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ranja -> RE: Whats in a name (9/24/2010 11:09:46 AM)

He likes to be called Master on occasion... if the occasion is me asking permission to masturbate, i make sure i address Him as He pleases
He likes King too... haha i think that is ridiculous... i like sir but He doesn't care about that one
We call eachother by our names mostly... or short versions of our names, not nicknames though... sometimes He might call me a cunt and i might call Him a bastard or babe, He hates that even more than bastard



ShoreBound149 -> RE: Whats in a name (9/25/2010 7:21:32 AM)


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ORIGINAL: domiguy


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I call him by his first name, sometimes a nickname that he's had for years and what just about everyone who knows him calls him, and occasionally...douchebag.
Lately my brain thinks of him as bruiser for the simple reason that he likes to punch and bruise me.

Never master or sir or anything along those lines. It just seems absolutely ridiculous to both of us.



I would really enjoy watching Shore lay you out with a single punch.

When we met that was my first inclination, but I thought I might be overstepping some sort of an archaic bdsm protocolly thing.


We have so much in common.




crazyml -> RE: Whats in a name (9/25/2010 8:26:55 AM)


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ORIGINAL: IronBear

I always have a chuckle when someone in a business (bank teller or receptionist etc) refers to me as "Sir" and even ask if they are spelling it SIR or CUR....


Gosh! Are they pronounced the same where you're from?



crazyml -> RE: Whats in a name (9/25/2010 8:31:30 AM)

Speaking personally, and without wishing to imply any judgement whatsoever on others or their preferences

I find the idea of being addressed as "Master" utterly absurd and silly. It's right up there with "Lord" and "Oh Mighty one". I have been in relationships where my partner wanted to address me as "Sir" in some contexts, and I don't mind that particularly - but would never ever suggest it.

I so much prefer being called by my name.



crazyml -> RE: Whats in a name (9/25/2010 8:33:16 AM)

IB... you must write your memoirs some time, you have packed so much into your life, man!



sunshinemiss -> RE: Whats in a name (9/25/2010 8:38:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

Speaking personally, and without wishing to imply any judgement whatsoever on others or their preferences

I find the idea of being addressed as "Master" utterly absurd and silly. It's right up there with "Lord" and "Oh Mighty one". I have been in relationships where my partner wanted to address me as "Sir" in some contexts, and I don't mind that particularly - but would never ever suggest it.

I so much prefer being called by my name.


And here I thought your name was Crazy Master Lord.

Well, butter my bun and call me biscuit.



crazyml -> RE: Whats in a name (9/26/2010 4:41:40 AM)

Grin. Well consider your bun buttered, Ms Biscuit.



MastrVran -> RE: Whats in a name (9/27/2010 9:56:21 PM)

For many having protocols seem silly. Calling someone by a specific name or form of address is silly. For others its simply the right way to address someone.

I have no issue with people not calling me Master because as has been pointed out, people do not belong to me. However if I own you and you have willingly submitted to be my slave, then the answer should be obvious. Anything I require you to call me is what you should call me. If we have entered into a Master/slave relationship, then proper terms should be used. Always? No. In work related situations where our personal lives interact with others there is no reason to involve others in the way we wish to live. For many people, they would misinterpret and it would and could lead to unnecessary problems.

Keeping a relationship in balance can be accomplished by many different things. One of which is how you address someone. Most people responding here do not live in a M/s relationship, so naturally calling someone Master and wanting to think of them that way would be silly or just not desired. We all live a life as we think it should be lived. For some of us having protocols, rules, requirements and acceptable behaviors is considered to be part of our lives. For others honey, dipshit, or what ever is considered good enough or proper for a name, what ever works for you, is great.

For me, since I do live in a Master/slave type relationship and various forms of reinforcement are always appreciated and helpful, calling your owner Master is a good thing that adds to the feelings and responses over time. Maintaining the right mindset can be important. Using what works to do that is a good thing.

So as should be obvious. For those who are mine, Master is the appropriate form of address. It is not the only form however. But in specific situations, it is required. As for people who find this wrong, strange, funny, egotistical or whatever, thats fine to. Obviously you would not be happy in such a relationship and thats as it should be. This is why you are in your type of relationship. It makes you happy. This makes those in a relationship with me happy. If it did not they would not be in the relationship.

MV



gungadin09 -> RE: Whats in a name (9/27/2010 10:12:29 PM)

i actually like "Master". It reinforced the dynamic. Although, i'm terrified of saying "Yes, Chef!" one day, by mistake.

pam



Arturas -> RE: Whats in a name (9/28/2010 7:09:42 AM)

Greetings,

I've always thought if one is a session dom (and for a time I was one) then it is a temporary 1-3 hour relationship and you are a dom commonly addressed as Sir. But, in my gorean Master/slave relationship lived in and out of the home I am addressed as "master" when I signal kajirastar or she is "on the mat". Otherwise, it is by "sir" or my first name depending on the social situation.

For example, in a fine restaurant dining in candlelight it will be Sir or with a silent address known only to us as lovers together but alone in the night. In the local Arbys with the kids in tow sharing a round of value menu size frosties it will be my first name. Four nights a week in the local gym together it is informal and light, no pun intended. Always, always, always in the lifestyle club it is "Master" with a capital M.

