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RE: how do you define safe, sane, consensual, and abuse? - 4/27/2006 3:55:11 PM

slavejali

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Abuse to me can stem from any person who cares more about themselves than the person they are involved with.

Safe to me means....your well-being is taken care of.

Sane to me means....you're not a nut.

Consensual to me means...you agree.

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RE: how do you define safe, sane, consensual, and abuse? - 4/27/2006 5:40:24 PM

amayos

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ORIGINAL: Phoenixandnika
I can't count how many times I have read threads and arguments about the bdsm lifestyle and gorean lifestyle verses domestic abuse. It often turns into a very heated topic. Safe, sane, and consensual are phrases constantly used.

I began thinking lately about this lately.
Does the definition of these three words vary from person to person?

If they vary how does one define what is safe, sane and consensual for "them"?

Safe, Sane and Consensual is indeed a palatable catchphrase, but is in the end completely subjective. It seems straight forward, but it's really not, once you begin to think about how it relates to different personality types and their interests.

Safe, Sane and Consensual is for the most part a t-shirt handed out to the public in defense of BDSM practices, or for newcomers to the "lifestyle" who may have the wrong idea, per their ingestion of Hollywood's toxic sensationalism. It's catchy and quite rational and safe sounding, and enunciating it diffuses the tension immediately should you be labeled one of those BDSM freakos at your next July 4th family cookout.

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