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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/27/2006 10:18:52 PM   
losttreasure


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Zensee

DON’T-me subs (do-me subs with bad marketing skills).

Their profile starts with a submissive come on then launches into accusatory mode and a litany of things they don’t do or like. They sound akin to a school marm lecturing naughty children:

Don’t message me unless…
Don’t message me if…
I don’t do cyber / poly / bondage / windows…
I don’t like pain / spanking / bossy Doms / wussy Doms…
I hope you brought enough of that to share with the WHOLE thread…

Do they imagine the Dominants are obediently going down their checklists? “Yes, no, no, yes, no, …” There is only one item on my checklist when I read one of these. “Nope!”

A little positive thinking please. How about telling us what you like or what you offer? Presuming the reader is a wanking, predatory looser may be statistically accurate but this “you are the enemy” attitude is going to turn off the promising ones too.

Z.



Hmm... I see your point, Zensee, and it is well taken.  However, while I agree that a positive image is most desirable... and I hope my profile doesn't come off as negative... I think there are some like myself who add the lists like you suggest in the hopes that it will save everyone some time and heartache. 

To give you an idea, just today I have received 76 messages... that's 76 Doms all vying for my attention and each one expecting a well thought-out, detailed, and personal response where I either agree to opening a dialog with them or politely decline their overture.  In either case, it requires that I not only read their initial message and profile in the attempt to gleen whatever information I can to try to make a responsible decision.  Even though there are quite a few that can be immediately dismissed, it still requires a significant investment of time to seriously consider who might be a good potential match.   I can't possibly engage in simultaneous meaningful conversations with even half of the Doms who write to me.

In the meantime, the Doms who have not received a response yet from me, see me online and notice that their message has been read... and then they proceed to send another message to me saying that they assume that I'm not interested since they've not heard from me. 

If all that time and grief can be spared by simply stating what you want and don't want, I personally think it's beneficial. 

But then.... that's only my opinion.  ;)

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/27/2006 10:22:48 PM   
Reasonable


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Status: offline 		It's actually much easier to get to know personalities here in the forums treasure. which is why I seldom write anyone-or really want to be written-unless someone is interested in something I had to say-here.

I used to refer to places like this as "wanker shortcuts"

You can sure avoid a whole lot of crapola by being here-and speaking your mind.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/27/2006 10:51:12 PM   
JohnWarren


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Status: offline 		One of the most successful approaches that have been made to me, really wasn't made to me.  At a Black Rose, convention, a lovely young lady, a recent immigrant from the PRC to the US who was studying in a doctoral program in New Jersey attended a lecture given by Libby, my wife.

After the program was over, she went up to Libby and told her the Libby's section of the Loving Dominant called to her and the entire book had been the awakening of a submissive need she had unconsciously surpressed until her arrival on these shores. 

Then she said, "Is there any way I could surve your husband?"  Libby suggested that it was likely but she would like to think about details and added, it would be a good thing for the two of them to go somewhere more private where she could think, adding again, that she thought best while having her feet massaged.

This assignation, of course, was unbeknown to me.

Two or three hours later, I was resting on the bed in our room when the door opened and Libby stood in the verge. She did seem a little redfaced and out of breath, but I put that down to the next words she said, Wanna play?"

Never one to turn down my Libby, I answered in the affirmatively.  It was only then, she pulled on a leash she had been holding in her hand and a golden woman, naked but for a bright blush came into the room.

This was my introduction to Smiler who has been with us since then.

If a sub needs a hint to meet a dom this is certainly one approach that has been very successful.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/27/2006 10:54:11 PM   
Reasonable


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Status: offline 		Just grins........

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/27/2006 10:56:43 PM   
meatcleaver


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< Message edited by meatcleaver -- 4/27/2006 10:57:07 PM >

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/27/2006 10:58:56 PM   
Reasonable


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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/27/2006 11:23:27 PM   
CERCKL


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quote:

[You guys pretty much suck at this.  I guess we've just had more practice, huh?

/quote]

quote:

Ok, guys. That should get you started. Try a little harder next time, will ya?  


I know...and we don't beg very well either, huh bit...

C

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/27/2006 11:30:31 PM   
masterdeltafire


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Status: offline 		Priceless, and truly beautiful.  Hope yall have many happy years together.

quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnWarren

One of the most successful approaches that have been made to me, really wasn't made to me.  At a Black Rose, convention, a lovely young lady, a recent immigrant from the PRC to the US who was studying in a doctoral program in New Jersey attended a lecture given by Libby, my wife.

