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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 10/23/2010 3:41:12 AM

TotalDiscipline

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ORIGINAL: BambiBoi
I took a sexy picture I like and would like to be, but isn't me... and used that.

Last year ..with my old profile...I had a picture of my slave in my profile.
I had several Masters talking to me...thinking I was the female person in the picture. I guess they didn't read the first line in my profile.
...lol
But now I understand...why some females act the way they do on here. Was fun....and scary at the same time.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 10/24/2010 4:30:42 PM

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I DID IT!!!!! I finally have a profile pic. Tell me what ya'll think about it. Thanks to this forum/post I was able to decide how to deal with the issue of what to use for a pic. Hope you like it. Have a great night

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 10/25/2010 11:11:10 PM

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I fully understand peoples resistance to posting photos. If the profile sounds right I may send a note and if some trust and interest is established then I can see his photo.
I post my own face shots in my profile along with scene shots I like. Personally putting a lot of information out front in my profile and providing self photos is the most effective way to meet potential slaves with whom I may be compatible.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 10/26/2010 3:53:05 AM

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My search is off at the moment but when it is on 99.9% of the time I search picture profiles ONLY. I don't hide in the shadows (I don't shout what I am from the rooftops either) I don't live My life that way, I am active on the local scene... munches, clubs, events... if they can't even put a face shot up then they are likely too invested in hiding to be compatible anyhow.

That said, it takes more than a pretty picture to get Me mailing, if they haven't written a decent profile blurb that gives Me some indication that they have put effort into communication and have the self awareness to know what they are looking/suited for then I'm unlikely to do anything else than click "Next profile"

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 10/29/2010 8:00:59 AM

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There are so many free programs out there that you can use to
modify an image of yourself and still remain somewhat incognito.
I went for the Groucho Marx look here.....the smile is all mine though.
I'd be happy to help anyone achieve this look, or one similar.

ETA- I added the image here because I'll not always have the same avatar.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 10/29/2010 8:58:17 AM

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Poise, I can still recognize you. Back from 1983.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 10/29/2010 9:04:28 AM

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Ahhhh....those were the days.

You've grown into a much bigger shoe since then.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 10/29/2010 12:01:11 PM

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I personally feel it's a person's right on if they want a picture up or not. I also feel that a person can have their reasons for requiring a pic upon contact.

As for safety of people's jobs, well, the person would kind of have to explain why they were on the site in the first place to GET the pic. Could you picture your boss going "I was on collarme.com the other day and..."

I don't mind people not having a pic but if we are starting to get a bit close, it is nice to have a face to go with a personality.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 10/30/2010 4:21:06 PM

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I really don't take this too serious... some people have their underwear all bundged up with a bit of an attitude. When somebody shows you what they are like "believe it". Sure some people are jaded and disillusioned by the bullshit and players online.

At the moment, I don't even have an active profile let alone any pictures up. Then again, I'm not exactly looking for anybody or putting myself out there. I myself have encountered a few that passed off pictures of other women as themselves. One thing is for certain, that sooner or later the truth comes out and red flags start to fly. The one thing that counts the most is time spent interacting with somebody.

In the past, I've always shared pictures of myself and looked for the same in return, just basic common sense..and should not be some major drama filled tooth pulling task. lol I think a lot of people make things far more difficult than needed.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 11/5/2010 7:50:40 PM

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I don't have a picture up because of the line of work I'm in, can't afford to have my preferences known by the outside world. It also allows me to be totally comfortable and honest expressing myself here. I may get creative and post a part of me....I can assure you I am real and will respond to any communication.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 11/6/2010 2:47:25 AM

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I agree. I think that professionals, often, don't have profile pictures posted, or they have poor quality photos posted. If a name is interesting, I'll click on it, and read the profile, but truthfully, on my search I have photos only checked, so my clicking on names is limited to those that either view me, or write to me. I've found that if Someone really wants to get to know me, professional, or not, they, generally, will attach a pic to their emails. I'm professional, and educated as well, but have several pictures posted for the simple reason that if someone I know sees my pics here, the likelihood of them mentioning it is low because then they would have to admit they were on the site. C'est la vie.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 11/6/2010 5:37:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: Serenelysmiles

I agree. I think that professionals, often, don't have profile pictures posted, or they have poor quality photos posted. If a name is interesting, I'll click on it, and read the profile, but truthfully, on my search I have photos only checked, so my clicking on names is limited to those that either view me, or write to me. I've found that if Someone really wants to get to know me, professional, or not, they, generally, will attach a pic to their emails. I'm professional, and educated as well, but have several pictures posted for the simple reason that if someone I know sees my pics here, the likelihood of them mentioning it is low because then they would have to admit they were on the site. C'est la vie.

Exactly. And that is why if someone has no photo posted and I request one privately, if they still use that excuse, I am not interested. With the amount of men who say they have high profile jobs so they cannot share a private photo, we must be dealing with all sorts of politicians and TV stars on Collarme apparently.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 11/6/2010 6:46:09 AM

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Exactly. And that is why if someone has no photo posted and I request one privately, if they still use that excuse, I am not interested. With the amount of men who say they have high profile jobs so they cannot share a private photo, we must be dealing with all sorts of politicians and TV stars on Collarme apparently.

In this day it is not about your random coworker stumbling across your profile and snitching it to your boss. It's about your company paying people/using services to scour known social media sites looking for traces of your information. You can read about cases like this in the news without taking much time to search for them.

There are other reasons specific to the industry and company I work for, but I'm not alone in those, the details might just be different... but you do not need to be a CEO or a celebrity to potentially have a profile here cause serious trouble in your life.

Do I expect my company to put this effort in at random? No, I do not. But we do a lot of work for three letter agencies at times, so anything is possible.

I will provide my picture on any reasonable request however, and I state that in my profile. If you get it that way and decide to make a fake profile or spam it around to people. I have plausible deniability. I have profiles on "vanilla" social sites with safe information. People can get my picture in other places, I just choose to not directly link it here.

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RE: The issue of pictures in profiles - 11/6/2010 1:14:21 PM

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I've given this much thought over these past several years of having profiles here and, as so often happens there's no one size fits all answer. I'm with poise(above), to a point, regarding my shallow side. Attraction happens or it doesn't. I have my "types" and some "types" just don't do it for me. I also know from a lifetime of experience that there's a limited percentage of women who find me attractive, a smaller percentage who find me hawt, then there's the main bunch who wouldn't give me a second glance. Which is fine, but I don't want to digress - attraction is a whole other topic. If I was actively looking I wouldn't automatically bypass profiles with no pic but I'd need to see one pretty quickly after communication begins. But, over time, another form of cynicism and lack of trust relevant to this thread has developed : I've seen enough multiple profiles and gameplayers and agendas and multiple profiles, even right in my local community, that trust takes more than a pic, whether on a profile or sent to me. I wouldn't entirely trust anyone online a) unless they're well known in my (or their) community, b) until I actually meet them, or c) they're recommended by someone I trust.

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