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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 8:36:27 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		You go on.  The same way you did before you ever met him.  You would concentrate on remembering the good times and wish him well.  Of course this only works if you are a well-adjusted, mentally stable person.  

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 8:52:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Bravado

What next?



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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 9:14:18 PM   
Twoshoes


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Status: offline 		I'd run till the physical pain overwhelms any other kind and then blissfully fall asleep to experience some terrible dreams - hopefully, waking up with no recollection.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 9:53:50 PM   
HeidiAnn


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Status: offline 		I think I would most likely wait for a while for Him/Her to come back to give us both a chance to work things out. But, I feel that if that happened, we would need to start from the scratch. That would mean ending the M/s relationship and starting again and possibly with some external (? is this the proper way to use this word) help from an outsider. So in other words, if either of us walked, to me that would mean the end of the relationship. But I'd be willing to give us another chance, and I really hope the same from Him/Her too.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 10:00:39 PM   
ResidentSadist


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sing 2 choruses of "another one bites the dust"
. . . then find a new one.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 9/30/2010 10:07:13 PM   
NuevaVida


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bravado

What next?



It happened two years ago after a 4 year relationship.

I threw my collar across the room, cried, hyperventilated, started smoking again, drank too much, ate too much, and relied on amazing friends to get me through the shock.

Then I took ownership of myself back, and moved on. 


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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/1/2010 6:04:16 AM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Well heck if a sweetheart of mine up and left me, I would hope that I would thank my lucky stars that it was sooner rather than later.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/1/2010 10:04:49 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I would honestly be shocked, devastated, confused. He would not just up and leave me without a word, we love each other, and would try to talk things out if it got to the point that he wanted to leave.

However if the unthinkable happened i would cry, execise like a fiend then pick up the peices and move on I would have too cause no matter how bad you feel the worls is not gonna stop relovlong around the sun.

I hope i never have to deal with this cause he says I am never letting you go.

Matt's littleone

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/1/2010 10:05:18 AM   
dreamerdreaming


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With my ownership reverted back to me, I'd concentrate on being an outstanding owner of myself- and be glad of the chance to be the kind of fantastic, attentive, loving, kind owner that I deserve.

I wouldn't waste time being angry at him, and I wouldn't be too sad over it either- because we're not wasting any (more) of our time together, so that should be seen as a good thing for us both. So I'd be happy to be single again. Being single is awesome, and if you don't think so- then you're not doing it right. :oP


That will be five cents, please.

Next!


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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/1/2010 1:30:12 PM   
agirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1ScBNkXaJk&ob=av2e


Enjoyed that ....only about 8 times......... T'was fun.

I got better things to do!

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/1/2010 2:31:54 PM   
CaringandReal


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quote:

ORIGINAL: agirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h1ScBNkXaJk&ob=av2e


Enjoyed that ....only about 8 times......... T'was fun.

I got better things to do!

agirl X



I liked it too, a catchy tune and a funny response to this thread, although she was a tad bit defensive, I'd say (of the lady doth protest... variety). ;) I wish youtube didn't always pause the song after playing only a few seconds of it. Their bandwidth issues have made it one of my least favorite places online to go to to hear music.

In answer to the thread question, I'd try to find out why.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/1/2010 4:38:48 PM   
Bravado


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Greetings Bravado,

In the past I would have provided a response that was similar to those mentioned. However, my beliefs about what constitutes an M/s union have undergone a dramatic shift. I can honestly say that if the other person vacated the relationship I'd have to give serious consideration as to whether one or the other jumped the gun and embarked upon a path that wasn't meant to be trod. What I'm essentially suggesting is that unions of this nature should have some element of permanence. If either are seeking the door too eagerly perhaps it is the best solution in the long run. I have a hard time reconciling how one creates a supposedly irrefutable bond that he desires to depart at a later time. It's a poor testament to the tether.

Namaste,

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/1/2010 7:53:06 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		I'd be crushed. Then I'd take stock of my life, figure out if I wanted to pursue finding someone new or not, and go about things. I owe myself the best life possible and this is not contingent on if I have a man or not.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/1/2010 8:35:24 PM   
sweetsub1957


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bravado

What next?


