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RE: Personal Question - 10/2/2010 7:11:12 AM

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The question is an attempt to gauge the relevance of responses to other posts. Sometimes the current situation of the person responding is a direct reflection on what they post. For this very reason, i do not expect many to answer this post.

i think the current situation of the person responding is indeed a direct reflection on what they post.... moodswings and all... i am suffering pmt at this moment... can you tell????
is it not easier to just check users profiles?

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RE: Personal Question - 10/2/2010 8:06:22 AM

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W/we do not live together but only live about 15 minutes away from each other. Just started off in our relationship and we spend as much time together as possible. He has very long work hours and i have different hours every week. W/we talk every day though and eventually if things go the right way W/we may move in together.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/2/2010 8:34:45 AM

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The question is an attempt to gauge the relevance of responses to other posts. Sometimes the current situation of the person responding is a direct reflection on what they post. For this very reason, i do not expect many to answer this post.

People can say anything about themselves on the internet. Don't judge by what people claim to be. Judge by the pattern of their posts. Are they usually insightful, or are they usually clueless? Do they use language that shoulders responsibility, or do they couch everything they say in weasel words?

Also, the way you phrase a question has a lot to do with the responses you will receive. The undertone of your question, in this case, is that people in relationships are somehow more "qualified" in your eyes. As a result, the people posting on your thread are the ones who "have the qualifications," since it's not a lot of fun to "admit weakness" on the internet.

I, however, don't accept your criteria. I've known longtime couples who were dysfunctional as hell, and longtime single people who were both wise and emotionally healthy.

To kinda-sorta-answer your question, a female friend recently said to me, "You want a relationship, but you're also having a great time being an ethical player." And that's true.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/2/2010 8:36:37 AM

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Master and I were platonic friends (RL) friends for three years before we dated. Master and I have lived together for 11 years and 4 months. We have been married for 10 years and 6 months.

He's on this site, but spends most of his time on FL.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/2/2010 9:30:44 AM

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Thanks for the responses. i didn't mean to sound hostile. i only meant that i understand people not wishing to answer personal questions.
To answer my own question, Master and i have been together for 8 months now and have lived together for the past 4.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/2/2010 3:56:46 PM

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Master and i were LDR for about a year while we were getting to know each other, with 3 visits during that time of increasing length. Then He moved across country (Australia, as big as USA) to be with me in June 2004. Still very happily together, now in a motorhome and moving across (and up and down and all over) this same country! So my sub side (violet) is very much attached, collared since June 2006, and speaks from that perspective.

However, to confuse the issue, I also have a strong Domme side (Jay) and that is how I am better known here as that is the side that continues to seek a full time sub partner. The intent is for the right person to live with Master and I in a triumvirate. Still looking ... so Jay speaks from an unattached, though experienced, perspective.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/2/2010 4:02:53 PM

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For those willing to answer, i appreciate Y/your respones. Quite a few of Y/you on this site profess to be or have eluded to be in a current D/s and/or M/s relationship with another on this site. How many of Y/you live together or spend more than the occasional weekend together.

We are together at least five days a week. When he's not with me he's down at the beach.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/3/2010 6:43:39 AM

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MasterK and I do not live together, but we see each other frequently (several times a week).

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RE: Personal Question - 10/3/2010 11:18:38 AM

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B and I don't want to live together...but we're as close to it as comfortably possible.
On average I sleep over 5 nights a week, I have a drawer (half-empty) and a shelf on his bookcase (overflowing - priorities, you know ;) and I cook and clean and do laundry and get groceries when he doesn't have time to.
I also have an apartment a few blocks away. I work from home so I spend a lot of time there, hang out with the cats, change clothes, stay in alone now and then, and have my space where everything is where it should be and the mildly ocd part of me can relax.
It's a good system for us.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/3/2010 12:39:51 PM

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Daddy and I live together full time. And my X dom and I we saw each other quite a lot, several times a month. it was more than "just an occasional week together"

There's quite a few relationship models out there, why only ask those who're D/s or M/s

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ORIGINAL: subforherMaster

For those willing to answer, i appreciate Y/your respones. Quite a few of Y/you on this site profess to be or have eluded to be in a current D/s and/or M/s relationship with another on this site. How many of Y/you live together or spend more than the occasional weekend together.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/3/2010 3:23:16 PM

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For those willing to answer, i appreciate Y/your respones. Quite a few of Y/you on this site profess to be or have eluded to be in a current D/s and/or M/s relationship with another on this site. How many of Y/you live together or spend more than the occasional weekend together.

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The question is an attempt to gauge the relevance of responses to other posts. Sometimes the current situation of the person responding is a direct reflection on what they post. For this very reason, i do not expect many to answer this post.

Quantitative Statistics & Measurability for Usability Testing is what your question appears to be. With that said one is left to ponder why do you ask what you term as a “Personal Question“ yet ask for specific data of those on this site?

Further you vaguely answer a question from another who contributed with a contradiction as to why you are asking this question. Is there a method to this for you or are you baiting those who are unsuspecting?

I decline to provide personal data likened to practicum student questions that are concealed when asked by those who are either stupidly asking OR just a personal question with an undefined clear concrete reason for the asking. Nonetheless of total strangers is all, aye?

Take care!

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RE: Personal Question - 10/3/2010 4:01:45 PM

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My lovely sub stays here on weekends, and we try to get together once a week beyond that. Maybe more after kids move out, we will have not talked about it and out relationship is probably too new to go much further very soon,.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/3/2010 11:48:14 PM

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RE: Personal Question - 10/4/2010 4:56:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: subforherMaster

The question is an attempt to gauge the relevance of responses to other posts. Sometimes the current situation of the person responding is a direct reflection on what they post. For this very reason, i do not expect many to answer this post.

Do you think your posts have more relevance now than before you lived together, 4 months ago?

He and I do not live together but spend as much time as possible together. When it's only weekends, we do not consider them "casual." We're in a full fledged relationship here. I post what I post and people can take something from them or not - their choice.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/4/2010 8:55:13 PM

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Ehhh I'm still trying to figure out what the question has to do with the price of tea in china.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/4/2010 9:25:54 PM

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Y/your Y/you D/s M/s Y/you

All that upper lower casing stuff is making me dizzy.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/4/2010 11:12:02 PM

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I have a sister sub...we are not intimately active however we are rarely apart durring the week and rarely do not speak to each other several times a day via internet or visiting in person. We ony live 8 minutes from each other. I cant imagine her not being my sister sub and it even seems as though we are in an odd poly lifestyle. We share everything about her possibly soon to be Dom and he knows me. However I respect her space with him and whomever she spends time with and she.. me. She is the closest sister I have ... Being Poly.. can mean differant things to differant people. Poly sisters dont always have to be sexually active with each other, but may feel very much a part of the family.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/14/2010 1:37:06 AM

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Me and Daddy met on here and have been living together since April. We have been together since January while I lived in TN and he lived here in Iowa. Being with or without a Dom/me didn't make me less able to answer posts. I just based my answers on my past experiences when single and on my past and present experience now that I have someone.

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RE: Personal Question - 10/14/2010 8:27:21 AM

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We met on here and are now married.
Prior to my husband I lived with a guy for for years and I met him on here too!
In my opinion, this is the best dating site in the world

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RE: Personal Question - 10/14/2010 8:31:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: subforherMaster

The question is an attempt to gauge the relevance of responses to other posts. Sometimes the current situation of the person responding is a direct reflection on what they post. For this very reason, i do not expect many to answer this post.

Aren't all responses to all posts based on current and past situations/emotions of the person responding? If one has an understanding of basic human nature, then one knows that everything is subjective and not objective.

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