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BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/8/2010 6:41:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia scene or not a male who isn't into another man, will not get erect, will not agree to the scene. The bi-curious have gone a little further but never consumate the deal. Usually the forced bi don't Editing before I hit edit (cause I have the right to do it, I'm an Edit-er[/i]) - Bounty - you were involved in a bisexual act, you probably got off, and if you want it again, your probably - bi - And a mouth is only a mouth unless a moustache is attached to the mouth, then it's definitely a males mouth. I'm definitely bi but when I'm with a woman she doesn't have a stache - shes soft and beautiful - and it's sexy as fuck. [;)] once does that still mean that I am bi girl, i don't think so, just wanted to see hat it was like and yes a soft pretty female mouth is the thing be well girl..Bounty

GotSteel -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/8/2010 7:11:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia If he's exclusively with me then yes I can, I never said "I would be against it" if he's not then no I cannot. I guess I misunderstood this: quote: ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia for me - I'm not dating a bi male - plain and simply. quote: ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia I can date men who have and are with other women, I don't have a problem sticking my tongue down their throat, but I'm turned off when they're dating another man, it's just my preference. What's the difference?

MistressLavinia -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/8/2010 7:15:51 PM)
Oh Bounty - I adore you. Lets see, once means you had a bi experience. It's all good, you wanted to try it to see if you liked it. You asked if you were gay or bi. I said, bi because of the experience. I think a lot of men have had the same experiences, but just don't admit to them. Your honest and sincere, and that is why I absolutely adore you, fuck it your the bomb! Edit: I can't it's not gonna work from here. But I'd never not respond when I get a Bounty Buzz [;)]

BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/8/2010 7:33:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia Oh Bounty - I adore you. Lets see, once means you had a bi experience. It's all good, you wanted to try it to see if you liked it. You asked if you were gay or bi. I said, bi because of the experience. I think a lot of men have had the same experiences, but just don't admit to them. Your honest and sincere, and that is why I absolutely adore you, fuck it your the bomb! Edit: I can't it's not gonna work from here. But I'd never not respond when I get a Bounty Buzz [;)] YyOU ARE TOO KOOL GIRL AND I ADORE YOU AS WELL SMOOTCH SMILE..BO

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/8/2010 7:59:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I did know a bisexual woman years ago who, even though she was bisexual herself, absolutely refused to even date a male who was bi. In fact, she had some pretty terrible things to say on the matter. *I'm not sure if I want to say outright that it seemed a bit hypocritical, but it was certainly odd to Me.* quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant When it comes to sexual wiring, I find it a bit odd that someone could consider it O.K. for themselves to be wired bisexually but they don't want their partner to be wired that way... The above quotes are why it bothers me so much that, here I am bi and I'd rather not be with a bi man. I do think that's kind of hypocritical, and I don't like that about myself. As a matter of fact, I very much dislike being that way. I just don't understand why I am, unless it's the idea of "my" guy doing it with another man just turns me off. I think if he wasn't seeing/doing a guy during the same time period he was seeing/doing me, I'd be okay with it though. I think, yes, that'd be okay. I don't see a man and a woman at the same time......ever......and I guess I wouldn't want him to either if he was with me. Maybe I need a therapist. lol ~sweetsub~

MistressLavinia -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/8/2010 8:05:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957 quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I did know a bisexual woman years ago who, even though she was bisexual herself, absolutely refused to even date a male who was bi. In fact, she had some pretty terrible things to say on the matter. *I'm not sure if I want to say outright that it seemed a bit hypocritical, but it was certainly odd to Me.* quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant When it comes to sexual wiring, I find it a bit odd that someone could consider it O.K. for themselves to be wired bisexually but they don't want their partner to be wired that way... The above quotes are why it bothers me so much that, here I am bi and I'd rather not be with a bi man. I do think that's kind of hypocritical, and I don't like that about myself. As a matter of fact, I very much dislike being that way. I just don't understand why I am, unless it's the idea of "my" guy doing it with another man just turns me off. I think if he wasn't seeing/doing a guy during the same time period he was seeing/doing me, I'd be okay with it though. I think, yes, that'd be okay. I don't see a man and a woman at the same time......ever......and I guess I wouldn't want him to either if he was with me. Maybe I need a therapist. lol ~sweetsub~ That shouldn't bother you one bit. Your you, and those quotes are from people that are not you. You can have and live your life anyway you please. Are you hurting anyone by the way you live? Everyone has sexual preferences. Its a preference, thats all it is, no big deal, your not protesting against anything, your stating a preference, and that's perfectly normal and good. Some like men on men, and some don't. As long as your paying your bills and living your life your way, you can do it however you see fit. Just like I do and others do. You don't need a therapist for your own feelings, but you'll need one if you live by others standards. So just live and enjoy!!!!

