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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/3/2010 3:10:06 PM

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I *understand* most fetishes, I just don't participate in the ones that I don't like.

This is pretty much where I'm at. Many of the fetishes that have been described in this thread as being difficult to understand make perfect sense to me. Unpleasant body fluids? This is (or can be) just another way of filling a submissive with those delicious feelings of degradation and revulsion. Tickling? A complex, extreme and generally unpleasant sensation, basically a form of pain play. Et cetera. I can understand a lot of fetishes intellectually without being particularly turned on by them myself.

On the other hand... balloons? Or the Eiffel Tower? I can't say I've ever really understood people who have a thing for gas masks, either. There are some things I'm genuinely unable to wrap my head around.

From what little I have been able to glean, it does seem that those with the gas mask fetishes are also into asphyxiphillia. At least those I have contacted are. I almost always message someone I see wearing a gas mask to ask just this question.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/3/2010 3:52:26 PM

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I'm very much a "every person to their own" kind of guy. Whatever lifts your luggage as long as it's consensual (to the degree that other people are involved). There are lots of fetishes I don't have or get off on, but if other people do, then fine by me.

One such would be TPE. I get the appeal on a theoretic level, but it's not for me. Touches of it, ability to drop into play-mode with ease - those are things I do like and it can come close enough that I think that's why I get the people who do like it.
I'm also a never say never person, so yeah, you never know. If the right guy comes along and that's where life takes us...

Re. the daddy/girl thing, I've always liked daddy/boy dynamics, so I really do get that. I like the caring aspect and the discipline parts as well.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/3/2010 4:55:36 PM

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Actually, I can intellectually understand pretty much any fantasy or fetish although I am not into them all.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/4/2010 1:34:49 PM

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I *understand* most fetishes, I just don't participate in the ones that I don't like.

This is pretty much where I'm at. Many of the fetishes that have been described in this thread as being difficult to understand make perfect sense to me. Unpleasant body fluids? This is (or can be) just another way of filling a submissive with those delicious feelings of degradation and revulsion. Tickling? A complex, extreme and generally unpleasant sensation, basically a form of pain play. Et cetera. I can understand a lot of fetishes intellectually without being particularly turned on by them myself.

On the other hand... balloons? Or the Eiffel Tower? I can't say I've ever really understood people who have a thing for gas masks, either. There are some things I'm genuinely unable to wrap my head around.

From what little I have been able to glean, it does seem that those with the gas mask fetishes are also into asphyxiphillia. At least those I have contacted are. I almost always message someone I see wearing a gas mask to ask just this question.

Which is a little ironic, when you think about it. Isn't the point of a gas mask basically to protect the wearer from asphyxiation?

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/5/2010 10:42:37 AM

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I *understand* most fetishes, I just don't participate in the ones that I don't like.

This is pretty much where I'm at. Many of the fetishes that have been described in this thread as being difficult to understand make perfect sense to me.

That's were I am, too. The thing is, I don't need to understand them. I'm not the one participating in them.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/6/2010 12:42:27 AM

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I don't understand the allure/pleasure of certain things including scat/vomit/gasmasks (but then again I admittedly have a slight fear about gasmasks due to seeing a horror movie as a child) but to each their own.

On another note, I saw a few minutes of a special where they were talking to a "looner" (balloon fetish) and he said it was the "necks" of the balloons that excited him.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/6/2010 8:47:37 PM

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I've read five pages of this thread so far, and it's really amazing where some the draw the lne.....and others happily skip across it. For those who are quick to announce what is "gross" or any other descriptively chosen word, I can't help but mention that we are in a fairly insulated bubble in this CM space--all of us--everything that we do and discuss here--to many people "outside" our CM world, is often viewed as gross, disgusting, unnatural--pick your term. I was brought into the community by a lot of experienced and wise folks many years ago, who lectured me right up front: don't be ashamed of your desires--and don't criticize or judge anyone else for theirs.

I remember one night I was working a shift as a DM.-- there was an older woman there (she was in her 70's) that a few of us knew as a local Pro-Domme--they were allowed to bring clients to the space but not officially--and they couldn't exchange currency. The man who met her there we learned was a new client (also in his late 60's/early 70's), and he had a very specific fantasy: remember that kid's toy "gak" also called slime? It was this gooey, gross green snotty stuff that came in a toy trash can--one of it's "features" was that kids could make farting noises with it? (no? well, take my word for it then...) Anyhow [I swear there's a point to this...] his fantasy? He was tied up, and he wanted his willy stuffed into the slime and used to make those farting noises.....and she spent a good 45 minutes where the scene was mostly her dripping this gak on his dick. For me, it was like a bad car wreck. I didn't want to watch but I couldn't look away.

I finally went upstairs, had a chat with the owner of the place, and said "You know, I'm really disturbed by this scene I'm watching. I just don't get it." He reminded me that there were plenty of times when my scenes cleared out the place because it freaked folks out....and he said, "boy....there's a reason why Baskin Robbins makes 31 flavors...and if they made a flavor called "shit"....I guarantee plenty of people would order it once...and a few people twice. celebrate the freak in us all, because sometimes, it's just reassuring to know you're not the freakiest cat in the place!"

