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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

Being skewered seems about as unpleasant as it sounds, IMO, but really, I think straight guys spend too much time worrying about this stuff, i.e., "If I like her to stick 2 fingers in, does that make me a submissive, or maybe a homo?"

When I am arching my back in orgasm, trying to do the mental calculus of who gave what verbal command at what level, and whether there are one or two knuckles in what part of my body just seems like way too much homework.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Well *I* agree. What's wrong with a little prostate massage?

Now if a guy wants to be assraped, well shoot, how can a gal not want to oblige? ;)

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

If a woman gives a man a 'reach around' when she is sucking his cock, gives him a little prostrate stimulation, is that the same as being ass-raped by a Dominatrix with the AssMaster 9000 strap on? 
I think if the man didn't want anything up His ass, He'd rightly feel ass-raped but, if He liked it, I would consider it as one more way I could serve Him. Personally, I would never ever do that without asking first whether He liked it or not.
I get asked about sex vs domination a lot and I think the anal sex question above illustrates it best.  The question in my mind isn't where the boundary between 1 finger or 2 fingers takes it out of the category of blow job and into anal sex.  It is a question of where being serviced ends and being dominated begins.
I think.....when the submissive is actively doing something for the Dominant, the Dominant is being serviced....where the Dominant is actively doing something to/taking something from the submissive S/He is Dominating.
Taking control and grabbing someone by the hair on the nape of their neck and fucking them in the face instead of letting them suck your cock is domination.  If a Dominant is receiving the oral services of a submissive, it is indeed a much more passive act.  Depending on the level of verbal command he gives, she may indeed be in control of the pleasure he receives. 
I would agree with this.....in the first scenario there was Dominating, in the second scenario there was servicing. Which is probably why, whenever Someone received lipservice from me, every so often He would grab me by the hair to re-inforce Who was boss....because He intuitively knew that hair-pulling would make it a more Dominant act.
However, many feel letting a submissive prepare a nice meal affords no more control than passively receiving a nice blow job or letting the submissive get on top and give the Dominant pleasure. 
I can see where it could seem that way, but I try to - in my submissive mind - keep seeing it as Who is allowing me to do those things.
The measure is who is getting serviced to gauge who is in ultimate control . . . even if the submissive has influence or control of the delivery or style of service.
Yes.
Being skewered by the AssMaster 9000 is an act of domination. 
Absolutely.
Do you see the perspective, do you agree?
Yes.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

Being skewered seems about as unpleasant as it sounds, IMO, but really, I think straight guys spend too much time worrying about this stuff, i.e., "If I like her to stick 2 fingers in, does that make me a submissive, or maybe a homo?"

When I am arching my back in orgasm, trying to do the mental calculus of who gave what verbal command at what level, and whether there are one or two knuckles in what part of my body just seems like way too much homework.

I think it's "3 fingers or less and your still safely a hetro"

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Being skwered by the AssMaster 9000 is an act of domination. 

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ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957

I think.....when the submissive is actively doing something for the Dominant, the Dominant is being serviced....where the Dominant is actively doing something to/taking something from the submissive S/He is Dominating.

~sweetsub~

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The measure is who is getting serviced to gauge who is in ultimate control . . . even if the submissive has influence or control of the delivery or style of service.

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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Agreed.  The physical act is not as important as the mental/emotional dynamics - who's directing the action?

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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex
When I am arching my back in orgasm, trying to do the mental calculus of who gave what verbal command at what level, and whether there are one or two knuckles in what part of my body just seems like way too much homework.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Sadly, I do not have an Assmaster 9000. Does it come in glow in the dark? I love things that glow in the dark.

Prostate milking only takes a few fingers. Or a cattle prod. Not that I have ever used a cattle prod, I never cared for electro play. ;)