Aaah well. It just so happens that this recently happened to me, in a way. Actually, He just totally stopped communicating w/ me AT ALL, and I cried and worried & worried and cried, I got panicky, and then I realized what He was doing. He was passively dumping me without giving me the decency of letting me know. Then I texted Him even though He'd told me not to and asked to be released. I mean I wanted to have some closure. So then He said I was released but came back whining again. I said no. Why should I reconsider with Someone who didn't have the backbone to come right out and say goodbye? Then I moved on with my life. And I've gotten a lot of crap from certain people in my life for moving on, but.....oh well.

~sweetsub~

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/1/2010 10:52:08 PM   
sexyred1


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Status: offline 		Yeah, well, you can still feel like crap even if you are the one doing the leaving. I just ended a 12 year very intense relationship and it hurts like hell. Some days are great, some are just ok and some are like walking through quicksand.

However, I know I did the right thing because this person I cared for was hurting me, pure and simple and it was not helping or adding to my life.

What to do? Just keep going one day at a time. Take good care of yourself, that is most important. You can do some self destructive things for a bit, but get back to healthy ways of coping.

I had a date tonight, the first after this all happpened a few months ago. I did not want to go on the date. But I went, it was ok. Did I feel intensely about the guy? NO. Do I think he will be the next one. NO. Did I have fun? Sure.

At least I went; that was enough for me at this point.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/2/2010 11:27:30 AM   
sweetsub1957


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Yeah, well, you can still feel like crap even if you are the one doing the leaving.

Yep. I have to agree with that.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/3/2010 9:17:07 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Bravado

What next?




nothing.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/3/2010 11:25:58 PM   
subwaythru


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Status: offline 		It happened, and i was so sad. There was also the fact that this was my best friend, too, and that went away, too.
i never thought there could be anything like that again, not for me.
And i was right, there wasn't and isn't going to be anything like that again. But what was, inevitably evolves into something else. i quietly lived my life, grieving when it was appropriate. Things were not like usual .... but, if one continues to see another day, and another day after that, there just becomes a new "usual". i had a life with friends and work and hobbies before....and i had a life with friends and work and hobbies after, too.

Somehow, there appeared One so powerfully unmistakeable it knocked the breath out of me. This does not look like anything that this one, who was a sub-all-the-way-thru, ever imagined. Things are not what they seemed to be, nor could they be otherwise. There is no explaining the unexplainable. i was and am flabbergasted and humbled by this gift.

i guess what i am trying to say is, i don't get to see the future, and when i stop deciding The Way The World Is and The Way It Ought To Be, i can remember what was without bitterness, live my life in peace and even happiness, and leave the door open to possibility.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/5/2010 1:05:55 PM   
boi4lady


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Status: offline 		what next is right. I am going through it now and can't figure it out to save my life. I can't eat or sleep and I wake up crying. It is such an empty feeling. I have not been without Mistress since I was 14. I finally begged her to let me have a part, any part in her life.... just to ease my way out of this. She agreed, so at least I know I will see her again. Even so, the sense of shame and failure is overpowering. And then there is the horniness with nobody to share it that understands how I am.... how she trained me to be.

Sorry OPer, I know this is your question and I am usirping it. I don't have any answers, of course, and I am sure people will not find my way of dealing with it very healthy. All I can offer is the knowledge that you are not alone, it isn't easy at all.

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RE: If your owner/master suddenly left you... - 10/7/2010 2:14:46 PM   
NymphetamineGirl


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Status: offline 		OK, first I wouldn't assume anything until I heard either from or about the Master from family/friends.  Crazy things do occur.

If he did just up and leave...I'd be inclined to believe the bastard wasn't qualified to call himself such.  A slave/sub is immensely reliant on a Master and it is profoundly irresponsible not to see them transitioned to meeting their own needs.  If this is the case, please do NOT spend weeks racking your brain over what you did wrong.  It's crap.




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