and feel each other out in a timely manner. I know you can't like everyone you meet and you can certainly not expect everyone to like you. I for one can only attest for myself and others I know in real time as being real. Many can say they are, many can say they are not, and perhaps some live vicariously through their computers. Shit happens either you step in or step over it and go about your day is all you can truly do.

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 9:56:19 PM   
came4U


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Status: offline 		I guess I missed some action, lol

anyhoo, to the OP

some of 'us' ladies, subs, dames, whatever you wanna call us...

we have children, and don't want to fuck dildos on cam with total strangers for that reason--you do know it can be copied yanno.  eesh.

Grow up, if you want real pay a hooker to do it live you cheap SOB.


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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:00:23 PM   
NuevaVida


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Jaran
The whole point of having sub girls is to cam for free, just to please the man and obey him.


Oh I get it. You think this is site just has a pool of submissive women, waiting to obey any stranger of a man, be it a millionaire or a homeless guy or anything in between.  Sorry to disappoint, but it doesn't work like that.  Submissive women (and men) obey those they are in a relationship with.  This site isn't what you think it is.

quote:


They even had the guts to tell me that this place was not for sex. I mean, duh? This IS for sex.

Or i thought.

You thought wrong.  You see, this place is a place to possibly develop, and discuss, D/s and M/s relationships.  Oh sure there may be some folks on here who want to hook up for sex only, but that's not the reason for this site.  In fact, CollarMe bills itself as "The largest BDSM site on the Planet."  And BDSM - while it may include sex - isn't about sex.

I'd suggest your expectations are incorrect, and that's why you're so frustrated.

quote:


This is REALLY not a place for real masters. Whatever calls themselves "masters"... i'd rather not define.



No worries, I'm sure you don't fit most of this site's Master's definition of master, either.


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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:07:17 PM   
tazzygirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Myles

Tazzy you are indeed correct there are asses that do definitly abound on here as well as other sites. If they want to vent, let them I say, sometimes it better off getting things of your chest than holdng it in. If someone brow beats another into doing something or telling them that they are fakes and such it is their own shortcomings that are showing loud and clear. You can only get hurt as much as you let yourself get hurt. On the other hand there are 5 fingers no wait . On the other side of the coin there are also folks out there who get off on leading others on, just for shits and giggles, which I dont get, as is the case with some. You cannot say this one is fake or that one is a whiner without truly knowing them, which is all but impossible on here unles each indivdual takes the time to talk and feel each other out in a timely manner. I know you can't like everyone you meet and you can certainly not expect everyone to like you. I for one can only attest for myself and others I know in real time as being real. Many can say they are, many can say they are not, and perhaps some live vicariously through their computers. Shit happens either you step in or step over it and go about your day is all you can truly do.


Yet you leave out the possibility, on both sides of the kneel, that one can be fake in your opinion, and real in the eyes of the next person.

By the Ops own admission, he couldnt get the girl to do what he wanted. Its one of three things... she is a fake (according to him, and something you didnt address), he is a fake and has no clue what he is doing... or they werent meant to be.

Why is it everyone only wants to see the first two possibilities?

Regardless... he has not mastered her... else, i would at least hope, he would not be here posting such a post. she said no. it happens. everyone gets told no at some point. that doesnt make her a fake.

his post against her, and the phrasing of said post, does indicate he is whining about her ability to say no in spite of his manliness.

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:25:12 PM   
Myles


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Status: offline 		one mans trash is another mans treasure true enough. If the person on one end of the conversation or whatever it was that lead to his dismay just said thanks but no thanks and moved on he very well may have gotten the hint. While it is true that some guys will rant (and probably ladies as well) and rave that she/he is fake and send her/him ( more guys then ladies on that one Im sure) nasty and insulting EMails or whatever again it is his problem if he wants to vent online that is an option, thats what it is here for. If someone doesnt like it or gets bored by all the rants and complaints, then dont venture into this thread and complain about the complainers. The headers tell you what the thread is about read it and heed it. Its kind of like closeted gay politicians who speak out against gay rights, or a person who buys a house near the airport cause the price is right , then complains about the noise.

