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HypnoPants -> RE: Punishment Spanking Then Massage (10/17/2010 11:19:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom
LadyH, If he's responcible in how he goes about it, and the punishments are not to do with her depression, then why not. Life and the relationship dynamics and up keep and maintence of that dynamic can't stop because you're depressed.
Now I'd think he is responcibl;e enough to give her a little wiggle room, and not punish her due to things that are going wrong BECAUSE of her depression, but I feel that the dynamic don't need to stop punishments included, because someone happens to be depressed. Maybe might wanna hold off on punishing during a depressive episode though, I will say.
Agreed, and I do... I've learned to handle her depressive episodes quite well :P especially that you can't be dominant when they're having an episode... that makes it all worse... also that their anger/negative feelings they have at the time are not directed at you, they just can't help it... best to realize that and not let it get it to you...
Why? because if you do, you'll get angry too... you need to let them vent, yell at you, even hit you (which is actually cute since she's sooo weak and beats my chest as I hold her :P adorable! ... then she eventually gives up and lets me cuddle her into my chest, which she then may or may not cry, but she eventually calms down and happily cuddles her Master, now over her episode) ... etc etc...
As they say, pain overrides logic, when someone is having a depressive episode, they won't think logically...
Anyways, I write down anything she does during a depressive attack that may have hurt me physically or mentally... so that we can discuss it at a later date, or to punish her for, etc.
Punishments are done ONLY when she's stable enough to handle them.
Owning a depressed slave is incredibly hard for even an experienced Owner... because depression is like Obsessive Compulsive Disorder... they're stuck in a rut, and until you get them out of that rut... they're going to be a handful.
But they will be indebted to you for being the only person in their world that can help them handle their depression, that they themselves can't even handle... which of course means they love and adore you even more :P which makes for easier and more effective slave training.
Just remember that even if they're depressed around/with you... doesn't mean you're the cause of it.
I Love and adore my girl very VERY much... I would never punish her if it would mean she'd become even more depressed... from what I've seen so far, my punishments and timings for punishments (when she's stable) have actually improved her mentality towards her depression and life in general. (i.e. she has more good days than bad)
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