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cillydom -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 3:47:58 PM)

To me there are two sins a dom could commit that will destroy a relationship the fastest, betrayal and dom rot.



juliaoceania -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 3:57:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: cillydom

To me there are two sins a dom could commit that will destroy a relationship the fastest, betrayal and dom rot.


what is dom rot???...Never heard of that before...lol



Proprietrix -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 3:58:12 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: cillydom
To me there are two sins a dom could commit that will destroy a relationship the fastest, betrayal and dom rot.


Dom rot? Never heard that term before.
(Anything like fin rot that fish get?)
All joking aside, will you tell me what that means?



Sensualips -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 4:05:28 PM)

I am kind of weirded out too, because I can think of SO MANY things worst than lying.  Maybe my mind is just too creative today.



cillydom -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 4:19:47 PM)

Dom rot is anything that affects his ability to be the dom she expects him to be i.e. Going soft.




cariad -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 4:27:45 PM)

perhaps girl is tired but she would say the worst things a Dom could do include:

  1. disrespect  you, your beliefs, values and morals
  2. lying
  3. cheating
  4. being abusive
  5. anything to do with minors
  6. definitely disrespecting the elderly, infirm (sp) and your limits
  7. going back on His word
the list goes on and on but girl will stop at this..... Master IronBear, girl Thanks You for Your wonderful posts.



Areflectionofyou -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 4:34:00 PM)

lying and stealing...



meatcleaver -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 4:34:34 PM)

For one to be dishonourable, one assumes there has to be a code of honor. I'm more of a 'alls fair in love and war' sort of guy. Why pretend one can rise above human emotion, to do so is to straitjacket ones flaws and more liable to increase the flaws of ones character. As humans we have to work with the grain which is why I assume we are accepting of kink.

As for child abuse which has been mentioned, for many peadophiles it is a matter of being subject to overwhelming sexual urges and therefore it isn't a case of simply making a decision to take a particular action, they will always be a danger even with therapy which even experts accept is no cure. Their nature conflicts with social and cultural acceptence. The question is what to do with them since their nature can't be changed.



Wulfchyld -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 4:44:40 PM)

[sm=ugh.gif]



Tikkiee -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 4:45:12 PM)

Abuse of any kind, with any person; no matter gender or age; would be at the top of my list.



wytchywoman -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 4:46:09 PM)

To put it very simplistically, to me the worst thing a dominant could do is betray the trust that anyone gives him/her. 



meatcleaver -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 4:55:06 PM)

Let me add, I'm a real believer in the road to hell being paved with good intentions which I think fits this thread.



catize -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 4:59:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

What do you feel the most dishonorable things a Dominant can do are?

I would like to think that Dominants are honor bound and above lying and abuse. However I am a realist and was curious as to what your thoughts and experiences on the topic were.

Loki

If a person is a liar or an abuser, if they harm the unconsenting, if they do not take responsibility for their actions, if they run from an unpleasant task, if they deliberately break their word, then they are not a dominant. 
Perhaps a better question would be, should a dominant hold themselves to the highest standard of conduct in order to command respect and submission from anyone?

Edited to add:  But I'm not bitter!  LOL



Proprietrix -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 5:12:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: catize
if they run from an unpleasant task,

lol
I admit it.
I run from cleaning the kitchen.



Wulfchyld -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 5:13:06 PM)

Well meatcleaver, I appreciate your honesty and candor. I am also sure that any potential sub/slave that was entertaining contacting you is also very appreciative.
 
Loki



catize -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 5:29:44 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: catize
if they run from an unpleasant task,

lol
I admit it.
I run from cleaning the kitchen.

<grins>  So would I if I thought I could get away with it! 
In my choice of word 'task' I wasn't thinking about chores. 



yourMissTress -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 5:31:44 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld
What do you feel the most dishonorable things a Dominant can do are?


My answer is based on an adult, mutually consensual, 24/7 D/s relationship in which neither the Dom or sub is a sociopath, pedophile, or has any other mental defect that would cause them to commit a heinous crime.
 
I think that the most dishonorable thing that a Dom/me can do inside such a relationship would be to betray the trust of the sub, whether that be by lying, cheating, stealing or any other means. 



meatcleaver -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 5:34:06 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

Well meatcleaver, I appreciate your honesty and candor. I am also sure that any potential sub/slave that was entertaining contacting you is also very appreciative.
 
Loki


They are never lied to. What they see is what they get.

Of course with a little intellectual discourse they understand where I'm coming from and what to expect. It's not a case of them being surprised or shocked. I still play with a sub I met sixteen years ago when I'm in the same city so I guess I can't be completely beyond the pale.



chelsea4Daddy -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 5:36:06 PM)

To abuse the power entrusted to Him.

chelsea



LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Honor and dishonor (4/25/2006 5:51:21 PM)

i can see a common thread here about lying dishonest totally agree betrayal. the healing process takes a long while sometimes eome never get over it. so no matter what you are dom sub domme switch, know that if someone does you wrong. dont get mad get even lol. anyhow most things are karma. i try to educate people about people with those traits to do those you can spot them just need to trust your gut. while friends may try and  behelpful or online peeps its always our choice how or what we do or let happen to us 



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