TerrorNova
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I am a Dominant, I am asking a Mistress simply due to the fact that anal play when used in hetero scenarios (male sub) is often used for humiliation, and my situation is a hetero one (female sub), and I appreciate a womans point of view in this regard, but opinions from any and all sexes is appreciated.. I am just looking for a diversity of opinions. I don't recall even once in my post suggesting that a Dominant woman should do or like anything in particular. This is not my concern nor is it my question.
I am just looking for creative uses of a slaves ass. I am creative and I know what I like, but I am looking for new and different ideas, perhaps ideas that might not be exclusive to one sex or the other. In my experiences using a female slaves ass is not coupled with the same thoughts of homosexuality and humiliation found in most male slaves. I am looking for angles that I might not have thought of.
Your assertions are unsettling. I am the Dominant, and I enjoy it. I am interested in clever ways to get my slaves buy-in in such a way that she need not necessarily feel humiliated by the act of anal play, but feel invested in satisfying my demands and that she find (or accept my "suggestions" towards) new and creative ways to use her ass for my enjoyment, while ensuring that she is stretching regularly and eventually be capable of accommodate larger objects that is an example of a goal. Humiliation is good, but I would like her to take pleasure in pleasing me by working on her anal development creatively, and eventually rid herself on any inhibitions with respect to anal play should a more public demonstration be required of her.
I thought that opening a conversation might prove more interesting than surfing the web for ideas on BDSM sites.
Thanks for the responses so far. Even if I don't get any suggestions I'm still interested in the conversation, if I was wrong to post my query on this board I apologize.
In My opinion, there is nothing wrong with asking across gender lines. Orientation doesn't preclude folks from asking questions here. As far as I'm concerned, male Dominants (or any other mix of gender and orientation) are welcome.
The common misconception that anal play for males as being humiliating for the receiver is often based on poor education and homophobia. The social stigma of the male anus being pleasurable for a straight male is rather ridiculous if you consider human anatomy. Regardless of gender, people do have the same nerve endings in the anus. Males have the additional bonus of prostate stimulation. If you are linking anal play with homosexuality exclusively, you would be quite mistaken.
The majority of Dommes that I know that do engage in anal play with their male submissives don't link it to homosexual behavior into it for the purposes of humiliation. Many of us see something like strap on sex as just another way to have sex, rather than the traditional vaginal penetration method. Very much like you probably just see vaginal sex and anal sex with your girl as just two different ways of fucking.
This isn't to say that the angle that you are looking to find isn't what some people enjoy. However, it tends to have it's roots in different areas. It fits for those especially who have been so incorrectly socially conditioned to believe that it must be humiliating for a male to enjoy anal play or that it must have some link to him not being heterosexual. This does tend to be rooted in particular types of porn. It's very often male driven and one way that males can come to terms with that fact that anal play does actually feel good, even though some very warped ideas have been introduced over the years.
Actual humiliation based on sexual orientation? Not so much.
Thank you. This is the kind of discussion I was hoping for. I couldn't agree more with your statements pertaining to the stigma of homosexuality being used to humiliate, I have a lot of gay/lesbian friends and I don't think of them as walking around in a state of perpetual humiliation. This is why I was curious if from a female perspective (ones typically on the giving end) had any thoughts on the practice, given as you say the rationale for most males fearing anal play is the stigma of homosexuality, this rarely applies to women in my experience, and women are often more open to it in my experience. I'm just trying to make it a little more of an adventure, while speaking with like minded folk
Rather than anal play being something that I do exclusively to her, I feel it would be beneficial if she was actively engaged in the process with or without me being an active participant. As I have mentioned a couple of times so far, I just want to know what other's thoughts are. Many enjoy watching their partners masturbate, I am interested in making her ass a primary locale for sexual activity, couple with chastity.
Humiliation is a broad term and I admit that I may have mis-used it as I agree with you that orientation is nothing to be humiliated about, I should have perhaps used "engage in traditionally taboo activities" but as easily as that rolls of the tongue I was being a little too general.
Thanks for the input. Much appreciated.
Given the inherent differences as to what people find enjoyable, distasteful, or humiliating I was just looking for a broad range of suggestions as to what other posters might enjoy. My submissive and I have a benchmark that we have come to understand that is applicable to us, but I'm not all knowing and I'm sure there are a lot of great ideas and attitudes out there pertaining to my post.
Thanks again.
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