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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Topping and/or dominating a man that I am attracted to makes me undeniably wet - more than any other form of foreplay. But unlike generic, vanilla foreplay (heavy petting, kissing, etc.), the state of arousal from domination doesn't make me want to engage in intercourse - it makes me want to engage in deeper sadism, more BDSM, solicit more surrender.  If anything, being absolutely wet, even "aching," isn't a totally sexual distraction - it's generally so far off my radar, because I am focused on the rush of BDSM, which is far more intoxicating.

That said, it's a very easy transition for me to go from BDSM lust into sexual lust (ie, engage in sex right after bdsm, for example) but it's not a priority - I generally am very, very excited and happy in that "BDSM space" of arousal and desire and will sit in that for quite some time.   I've never quite understood that connection but it's undeniable. 

Akasha

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ORIGINAL: DMFParadox

Attraction doesn't trigger D/s, but D/s definitely triggers attraction. If I'm with a submissive girl who I'd otherwise not desire, I have to walk away fast, or get turned on regardless of my conscious preferences.