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behavingbadly -> Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 9:25:13 PM)

i have a bad habit of telling them what to do. is that wrong per say? i think it's more common then people think, if it's done discretely.



LadyPact -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 9:27:53 PM)

I think if Mine tried it, I'd show him the door.



Lockit -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 9:30:13 PM)

LOL It happens all the time in my email. It doesn't work there or in my home. It isn't cute.



Twoshoes -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 9:30:38 PM)

Edit: OK, maybe it was meant to be 'discretely' and not 'discreetly'. My bad.

Before I do anything, I always know exactly why I'm doing it. I don't see the problem with doing something sensible even if I didn't suggest it.



tazzygirl -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 9:32:50 PM)

Medically, im in charge.. at his command. Other than that, i dont "tell" him anything. I request, respectfully, i ask, i beg, plead, even cajole... but i guess as long as the man in your life allows you to tell him what to do, i would simply have to question who was really in charge.



DarkSteven -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 9:33:29 PM)

It depends.  If you know more than he/she does about something, then it's your responsibility to pipe up.  But it all boils down to what he/she allows and wants.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 9:39:14 PM)

\Any is it wrong persay type question can be answered with a clear as mud statement of well that depends on the dominant you're writh lol.



I tell Daddy what to do all the time, and he lets me. And sometimes he even appreciates me telling him what to do because he doesn't know how to do it himself, or he doesn't know he has to do it, like suddenly I find myself with a dr appointment on Mlondy, he's still at work and I cal and say hey daddy! you have to take mt the dr on Monday* hehehe)
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ORIGINAL: behavingbadly

i have a bad habit of telling them what to do. is that wrong per say? i think it's more common then people think, if it's done discretely.



littlewonder -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 9:48:56 PM)

If it works for you and yours so be it.

It definitely would not work with mine. I think he'd look at me like I'd grown two heads.




Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 9:54:45 PM)

littlewonder, yes, there are those types who'd do just that. Look atcha like you sprouted a second head.
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

If it works for you and yours so be it.

It definitely would not work with mine. I think he'd look at me like I'd grown two heads.





WolfyMontgomery -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:03:46 PM)

It depends on the context of what I'm 'telling' Master to do and how I say it, usually. I am always allowed to request things from him, ask for things. He knows that anything I ask, whether I say "please Sir" or not, is still just me asking for them and he can choose whether or not he wants to please me by acquiescing to my request or not. Though nine times out of ten I say please or phrase it as a question anyway, just because I like being polite.

And for that one time out of every ten, it tends to be because Master's got me in my kitten mood and I'm demanding, "Pet me!" Which, as any cat owner, he dutifully obeys >=D

And yes, I am going to get a spanking for that comment, but I ain't takin' it off cuz it was too good to pass up!



MMsCandy -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:07:55 PM)

For me i can tell him what to do what i can't do is EXPECT he'll actually do it.

Like WolfyMontgomery said context matters.

I might say it in jest and we'll both know what it is, i might actually be right and he'll listen and actually say yeah i know you're right, but it's never in the same way that he might tell ME to do something and the expectation is that i will do it, just doesn't work that way here.

So, yeah i can say it - if it happens is a whole 'nother ball of wax.



WyldHrt -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:08:11 PM)

Depends on what you mean by telling them what to do. If you mean something like reminding them that they have an appointment, an early day at work in the morning, or they need to take a medication- that is one thing; if you mean 'discretely' trying to control their actions or the direction of your relationship, it's something else and I would wonder who is in charge.



behavingbadly -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:08:30 PM)

if i manage to get away with too much control they would usually reign me in but damn it i will try.



Kana -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:10:50 PM)

*Laughs*
Share experience, proffer an opinion, chime in with a comment? Sure. Even engage in a witticism, a good double entendre-all acceptable in my house.
Tell, I say "Telling" me what to do, however discreetly it may be couched (I was on debate teams and am trained in taking apart arguments, academically and professionally) would absolutely be a mistake.
Once I got done laughing, she would wish she had two heads. As is, I'd slap her so hard the one head she does have would be spinning like a top.





behavingbadly -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:12:40 PM)


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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

if you mean 'discretely' trying to control their actions or the direction of your relationship, it's something else and I would wonder who is in charge.



exactly and i think i've managed to be in control of that aspect even with the the strictest mistress. i wondered that too. better not give me too much control of things.



tazzygirl -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:13:52 PM)

Gotta love the violence as a last resort.



Lockit -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:18:43 PM)

So in other words behavingbadly, you will challenge someone that doesn't force you to behave? Without being fearful of a challenge... I can honestly say someone like that would be history. Why? Because they challenged me? NO! OH HELL No! Because they didn't honor what they said they wanted. Because they broke their word to me. Because they are unstable and untrustworthy. Because they don't even honor themselves and who they say they are as a submissive.

Basically, you want a power struggle or to test... find someone young enough to want to play stupid games... because this old broad wants what he says he was and knows she is fair enough to allow him the freedom to be who he says he is... but pulling a switch for whatever reason... means a switch I will never put a finger on again.



MMsCandy -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:19:51 PM)

Meh it would just take M saying "excuse me?" for me to do some fast backtracking...no slapping required.

Now slap me for other things  i can see - this ain't one of 'em.



Kana -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:36:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Gotta love the violence as a last resort.


Hell, laughs. I'm not talking last, I'm talking first.
And the slap would be far less to damage than to shock her the fuck back to reality from wherever planet she was on.
Trust me here, my laughter would hurt much more than the slap and sting deeper as well. And the needle of opportunity that would give me to twist, oh so many wonderful mind fucks, verbal ripostes, and genuine acts of emotional leash pulling would be a delight-I would be like a kid in the candy store just staggered by the realms of possibility.
Within seconds she would vastly regret the decision to overstep boundaries, before half an hour was out she would be begging, willing to do anything, to receive absolution.




AquaticSub -> RE: Telling a mistress/master what to do? (10/20/2010 10:41:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: behavingbadly

i have a bad habit of telling them what to do. is that wrong per say? i think it's more common then people think, if it's done discretely.


Telling "a" or telling "mine"? And in what context. I frequently tell Valyraen what to do in matters where I am more knowledgable than him. He comes to me, tells me the goal he wants to achieve, I tell him what to do. If he follows those instructions or not is up to him.

For "a" master or mistress who has no authority over me... well then they are just another person. I don't make a habit of bossing others around but there are situations where I have to tell others what to do. If I'm driving and they are in the backseat, hooting and hollaring and distracting me, I'll tell them to shut the fuck up without thinking twice about it. If they come into my store and ask me about something, even if I know they are a lifestyle and a master, yes I'll tell them what to do and I'll tell them if what they are about to do is a stupid, terrible idea. Nicely but I'll tell them.

This is a question where I really need the context.



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