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/18/2010 7:24:03 PM

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I don't understand scat, rainbow showers or blood play..

Then again, most people don't understand me either....meh, oh well, live and let live.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 4:19:16 AM

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i do not understand why a person would always need a specific thing to get them off... as i suppose that is what a fetish is, so i do not understand any of them.
other than that... anything dirty at one time or another might turn me on, i am all for diversity, i suppose almost any type of kink is on my menu

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 5:18:57 AM

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First... what is a rainbow shower?

As for kinks I do not understand? Scat, golden showers, or anything else involving vomit/poop, etc. I don't judge anyone for enjoying these things, but for the life of me, I cannot understand how it can be erotic. Most other fetishes I can at least understand why they might be arousing to some (even if not to me), but I cannot wrap my head around the bathroom play.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 6:00:43 AM

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with scat i think it might be tied in with the degradation involved - so a guy whose into scat said to me anyway from his POV, so i can understand that. what blew me away a bit was the guy who keeps vats of it in his basement and keeps it out of direct sunlight because it does something to the flavour - oh boy! - that im having a big problem with!

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 6:10:16 AM

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I can understand that scat is degradation. But what I don't understand is why they would choose that sort of degradation over any of the myriad other possibilities of degradation out there, and how they could associate sexuality with excrement. I pretty much chalk it up to something I will never truly 'get'. But as long as they are happy and take proper safety precautions, more power to them.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 6:23:34 AM

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i have no clue, im not into degradation of any sort or variety - i was reading a thread and the message that i picked up from one or two is that its kinda the ultimate degradation, there really isnt anything more degrading surely than someone else's poo in youre mouth, or eating that poo.

what i have a problem in understanding is how it is actually soemthing some people actually relish - so it isnt even degradation for them - as one guy put it or his Domme, he basically sucked it out of her and licked up afterwards (nausea wave - hang on - ) ok, im back -

but apparently, according to another buff on this, there is an enzyme that makes it addictive stuff - you can get hooked on eating poo - (que guy with poo in bell jars down in his basement) -

ok im going to have to stop typing for a bit...... im ok, just give me a sec...........

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 6:32:34 AM

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Thanks for taking the time to try and explain a bit, lally. I can understand a bit of the concept of 'ultimate degradation'. The rest of it... don't think I'll ever get it. But then again, I don't understand how some people think rye bread is yummy, so why not the taste of poo? Different strokes.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 6:49:44 AM

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it is not just eating the stuff

i think everybody must know how satisfying it is to have a good dump, it just feels good to have a good big turd slide out of you, i can totally understand how this feeling can translate to erotic moments... queue some romantic music to have a shit to and some Domly type stood there watching you produce this perfect turd and you have a scat scene

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 6:51:03 AM

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weeeellll - rye bread versus poo - hmmmm

let me think, - its a close run thing,....... but id go with the rye bread -

poo? - no - theres a reason we have toilets now and can flush it away rather than just tip it out of the window and the stuff has chemicals sprayed on it for weeks on end before the slush is considered 'safe' to go wherever it goes.

then again, as you say different strokes and im really not going to question theyre kink if it does it for them in the privacy of their own space.

but it just is one of those things ill never ever explore and never understand to that degree.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 9:10:59 AM

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I am suddenly very grateful that my Master has no desire to watch me 'do my business'. :) Thanks for the lovely image, Ranja.

I am in the boat with you, Lally. If it makes them happy, good on them, but I will not be exploring that anytime soon. And I think there will always be aspects of it I just won't understand. Which was the point of the thread in the first place, so ta-dah! :)

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 1:42:51 PM

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Basically, I have difficulty understanding why anyone would be turned on by something that doesn't turn ME on.

That pretty much covers it for me, as well.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 5:24:24 PM

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Aren't fetishes formed by being in the right place at the right time? I see their development being a little like the process when the Princess wakes up and falls in love with the first person she sees. I remember a few years ago when a dugong in New Zealand fell in love with a tractor. This seems like a similar thing.
For my part most of my fetishes sprang from things that were around when my sexuality was blooming. I didn't choose them. They just happened to be there and my subconscious sexualized them. My other fetishes have formed themselves around my wife and the things she does. It excites both of us for me to to find so many aspects of her a turn-on.
So, no, I have no trouble understanding anyone else's fetishes, however weird. I may not enjoy many of other people's fetishes but it would be a grey old world if we all responded to exactly the same stimuli.

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RE: Which Fetish(es) Do You Have Trouble Understanding? - 9/19/2010 11:52:04 PM

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I don't understand the fascination with diapers, piss, urine, vomit, feces, etc. For many years of my life I have had an assortment of animal companions and even cleaned up after domestic farm animals like rabbits and pigs. So those smells and experiences are just something messy that needs to be cleaned up.

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