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FLsubmalecd -> RE: Dommes NOT replying to mail (4/29/2006 12:03:32 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MysticFireTopaz
When I am looking, My decision on whether to respond to an e-mail is based on whether or not the sub has read and respected the guidelines in My profile.
In the interests of saving time for both parties, I state pretty clearly what I am and am not looking for (e.g. age, location, marital status, etc.) I also tell the sub what information he should include in his initial reply if he wants to be considered.
If the sub meets My stated criteria, provides the information I requested, and is polite, I almost always will reply to him. This category represents about 10% of the responses I receive.
If, on the other hand, he (and once in a while she) chooses to ignore the guidelines in My profile (or not read it in the first place), I feel no obligation whatsoever to reply. I feel like I have already forewarned him that he's not what I am looking for, so if he chooses to reply anyway, he shouldn't expect an answer. It is amazing how many married men, men living outside the country, males young enough to be My son, out-of-towners here on business, etc., still contact Me. These reponses represent about 90% of the mail I receive. I set up mail controls so that I no longer see many of these replies in the first place.
I used to conscientiously reply to each and every e-mail, but don't have time for that anymore. I also found that when I sent "no thanks" type e-mail to those not meeting My criteria, I would get a hateful response in return. Or the fact that I replied at all would give the sub hope and I would get an salesman-like type reply trying to overcome My objections, LOL
About half the people I know agree with My approach, and the other half think I am very rude, but this works for Me [sm=smile.gif]
Lady Topaz
MysticFireTopaz,
Thank You for Your great comments. Under the circumstances as to who and why You will or will not respond to, I would agree with Your logic and the way You handle it completely.
If You clearly state what You are looking for and that person does not meet those requirements then I agree, no response is in order even if just to be polite. Let's say it is optional if You are in a good mood, had the time, and he was at least polite. But I would not expect one back if I wrote to anyone that clearly stated that they woudl not respond to out of state, as TexasMa'am suggested; Or if she stated her desires and I did not fit that mold. be it age or I was not interested in something she made it clear she was into. All good reasons not to respond and not be considered poor manners. Thank you for your comments. Thank You... to all the Ladies and some sub males that have added to this thread. I know I have gotten an insite as to how difficult it can be if You receive a smany e-mials as some have stated here. Most of You are in high demand and do not have time for some of the one liners (they never deserve responses in my opinion) and then the "do me" types that ignore Your wishes desires or wants.
I'm sure all of You get the rude nut cases writing with their trolling one liners, just as many vanilla women get.
So I do think this thread has been very helpful and educational.
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