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If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 11:16:00 AM   
Bravado


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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 11:38:31 AM   
stef


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Status: offline 		Life goes on.

~stef


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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 1:27:48 PM   
pyroaquatic


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From: Pyroaquatica
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bravado

What next?



Cry, Eat Ice cream, Watch Movies, repeat for four days or more.

Find something to do without anyone else. Learn to be alone even though I loathe loneliness.

Cry some more. Bust a few blood vessels in the head because you are dry heaving and you are crying so hard.

After that it becomes a steady depression that lasts for a bit.

Damn fluctuations.


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As your desire is, so is your will.
As your will is, so is your deed.
As your deed is, so is your destiny.
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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 2:20:55 PM   
RipenReady


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic
Cry, Eat Ice cream, Watch Movies, repeat for four days or more.

Find something to do without anyone else. Learn to be alone even though I loathe loneliness.

Cry some more. Bust a few blood vessels in the head because you are dry heaving and you are crying so hard.

After that it becomes a steady depression that lasts for a bit.

Damn fluctuations.



Have you been looking in my window watching me? 

It's something that you have to move on from..I've been there and done that.  Twice.  It feels like you've lost a huge part of you and you just want to crawl under a rock and die but you've got to move on.  Don't give up on the lifestyle because it'll draw you back in..trust me..I've tried a few times.  You keep coming back.  You just have to learn from this experience and keep working on YOU and trying to better yourself and don't worry about finding a Dom/Domme right away.  You've got to heal from losing this one before you're ready to move on.  It'll take time but trust me, it's worth it in the long run.  There's someone out there for you and in time you'll find them. 

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 2:22:48 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 2:24:14 PM   
FetishRose


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Status: offline 		Like any other relationship ending....cry, be sad...go to your friends/family for comfort.  Find yourself again, relearn to do things on your own.
And realize that everything happens for a reason.


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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 2:55:31 PM   
AquaticSub


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Drink a lot more for awhile. Then sober up and track his ass down so that we could split everything in divorce court.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 3:11:21 PM   
crazyml


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Status: offline 		You had me worried as I began to read "and track his ass down...."

;-)



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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 3:37:20 PM   
EnemaConnoisseur


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Status: offline 		you can go on, and look forward to someone new. Never know your next Master or Owner may be the one you was looking for all along. when you both find each other you'll both know! keep your chin up kid, now get in there and get going!

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 3:37:34 PM   
hausboy


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Status: offline 		you pick up the shattered pieces of glass that once was your heart....  you piece them back together as best as you can....  you put them back in the hole in your chest....you take a deep breath...  and wait for it to start beating again.

I've been there, Bravado.  Spent my entire adult life with one woman who walked out on me without much pomp or circumstance.

It was devastating.  I have a kick ass therapist who helped me mend, and now my life is pretty damn good.  It just takes time.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 3:46:55 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I move on? I continue on with my life the same as I did before I ever met him.


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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 3:59:43 PM   
CreativeDominant


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Status: offline 		It depends where you are in life and where the relationship was.  All kinds of things can happen depending on what sort of relationship it was...was it D/s or was it romance with D/s?...and what sort of person you are.

My serious D/s relationships have had romance involved within them, even when I was with my first submissive...who was married and whose husband was aware of his wife's relationship with me.  I've described what happened there...we ended our relationship as Master/girl because she wanted to move on in her D/s life and become a dominant herself.  I helped her with that and she is a fine dominant now and is still with her husband who is also dominant with his own submissive.  My first feels no submission to anyone now except me.  She still loves me...still has want of me physically and soulfully...and her submissive and her husband both know it.  Do we act on it?  No...but tis a nice ego-stroke that her heart still holds me that way.

Of my next D/s relationships...I've left and been left.  Either way, it was devastating though for differing reasons, naturally.  You will go through the stages of grief, much like a mourning process, and that is natural.  You'll eat more than you should, drink more than you should, engage in risky behavior occasionally...but with the help of friends and/or therapy...you'll get through it.  And when you come out on the other end...you'll be ready for the next phase of life.  Within your heart and mind, you may be ready for the next love...or you may find that this love is it for you.  And then you learn to live with that but hopefully not with a heart that is closed to others entering your life, even if they never become what this person was to you.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 4:19:03 PM   
peppermint


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From: Montana
Status: offline 		Shit happens.  People break up.  People die unexpectedly.  You roll up your sleeves and get on with your own life.  

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 4:47:00 PM   
whiteslavebitch


Posts: 479
Joined: 9/10/2007
Status: offline 		Cry, mourn, get on with life. Recover eventually and seek another D/s or M/s relationship.

I love him beyond measure, he's the first man I've really loved, but I know eventually I'd be able to love again under the right circumstances.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 4:51:04 PM   
porcelaine


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bravado

What next?



Greetings Bravado,

In the past I would have provided a response that was similar to those mentioned. However, my beliefs about what constitutes an M/s union have undergone a dramatic shift. I can honestly say that if the other person vacated the relationship I'd have to give serious consideration as to whether one or the other jumped the gun and embarked upon a path that wasn't meant to be trod. What I'm essentially suggesting is that unions of this nature should have some element of permanence. If either are seeking the door too eagerly perhaps it is the best solution in the long run. I have a hard time reconciling how one creates a supposedly irrefutable bond that he desires to depart at a later time. It's a poor testament to the tether.

Namaste,

~porcelaine


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His will; my fate.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 5:05:33 PM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		Why would he? If the relationship was going bad, I would know about it and would have started withdrawing emotionally.

Now if he got a job on the West Coast and we were mainly pen pals again, that's something else. As is him having a sudden heart attack. But he wouldn't just walk out anymore than I would.


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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 5:08:54 PM   
bestheadyet


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Status: offline 		well all i can tell you is to read all of my posts regarding this subject from back in june and july of this year.

your heart will mend....eventually.
and youre welcome to message me if you need advice....yeah right...or just a shoulder....im really good at that...ask around

hugs for u and your sad heart....
josie

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 5:15:28 PM   
bestheadyet


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic

quote:

ORIGINAL: Bravado

What next?



Cry, Eat Ice cream, Watch Movies, repeat for four days or more.

Find something to do without anyone else. Learn to be alone even though I loathe loneliness.

Cry some more. Bust a few blood vessels in the head because you are dry heaving and you are crying so hard.

After that it becomes a steady depression that lasts for a bit.

Damn fluctuations.



oh GAWD  that was soooooooooo me!!!
still kinda is lol

poor thing huh

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 5:41:19 PM   
Aileen1968


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Joined: 12/12/2007
From: I miss Shore, New Jersey
Status: offline 		I'd be incredibly lost and sad.
He's my biggest source of strength and confidence.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 8:28:32 PM   
SubPet715


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Joined: 8/24/2010
From: Brooklyn, NY
Status: offline 		Yes life does go on, try to cry in the rain so no one sees your tears, after the clouds clear you will notice it is a brand new day.

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