It is said that a lifestyle gorean will tend use signals with his girl and the girl must become adept in recognizing what he desires or how he should be addressed in public with unspoken commands. I personally subscribe to that practice.

Well wishes,
Arturas



IronBear -> RE: Whats in a name (10/1/2010 9:22:00 AM)


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ORIGINAL: crazyml


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ORIGINAL: IronBear

I always have a chuckle when someone in a business (bank teller or receptionist etc) refers to me as "Sir" and even ask if they are spelling it SIR or CUR....


Gosh! Are they pronounced the same where you're from?


No actually old chap they are pronounced totally different but then again I've come across so many military officers (not worthy of their rank) who are not worthy of the Sir so one just mentally spells it CUR.... No doubt I've had the same done to me at times especially when I have reamed out some insolent young pup who screwed up a shoot or forgot to bring all his gear.. Although I mind the time when one bloke in my platoon came on the 5.30am morning parade wearing only his combat boots and even forgot his weapon. I just stood behind him (whilst the Platoon sgt was almost having kittens) and roared into the lad who was badly hungover, asking if he was going to kick the enemy to death or wave his dick at them and scare them. If my memory serves me right his nick name was Horse.



crazyml -> RE: Whats in a name (10/1/2010 10:24:37 AM)

MV,

Thanks for your reply.

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As for people who find this wrong, strange, funny, egotistical or whatever, thats fine to. Obviously you would not be happy in such a relationship and thats as it should be. This is why you are in your type of relationship. It makes you happy. This makes those in a relationship with me happy. If it did not they would not be in the relationship.


Really solid point, really well made.



crazyml -> RE: Whats in a name (10/1/2010 10:25:55 AM)

I suspect he was a better soldier as a consequence.



tazzygirl -> RE: Whats in a name (10/1/2010 11:07:21 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Resident Babe just won't work - no way. 

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I just call whomever is my partner by their name.

Sometimes I use affectionate terms like honey, babe.

I only use the other words during those specific times that it seems relevant, usually during a scene. But in my relationships titles were not the thing; it was what we were doing that was more important.



How about Resident Honey Bunny?



IronBear -> RE: Whats in a name (10/1/2010 11:24:40 AM)

Strangely enough, since being called Honey (not used that much here or at least where I meander), has only happened when I have visited the Southern States of the US, if a female address me as such, it has the effect if switching on my hormones and I end up quite randy.


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ORIGINAL: crazyml

I suspect he was a better soldier as a consequence.


I believe he did well in Vietnam and survived it intact so I'd say so. I did hear him referring to as that big f**king Platoon Commander and a few other choice comments whilst he was recovering from his bad hang over.



tazzygirl -> RE: Whats in a name (10/1/2010 10:32:30 PM)

~grins

The Carolinas southern enough for ya, Honey?



IronBear -> RE: Whats in a name (10/3/2010 10:02:18 AM)

Hell yes tassy lass and here I was thinking about quitting Queensland with all the BS and buggery and moving to the NW area of Tasmania and buying a largish farm to sort of retire (or expire) on.



Kaliko -> RE: Whats in a name (10/3/2010 2:48:16 PM)

"Sir", in response to a direct question or order or when I just like to. He's in the military - everybody calls him Sir all day long. I like to be just one more doing the same. Doesn't faze him in the slightest.



sweetsub1957 -> RE: Whats in a name (10/3/2010 3:49:04 PM)


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ORIGINAL: AlwaysLisa
When you come to the realization that you have a dominant nature and desire to have someone kneeling at your feet...what word comes to your mind?   Are you a master, or a sir?   Why?

He prefers Daddy. Unless I'm in big trouble for some reason. Then it's Master & I know instantly that I've F'ed up somehow. [:)]
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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam
Do any other Dom(mes) take a second glance when a sub that is NOT yours calls you Master or Mistress?

I remember before He we actually decided that I should belong to Him, I was not to call Him "Daddy" but "Daddy Tim." The term "Daddy" is only used when one actually belongs to Him.

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ORIGINAL: AlwaysLisa
On the flip side, to those doing the kneeling, what is your perception?  I realize you address the dominant force in your life in the manner he prefers, I wondered if in your heart/mind there was a difference in what each word means.

Because He prefers to be called Daddy unless I'm in trouble, I consider Daddy to be a very respectful and loving term. I consider Sir to be respectful too, but He doesn't prefer Sir. When I'm in trouble He's called Master. That's a little more scary to me and I'd better be even more humble than usual because I've F'ed up. I've only F'ed up once though, to date.

~sweetsub~




MistressLavinia -> RE: Whats in a name (10/3/2010 4:07:11 PM)

My title here is Mistress so there is no confusion, however it still confuses. Dominant women write to me asking me to serve them (and meet them offline) so apparently names or profiles mean nothing in black and white, or some people just don't get it. While in a Dominant/submissive relationship, I would have to know the person well, since I don't domme strangers, therefore I am called by my given name, as requested by me: Lavinia -




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