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/8/2010 8:09:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressLavinia quote: ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957 quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact I did know a bisexual woman years ago who, even though she was bisexual herself, absolutely refused to even date a male who was bi. In fact, she had some pretty terrible things to say on the matter. *I'm not sure if I want to say outright that it seemed a bit hypocritical, but it was certainly odd to Me.* quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant When it comes to sexual wiring, I find it a bit odd that someone could consider it O.K. for themselves to be wired bisexually but they don't want their partner to be wired that way... The above quotes are why it bothers me so much that, here I am bi and I'd rather not be with a bi man. I do think that's kind of hypocritical, and I don't like that about myself. As a matter of fact, I very much dislike being that way. I just don't understand why I am, unless it's the idea of "my" guy doing it with another man just turns me off. I think if he wasn't seeing/doing a guy during the same time period he was seeing/doing me, I'd be okay with it though. I think, yes, that'd be okay. I don't see a man and a woman at the same time......ever......and I guess I wouldn't want him to either if he was with me. Maybe I need a therapist. lol ~sweetsub~ That shouldn't bother you one bit. Your you, and those quotes are from people that are not you. You can have and live your life anyway you please. Are you hurting anyone by the way you live? Everyone has sexual preferences. Its a preference, thats all it is, no big deal, your not protesting against anything, your stating a preference, and that's perfectly normal and good. Some like men on men, and some don't. As long as your paying your bills and living your life your way, you can do it however you see fit. Just like I do and others do. You don't need a therapist for your own feelings, but you'll need one if you live by others standards. So just live and enjoy!!!! *Thanks. :)*

LadyPact -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/9/2010 7:24:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetsub1957 The above quotes are why it bothers me so much that, here I am bi and I'd rather not be with a bi man. I do think that's kind of hypocritical, and I don't like that about myself. As a matter of fact, I very much dislike being that way. I just don't understand why I am, unless it's the idea of "my" guy doing it with another man just turns me off. I think if he wasn't seeing/doing a guy during the same time period he was seeing/doing me, I'd be okay with it though. I think, yes, that'd be okay. I don't see a man and a woman at the same time......ever......and I guess I wouldn't want him to either if he was with me. Maybe I need a therapist. lol ~sweetsub~ I don't think you should feel bad for contributing honestly to the topic. It may have everything to do with your own preference for yourself of not being in a sexual relationship with both a man and a woman at the same time. That seems like it is a personal boundary for you that you uphold when no one else has authority over you and it's what works for you. (I don't know if this is a flexible area for you under a Dominant's control or not.) It might be interesting for you to mull over in your brain what spawns the feelings you have, but don't apologize for them.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/9/2010 10:38:15 AM)
What Lady Pact said. I don't think ANYONE should feel guilty about what they want or need, and yanno? None of us is perfect, mentally or physically. Sometimes we want things that make us hypocritcal, or shallow, or whatever "negative" word you want to attach. It's part of our unique snowflakeness. IMO, the truly important thing is KNOWING those things about ourselves and accepting them, if we are okay with those qualities.

