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RE: Respect in the morning - 10/28/2010 8:18:48 PM

anniezz338

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Thinking about this, to me, it would weed out the wheat from the chaff. I'm still very much a rookie at this but it seems to me the wannabe's would be like that. Wannabe's seem to get disrespect mixed up with being Dominate, that the sub is just out to be treated badly, for whatever weird reason they can think of.

True Doms/Masters seem to respect and be even proud of a person who gives them such control and pleases them.

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RE: Respect in the morning - 10/28/2010 8:22:11 PM

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OK, I agree that depravity is in the eye of the beholder. I don't feel I am doing anything depraved as long as all involved are enjoying the activity.

As for respect, I need to respect anyone I dominate, or even have vanilla sex with. If I can't respect my partner, they aren't worth me wasting my time with.

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RE: Respect in the morning - 10/28/2010 8:30:04 PM

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i have been thinking about this thread all day. many are inspiring posts... thanks catize, sunshine, Desi, and the rest who have shown a great deal of sensitivity in this matter. it all made me think about my own purpose in this walk of life. perhaps i was meant to be that with him, allowing him to open up the possibilities of his own sexuality. perhaps it was not meant to for me to be the one he truly explores this side of himself with.

on one hand, i saw it as a huge sign of trust, his opening up his darker side to me. for some, including myself, there are areas of our sexuality that we dont show to everyone. maybe its fear of being judged, rediculed for what turns us on. maybe its an inability to face it ourselves, regardless of how others may feel.

annie... you are new, so i will be gentle. i didnt give enough information, deliberately, to allow anyone to judge his ability to dominate me, or for anyone to judge him as being a wannabe. i can assure you he was, and is not. he is a kind, caring man who didnt have the ability to face his inner desires alone, and, to me, was afraid to share them with anyone else. i stumbled upon it one night. i exploited it, much to his passionate delight during the light of the moon, and his seeming shame in the light of day. i never judged him as being less of a man because of it, and i still cherish the memories of it now.

many of you have helped me see that, while it was his own embarrassment/shame/denial that made him unable to respect me afterwards, i can feel secure in my knowledge that my efforts were not scorned, but his own inability to handle his own emotions.

thank you all.

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RE: Respect in the morning - 10/29/2010 7:56:44 AM

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I'm thinking that depravity for me is simply things with sexual connotations which are out of the "norm" of the mundane masses and those especially who foll0ow the more right wing stricter Christian beliefs regarding sex and what is right and wrong. As a youth I'd head for the depravity aspect (usually on the lighter side befitting my then lack of experience and wider education as taught by life itself) for no other treason than it was "not the done thing", rather naughty and in some cases forbidden. As I grew older I found that my depravity was the "norm" for many folks. As I commented earlier, I respect the partner even more for following my lead or even those who took the lead to introduce me to even greater depths of depravity. Some folks are convinced i'm heading to hell when and if I finally decide to die, but I doubt it since I've already been there and got booted out with a permanent ban.

Hell for the company, Heaven for the climate and Earth for the playground..

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