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Reasonable -> RE: equals? (4/29/2006 3:33:55 PM)

There will always be those of more ability and less in the world-that does not mean there is no room for improvement.

Let me put it this way-when I moved beyond the need for validation-I shed a crippling load, that had shackled my ability to move forward. Now I seek the knowledge and ability of those I see as suprior to myself,to become more like them. I admire and emulate thier examples.

I do not try to hamstring or demean such individuals. For I realize that such action is indicative of a person who truly IS inferior-but in denial of it. And who wishes to make others so, to feel better. And that they will never grow to be more, until they get out of the prison they have built around thier minds.................

The long and the short of it is this- you will never be on the top-or  bottom of the scale. But always somewhere in between. Those above,can help those below-if they desire it. And those below can climb-and that WAS the intent of the founding fathers, in teaching equality.

Because we have FORGOTTEN that what they promised was NOT the automatic equaility of persons.

It was the equality of OPPORTUNITY.





Level -> RE: equals? (4/29/2006 3:55:37 PM)

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Padriag wrote: Interesting question, some interesting answers.  Here's another.

No, they are not and never will be equal.  Ever.  Equality is a myth, its bullshit, a pretty concept cooked up by PC socialist to make everyone feel better.  Its a pretty unhealthy concept at that.

Now before anyone flames me, let's do two things.

First lets define exactly what kind of equality we're talking about here.

Are we equal in value?  Hmm... this is a prickly one.  Let me ask you this... on what basis do you value someone?  For example... I'm a total stranger to most of you, so who would you value more, me or say... one of your parents?  If I was trapped in a burning building with one of your parents, and you could only save one of us, who would you choose.  I'm guessing about 99% of you said your parent, congrats, you value your parent more than me... so we ain't equal in value then are we.


So, one that is submissive to you is of less worth than you?
 
Merit varies, I certainly agree with that. Rush Limbaugh is not Leonardo Da Vinci. But they both have the value of being human. Doesn't that matter? If it doesn't, then why should we respect those less (or "less") than us?
 
And yes, I value my mom more than I value you lol. But that has nothing to do with whether or not you have value.
 
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Padriag wrote: Six years ago I had a slave, she was also my fiance'.  She was one of those people who was smarter than me.  She was far better educated, had been to the best schools, studied across Europe, had a lot of advantages.  Artistically she was so incredibly talented she made me look like an artistic dud... and most folks consider me a fairly good artist (I used to make my living as a painter).  She could sing, play eight different musical instruments (I'm still struggling to learn one), spoke seven languages fluently, etc.  I tend to measure value by merit... and by my reckoning she was superior to me in almost every way.  I loved her for it, among other reasons.  Perhaps most of all because she was a better person than me, more humane, more kind, more generous, more noble.  She helped me be a better person.  I was her Master... I was her inferior... and it didn't make a bit of difference to the fact I loved her til the day she died.  What did matter was we were two people both trying to be the best we could be.



I believe this answers my initial question to you. I tended to look at the "equality" being spoken of in this thread as "dominant means superior to submissive, period", and would argue against such a notion. I still say that just by virtue of being human, that gives us value (but does not promise what we'll do with it), and likely you and I won't agree on that alone having anything to do with equality..... but I would stress we're also viewing the word in different lights. I do find much to commend with most of  your other statements.
 
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theRose4U -> RE: equals? (4/29/2006 6:50:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: murmur

After talking with a fews doms here and there...i've been wondering....
I wish to have people's honest answers here...
I personnaly thinks that submissive and dominants should be equals, dont you think? or that, when one choose to become one *beneath* the other, it doesnt mean he becomes *really* beneath him, but only in this state because he chooses so. therefore, the equal thingy is still there.
But i've been talking and asking lots of questions...and a lots of doms would answer me to my question as if :
yeah, you and me are equals right now. but if you were on my collar or if you would be my sub, you would have to answer to my demands and therefore, be beneath me.

but but but...what does that mean?? i believe in the yin and yan thing in a D/s relationship, the *you complete me* thing...not the beneath me thing...or is there differences? is there exceptions?
is a slave *less* worthy then her master only because she surrenders her whole being to him?
personnally, i dont think so!
but, where is the lign here? is *there* a lign?
Does the terms submission means inferiority? or the opposite, as in, dominance = superiority? for a lot of doms, it does seems so....

What do you think?


I think this depends on what your definition of equals is.

Personally no my relationships with my boys are very deffinate not equal. The last one that got the idea of being equal was given to me in the form of why can't I be in charge. Ummm NO. Well can't we just be equals then? I ask what to you is equal...you know like "normal couples" do it the man in charge and the woman does the cooking, cleaning & shopping. After I picked my eyes and jaw off the floor, I asked so what exactly did you not understand when I told you I was a Domme and you agreed to be a sub?

Needless to say this was the final discussion before his release. 




Reasonable -> RE: equals? (4/29/2006 8:21:41 PM)

How frustrating Rose,how do you figure he managed to slip through your initial screening?




theRose4U -> RE: equals? (4/29/2006 9:26:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Reasonable

How frustrating Rose,how do you figure he managed to slip through your initial screening?

With him being a newbie there are red flags that you make note of point out the penalties for such behavior and try to move on. It's those little sparks that you have to keep a constant eye on because eventually those are the issues that will flare up and burn your butt.

Such is the gamble with a newbie male. Sometimes they will take to the bit and run with it following your direction. Others wait till you teach them a few things then buck you off to turn Dom.[:'(]

He even had the nerve to try to approach me TWICE under different profiles. Once to be his sub...AS IF, the other to "just be friends"[sm=ofcourse.gif]




Reasonable -> RE: equals? (4/29/2006 9:29:35 PM)

Been there,done that know the drill.
Ya keep on keepin on anyhow-luck of the draw.




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