SorceressJ -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/9/2010 10:42:29 AM)
Actually Hibbie, I think that "perfection" is highly subjective, and that it's these very "imperfections" that make us more perfectly human, as we constantly evolve and learn and become more than we were. And yes, self-knowledge and acceptance are key. nods

laurell3 -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/9/2010 12:45:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CarpeComa This is a spin-off of this thread. What I am curious to know is: Does a general dislike for bisexual dominant partners exist across gender pairings? I have no idea and don't care either way. If you identify as submissive, is your dominant partner of choice one that is solely interested in your gender? Presently yes, but it's not a necessity for me. Do you care? As a dominant, have you either directly witnessed bias against bisexuality coming from submissive partners or felt it being implied? Do you feel that such feelings are fairly common among the submissive gender(s) of your choice? Again, I don't know and don't care because I see this as an issue of personal preference and attraction rather than any sign of bias. Y'all are cracking me up with all the threads on this topic like it's some horrible thing. This is no different from the race or fat threads. It is not bias. People have preferences that have nothing to do with openness or maturity, it's just how they are. There seem to be a whole lot of people on CM that want to find something to be offended at and call it bias, prejudice or racism and cannot accept that every one of us isn't the person for many people out there.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/9/2010 1:44:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact That seems like it is a personal boundary for you that you uphold when no one else has authority over you and it's what works for you. (I don't know if this is a flexible area for you under a Dominant's control or not.) It might be interesting for you to mull over in your brain what spawns the feelings you have, but don't apologize for them.[/color] Yes, when I'm single, I choose that as a personal boundary. Now that I'm w/ Daddy, it's flexible according to what He wants. I'm with Him alone as for men, but He wants me to indulge my bi side. Only when He's present though. [;)] ~sweetsub~

CreativeDominant -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/9/2010 4:10:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant I think that right there has been what has hit ME about some of what I've read on this thread... I know there's no accounting for preferences...if you like Roman showers, go ahead and find someone else who does but they're not for me. But, we are not talking preferences, other than as a choice of partner, we are talking about someone's sexuality and inner being. When it comes to sexual wiring, I find it a bit odd that someone could consider it O.K. for themselves to be wired bisexually but they don't want their partner to be wired that way... I find it a bit odd that someone could state that they've lived their life however wildly they wanted to and not only expects their partner to accept that but who will also accept that they fit "partner criteria" only if they did the exact opposite...didn't have sex with multiple partners, didn't have sex with same-sex partners, didn't even entertain the THOUGHT of same-sex partners. I find it odd that some of these same people are the ones who've come down on those who have made the politically incorrect mistake of judging others' behaviors/preferences/likes-dislikes on other threads. (the fat vs. slim vs. well-rounded threads come immediately to mind) I don't think that anyone necessarily judged anyone else. If the original question is what works for someone in a partner, everyone has their own right to preferences. I don't think it's easy to separate various elements that may be seen as automatically attached the question. As has been brought up, we're expanding it to include the mono vrs poly aspect (potentially) as well. I will...respectfully...disagree with you, Lady P. There ARE judgments being made and that's fine...I've said on these boards before that everyone DOES pass judgments on various outside factors that enter into their sphere of living. However, I've also seen some of these same people come down on those who *"prefer"* fit partners, or well-filled out partners, or even those who prefer big and beautiful partners for being shallow and not judging the person by some the critic's set of standards.

sweetsub1957 -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/9/2010 4:56:55 PM)
~FR~ I don't see anything wrong w/ people having preferences one way or the other, but what bugs the scheiss outta me is when people are angry/judgmental/insulting towards those who disagree w/ them and/or the people who don't fit their own preference. I think everyone has a right to their own preferences, but we don't need to be angry and judgmental about it. ~sweetsub~

AlexandraLynch -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/10/2010 2:35:31 AM)
At least from my side of things, while I can understand that my straight friends are in fact totally uninterested in the same gender intellectually, and respect that, there is part of me that views it with the fascination of a child who discovers someone is color blind. Which I suppose proves how very much of a Kinsey 3 I am. I've always looked at both. Part of me cannot imagine not being able to see my own gender as potentially attractive. Fortunately, I don't have to understand it on a deep level to be polite and respectful in my interactions with others.