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:27:21 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		When I read the post I saw it as fake.  No one could be that clueless.  To me it seemed like someone .. more than likely someone with an agenda to spur on an attack senario, did so because they wished to point out how wrong that is.

*sigh*
I am becoming cynical.

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:29:19 PM   
DarkSteven


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

When I read the post I saw it as fake.  No one could be that clueless.  To me it seemed like someone .. more than likely someone with an agenda to spur on an attack senario, did so because they wished to point out how wrong that is.

*sigh*
I am becoming cynical.


Really?  I took is as someone who was unable to distinguish porn from real life, and was complaining that this site reflected real life more than he liked.


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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:30:41 PM   
Myles


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Status: offline 		youd be surprised how clueless some may be I need new glasses your picture is all fuzzy and stuff

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:32:51 PM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		Ah, but again, you are forgetting a third option... that being someone may actually learn from his rant and its inappropriateness. I dont like to see subs/slaves rant about dominants. but i can accept that quicker than a dominant, who is supposed to be in control, rant and rave about a sub who didnt play to his standards.

and, guess what? he outted himself to every sub/slave who reads these threads. how quickly do you believe anyone who has read them will be willing to play with him now?

people learn through the mistakes of others. if a post is made, everyone has the right to comment on that post.

and while it is true we dont have to read a particular thread, Myles... neither do you. In that same line of thinking you used above...

quote:

if he wants to vent online that is an option, thats what it is here for. If someone doesnt like it or gets bored by all the rants and complaints, then dont venture into this thread and complain about the complainers.


....... if we want to respond and point out the mistakes of his complaints, its our option... and you dont have to read them.

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:33:14 PM   
WyldHrt


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quote:

By the Ops own admission, he couldnt get the girl to do what he wanted. Its one of three things... she is a fake (according to him, and something you didnt address), he is a fake and has no clue what he is doing... or they werent meant to be.

Why is it everyone only wants to see the first two possibilities?

Regardless... he has not mastered her... else, i would at least hope, he would not be here posting such a post. she said no.

Having ventured into the vidchat a time or two, I'm gonna say that the OP wasn't about a specific 'her', but about the fact that the sub women who cam in the chat can and do choose who views their cams and what they will and won't do (unless they are owned, then the Dom decides). The OP is getting pissy because he thought that all he had to do was slap a 'master' tag on his forehead and all the little subbies would give him free, custom cam sex and fall all over themselves to give him their phone numbers. Unfortunately for him, many of them do at least read the profile before ditching the bra and getting anal with sex toys.


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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:34:28 PM   
Myles


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Status: offline 		true enough we all do what we want to do no matter what is waht

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:35:51 PM   
tazzygirl


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Status: offline 		Holy Hell!

All this over a camchat room?

I actually thought this was someone he was at least pretending to get to know.

Gesh!

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Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:35:59 PM   
Twoshoes


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Status: offline 		The OP was complaining no one would submit to him instantly on the computer.

What is there to argue about?

Edit: * Wow, I also misspelled the word "misspell" and failed to separate "at least". Heh.

< Message edited by Twoshoes -- 8/31/2010 11:21:35 PM >

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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:38:26 PM   
Myles


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RE: Negative experience - 8/31/2010 10:58:59 PM   
WyldHrt


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quote:

one mans trash is another mans treasure true enough. If the person on one end of the conversation or whatever it was that lead to his dismay just said thanks but no thanks and moved on he very well may have gotten the hint.

You really aren't getting this, Myles. The OP is talking about the CM videochat; a live, interactive chatroom here on CM. It is a social environment, much like the forums are, where people talk and get to know each other. As the name implies, it is enabled for webcams, access to which is controlled by the user.

The OP's 'dismay' is that he went into the vidchat and tried to order perfect strangers to perform sex acts for him on cam; and they (from what I can tell) told him to fuck off. The fact that he was banned (per his OP) from the vidchat says a whole lot about his behavior, IME.


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