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why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 4:01:19 PM   
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edit: babied as in treated like a freaking infant with ridicilous needs, shouldn't it be the other way around that the slave is babied (not spoiled though) but treated sort of like a child by their master/mistress??

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 4:03:32 PM   
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No clue what you're talking about except that it always seems to be vast generalities.

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 4:06:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Do you mean as in "adult babied" - ya know - diapers 'n stuff?

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 4:07:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I love that you are inquisitive, but you have a way of making posts that take 5 pages just to pull
what you really mean to ask out of you. What do you mean by babies? Are you talking age play
-daddy relationships-people who like wearing diapers?
What have you come across that makes you curious about this, so we can answer accordingly..

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 4:13:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		babied as in being spoiled?

Because he can? I like spoiling him. I like doing anything I can for him, I like making his life easier and imo he deserves the best of the best because for me well...he IS the best of the best.  He's a good man.

Is that what you mean?

It seems from all your posts you can't understand that there are people who like doing things for those they love or care for. Maybe you see bdsm as a business transaction or you can't understand people caring for one another. I'm not sure what your deal is.

Maybe you're just still very young and still have a lot of growing up and learning to do. If that's the case just sit back and watch for awhile and get to know people and don't jump to conclusions or into what you THINK bdsm is.




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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 4:25:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		When Master's sick he likes being babied... in the sense that I'm taking care of him and being extra sweet and he gets to lay around in bed all day relaxing lol. He even finds it cute (sometimes) when I start talking to him in a baby voice, going, "Awwwwhe does my widdle Mastuu want his toesies rubbeded?" Though if I do it too much or sound too condescending I WILL get a right hard smack on the ass for it! Bahahaha!

If that isn't the way that you mean being babied (though I kind of have a feeling that it is) then it's not really something that's odd on any counts. It's something that pretty much EVERYONE loves and enjoys once in a while, just because it makes them feel special and loved and wanted and taken care of. And just as a Master/Mistress takes care of their sub/slave, the sub/slave is expected to take care of their Dom/me's needs too.


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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 4:45:53 PM   
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Status: offline 		yes that is what i meant. but i feel like i want to be babied and not babying someone else. does that mean i'm not even that submissive?

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 4:49:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't understand slaves being babied. How does that make one a slave? A slave works, a slave does things to make their Master's life easier. If the Master is doing all the work who really is in control then?

What it seems to me that you are seeking is a Daddy possibly?



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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 4:49:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		No, it just means that those are your desires and those Masters/Mistresses who do want to be babied are just not compatible with your wants/desires.

All you gotta do is look for the one that fits YOU.

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And seeing how littlewonder and I posted at the same exact time hehe, I would like to say that I also agree with her statement. You may be more interested in a DaddyDom-type of person rather than a MasterDom type person, because of the way they act in the relationship they're in.

DaddyDoms tend to be more into the nurturing/caring aspect rather than the service of said submissive - but don't hold this as solid fact, plenty of Master types do too, it's just a lot more common in those that identify as Daddies in my personal experiences.

But it still doesn't change the fact that you are submissive, just that your needs are your own and you need to find the Top/Dom/Master/Daddy/whatever you want to call them that fits your needs and the one whose needs you fit.

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 5:01:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		You either need to switch sides,  and be the dom who expects pampering and babying or find a dom who has an interest in   waiting on their subs, because most doms expect to be waited on and pampered and well taken care of  and served by the one who's serving them.

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 6:19:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		Topping, your statement is one reason why I dislike labels so much.

And it's no offense to you, I know where you're coming from, but at the same time it just means that she is not the correct sub for someone like you, not that she isn't properly submissive for every single person out there.

It's not so much she needs to switch sides, as she just needs to find what fits with her.

After all, my Master isn't being submissive when he takes care of me and makes sure my needs and wants are being taken care of and showing me that I'm wanted and cared for. When I'm sick Master will even spoon feed me soup himself, just because it's what he wants to do to make me feel special. When I'm not sick Master still spoils/babies me by giving me nice things, taking me nice places to eat when we have the means, making me nice dinners, because he wants to show how much he cares and how much he appreciates that I'm his property and not some other person's.

And more often than not "babying" doesn't always involve being "waited on", to me and Master it's more of just taking care of someone in an extra cutesy way or just being shown how much you're loved and cared for.

Some Master/Dom types of people aren't into the cute lovey-dovey stuff, and some are - same goes for vanilla type people too, some are lovey-dovey and some aren't. You just have to find the one that fits your needs, labels or no.

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 6:29:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		yeah I ment there are just some doms who want to pamper and fuss orver their girls, or boys, and enjoy doing so, and there's some who don't.n ot that she's not properly submissive. See I did say find someone who enjoys waiting on their partner:)

Daddy waits on me a lot,  or does things like unpack the car on a camping trip whle I am inside staying out of the way, and some people raise an eyebrow at that and go aren't YOU supposed to wait on HIM? And he says he don't mind.  and he doesn't. I am limited in what help I can be to him in situations like unpacking the caur and hauling all the goods down the hill, and I may even  get hurt slipping or trying to carry something Ic an't, so I just stay out of the way and he does it all.

And he fetchees stuff for me if he's up and I am not, or if he do't mind doing it for me, and We're more typical in the fact I'll call him at work and ask him to bring stuff home, and if he can, he has no problem with it, because why should he. He's the one with the car and the ability to go get it, not me.

He spoils the ever living shit out of me too.