MrBukani -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/10/2010 3:18:40 AM)
Who gives a fuck if you dont like two guys assfuckin and you like girls eatin pussy. Prejudice is there for a reason. If you cant judge right from wrong you're pretty fucked. And no I am not gonna explain myself. [:D]toodles

LaTigresse -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/10/2010 4:12:57 AM)
I really have found this topic to be quite interesting but not as a personal issue at all. Moreso as a 'people watching weird people' sort of way. I've never had a partner/S.O. that I cared who they had sex with previously, other than how it might affect my physical health. It's not even a subject that I've brought up, quizzing anyone about. There has never been a "So, tell me about ALL the people you've ever had any sort of sexual encounter with!!!" type of conversation. Sooooo, that being said..........the aspect of this topic that caught me by surprise was that a person in a wonderfully fullfilling relationship, one nearly perfect in every way, would ditch that relationship if they ever discovered their partner had EVER had a same gender encounter. I can say that I find the a few of the past partners of people I've been in relationshps with, utterly repulsive, and have jokingly said something like "What the hell did you EVER see in him/her???" But do so with the realization that life is all about growth and change. What a 20 yo finds attractive in a partner they themselves might find repulsive at age 30. I know that GD looks at his son's mother and wonders what the fuck he was thinking, almost every time he sees her. Hell, I think the same when I look back at my marriage to my kids' father. Then remember, I was FIFTEEN when I started dating him!!!! Anyone that would judge the woman I am today, based upon the decisions of the girl I was then, I wouldn't WANT to be in a relationship with. To tear apart an otherwise wonderful relationship for a relationship decision years prior........that did surprise me.

Aynne88 -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/10/2010 6:45:41 AM)
LaT, I am not sure about the other women that said no they wouldn't have a bisexual Dom, but for me I wouldn't be tearing apart a perfect relationship because I wouldn't have been in one with someone that had bisexual relationships or sexual encounters to start with. I don't want to know the details of all of his sexual encounters either I just want to know has he spent his life fucking men or women. Period. Or if he is sexually attracted to men, which is vastly hugely different than being able to admit that he finds men attractive or handsome, which he has no problem divulging. I'm with laurell, the plethora of threads on this topic are odd. I wonder why it is so important to try and convince us we are wrong or to try and insist that every straight male is waiting for a bi encounter on the sly? Maybe it's me, but most of the men I know are not like that. The bi ones are out about it and the straight ones are all about the pussy.

Carouselambra -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/10/2010 6:54:00 AM)
The society we live in cares about such things?The man is enjoying both worlds, what does it matter if he enjoys fucking another male in the ass? I find it rather hot that a man can dominate both worlds.

LaTigresse -> RE: Bisexual Dominants (9/10/2010 7:10:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aynne88 LaT, I am not sure about the other women that said no they wouldn't have a bisexual Dom, but for me I wouldn't be tearing apart a perfect relationship because I wouldn't have been in one with someone that had bisexual relationships or sexual encounters to start with. I don't want to know the details of all of his sexual encounters either I just want to know has he spent his life fucking men or women. Period. Or if he is sexually attracted to men, which is vastly hugely different than being able to admit that he finds men attractive or handsome, which he has no problem divulging. I'm with laurell, the plethora of threads on this topic are odd. I wonder why it is so important to try and convince us we are wrong or to try and insist that every straight male is waiting for a bi encounter on the sly? Maybe it's me, but most of the men I know are not like that. The bi ones are out about it and the straight ones are all about the pussy. I think you are reading more into my words than is there. #1.....I was amused and surprised that the topic would even come up PRE-relationship. #2....RE: tearing apart a relationship.....IF the man had not mentioned his experiment in college, or before, and it came up AFTER the relationship with the woman was established, it was mentioned by a few that it would then, end the relationship. THAT was what I was discussing. Much like......yeah I once had a hot thing with that ugly toothless hoe that lived down the street......just to see what a blowjob from a toothless hoe felt like. I blew chunks when I looked down and saw the toothless hoe and therefor will not go there again. To ME, irrelevant to the current relationship as long as said toothless hoe didn't give the dude any nasty bugs I have to worry about. It's history, water over the damn, I don't care. I was surprised that anyone would care unless it affects the current relationship. Affects meaning.....nasty bugs, offspring, money owed, etc etc etc... Quit reading more into it than I am intending. Nothing I've written is a personal attack towards you, or anyone else. I simply find the whole thing quite amusing and fascinating.

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