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Topping, your statement is one reason why I dislike labels so much.

And it's no offense to you, I know where you're coming from, but at the same time it just means that she is not the correct sub for someone like you, not that she isn't properly submissive for every single person out there.

It's not so much she needs to switch sides, as she just needs to find what fits with her.

After all, my Master isn't being submissive when he takes care of me and makes sure my needs and wants are being taken care of and showing me that I'm wanted and cared for. When I'm sick Master will even spoon feed me soup himself, just because it's what he wants to do to make me feel special. When I'm not sick Master still spoils/babies me by giving me nice things, taking me nice places to eat when we have the means, making me nice dinners, because he wants to show how much he cares and how much he appreciates that I'm his property and not some other person's.

And more often than not "babying" doesn't always involve being "waited on", to me and Master it's more of just taking care of someone in an extra cutesy way or just being shown how much you're loved and cared for.

Some Master/Dom types of people aren't into the cute lovey-dovey stuff, and some are - same goes for vanilla type people too, some are lovey-dovey and some aren't. You just have to find the one that fits your needs, labels or no.


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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 6:39:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Very true topping. I just always get that little thorn in my side when someone suggests "switching sides" lol. Sorry if I offended you or put on on the defensive with that.

I don't think Master would ever even consider letting me help him do heavy labor (unless he needed my joint help with a large object) for the simple fact that I'm a total wimp and he knows I'd hurt myself because I'm too stubborn to give up and tell myself, "Okay, that one's too heavy. I'll try something else" lol.

Though I do tend to carry more bags of groceries, cuz he makes sure there's a lot of light ones to make it seem like I carry more =P

Don't you love being spoiled?

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 6:47:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		I get the feeling that the OP wants to be the "princess sub", and if she can find that more power to her   -  but  - most women would , i think, laugh at the idea.   Now , if you are looking for a thoughtful caring person, you can't have him. He's mine!

I have a Sir that bought a kettle and my brand of tea so i could have my hot tea at his house. He is sweet, thoughtful and very sweet - did i mention he was sweet????, and to me, showed his regard and care for my feelings in that gesture. He "babies" me if you will, but that doesn't mean that i sit on the couch and eat chocolate while he rubs  my feet   ...... oh, wait, he's done that as well, so never mind.

But seriously, he does lovely things for me, and i try to do lovely things for him. I am fully cognisant of the fact that he is thoughtful, and try not to abuse the privilege.

OP, you can find someone who is thoughtful, caring and willing to show how much they enjoy your company ..... but they are going to want some of the same in return. I don't think any relationship would survive indifference in response to thoughtfulness. Since you are an adult, i'm guessing that you already know this, and are wanting a reciprocal-type relationship.

You need to choose your mistress with these qualities in mind.  And really, i wouldn't think it would be too hard to find. After all, most people are aware that selfishness isn't conducive to a healthy relationship.


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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 7:04:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: behavingbadly

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edit: babied as in treated like a freaking infant with ridicilous needs, shouldn't it be the other way around that the slave is babied (not spoiled though) but treated sort of like a child by their master/mistress??



I don't see any part of my serving my Master as treating him as an infant with ridiculous needs.

He gives me attention but I don't see myself as babied, although Daddy is one of the labels that describes what he is to me; Master and Owner the others which outline parts of the whole of the everything that He is to me.

Perhaps it would be helpful if you were to give an example of what you see as a Dom/me being babied.

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 7:32:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes. I do love being spoiled. He used to bring home breadsticks from the place he worked for when we lived in Petaluma, and oh man I was always so happy to see him anyway, but show up with breadsticks and I clapped and squealed in delight.

One night I was hungry an it was to late to call him, he was well on his way home and he walks in with FOOD. I sat up said oh goody I was just w*ondering if we could  have fast food, and he just chuckled.
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Don't you love being spoiled?

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 7:40:58 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't see anything wrong with wanting to be pampered a little. A little begging and ego boosting should do the trick....lol.

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 10:35:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		like them acting like a fussy child or a child in general like being picky about the food or something like that. it makes me livid i don't know how submissive i am in that regard although i do consider myself submissive in most ways.

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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/16/2010 11:29:23 PM   
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like them acting like a fussy child or a child in general like being picky about the food or something like that. it makes me livid i don't know how submissive i am in that regard although i do consider myself submissive in most ways.


hmm, i guess it depends on what you interpret as childish behavior. Most Dominants want what they want..and expect the submissive to accommodate them.

edit to add... and as a submissive, i enjoy pleasing a Dominant, and that includes fixiing Him things He wants to eat... He generally decides what He wants, and I do my best to provide that, it works...He likes to be pleased, i like to please..



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RE: why would a mistress/master want to be babied? - 10/17/2010 12:18:58 AM   
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like them acting like a fussy child or a child in general like being picky about the food or something like that. it makes me livid i don't know how submissive i am in that regard although i do consider myself submissive in most ways.


Grin... I think a lot of doms/dommes would be left with the impression that you're not submissive at all! Which is ok - since all that means is that you're not the sub for them.

What seems clear to me is that you're not likely to be submissive to any old dominant. Looking at your profile, it seems you're looking for someone strong enough to inspire your respect, I get the impression that you're feisty, squirrelly and assertive - Nothing wrong with any of those characteristics.

I think that perhaps, when the right d-type shows up, you might be surprised at the trouble you'll find yourself wanting or even needing to go to to make them happy!

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