After the program was over, she went up to Libby and told her the Libby's section of the Loving Dominant called to her and the entire book had been the awakening of a submissive need she had unconsciously surpressed until her arrival on these shores. 

Then she said, "Is there any way I could surve your husband?"  Libby suggested that it was likely but she would like to think about details and added, it would be a good thing for the two of them to go somewhere more private where she could think, adding again, that she thought best while having her feet massaged.

This assignation, of course, was unbeknown to me.

Two or three hours later, I was resting on the bed in our room when the door opened and Libby stood in the verge. She did seem a little redfaced and out of breath, but I put that down to the next words she said, Wanna play?"

Never one to turn down my Libby, I answered in the affirmatively.  It was only then, she pulled on a leash she had been holding in her hand and a golden woman, naked but for a bright blush came into the room.

This was my introduction to Smiler who has been with us since then.

If a sub needs a hint to meet a dom this is certainly one approach that has been very successful.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/27/2006 11:41:35 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:


I know...and we don't beg very well either, huh bit...

C


Not that I've noticed.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 12:15:30 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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quote:

ORIGINAL: losttreasure
Though I don't think Doms do the "bitching" thing quite as well, I'm enjoying it nonetheless.  ;)

*runs off to check if her profile falls into the whining and shrieking category*
I think this girl got yah/us Chaingang, LOL .  Touche!   M

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 1:15:41 AM   
Vendaval


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Status: offline 		DO NOT -
#1 Send a photo of your penis or pussy; or anyone else's private parts for that matter
 
#2 Ask to chat before first sending an e-mail of introduction
 
#3 Ask what size bra cup I wear and if they are REAL BREASTS
 
#4 Beg for a smelly, sweaty pair of My underwear
 
#5 "      "    "    "        "         "      '      "  My shoes
 
#6 Say you are single during initial e-mail contact, and then during the first face to face meeting; announce that you are married and have a girlfriend on the side, but that you cannot tell your wife about any of this!
 
#7 During the first face to face meeting, beg Me to go have sex with you in
your car, parked out front of the cafe', in broad daylight!
 
#8 Contact Me by e-mail, chat or phone when you are drunk or high.
 
#9 Tell Me you have several years real time experience, then admit that your
only real-life experience was a couple of birthday spankings during your frat or
sorority days.
 
#10  When I turn your sorry ass down because you lied and misrepresented yourself,
start getting ugly and hissing under your breath that I better watch out because you
"are somebody important in this town"!
 
As you were A/all,
 
-Vendaval-
 
    

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 1:44:14 AM   
cacodylic


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Chaingang
Quit your fucking bitching already!!!
A profile full of whining and then ten pages of journal writing that could more properly called "shrieking" is simply not attractive.
<snip>

??????????? < now in full De Niro mode> You talkin' to me? lol

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 2:01:12 AM   
Kedikat


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Status: offline 		Lie, lie, lie, or even tell the truth.
Just be prepared to live it.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 2:51:10 AM   
KatyLied


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quote:

t would be a good thing for the two of them to go somewhere more private where she could think, adding again, that she thought best while having her feet massaged.


Now we know Libby's weak spot!



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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 3:15:08 AM   
ladychatterley


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DoNotDisobey
Oh, my all-time favourite is the "I'm not interested in you as a Dom but please be my friend so I can spend hours pouring out my schoolgirl angst about the trivia of my life to you (including how bad/useless my boyfriend and/or Dom is, but you still don't interest me in that way) on MSN" subs.

Like most behaviours, it isn't just subs that do this.  I've had several men who, to their credit, make it clear they already have the slave/sub/wife/whatever of their dreams, but really want to talk, in-depth, in great length about anything and everything.  I try and be gracious, congragulate them on their situation and say that I just don't have time, and then some of them get really agressive about how great a friend they would be.  I work four jobs.  I simply don't have time to become penpals with every guy who already likes his partner!

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 3:32:32 AM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		Don't put in your profile that you are service oriented and then have "housework", "serving as a maid or butler" and "no strings housework" under hard limits.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 3:42:55 AM   
ExistentialSteel


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quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnWarren
Never one to turn down my Libby, I answered in the affirmatively.  It was only then, she pulled on a leash she had been holding in her hand and a golden woman, naked but for a bright blush came into the room.


I just hope you had a suite and she wasn't in the hotel hallway naked........................come to think of it, I kind of wish she had been in the hallway naked.

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 3:50:59 AM   
LaTigresse


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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 3:52:50 AM   
cuddleheart50


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From: Kentucky
Status: offline 		Makes notes to herself about the hints....

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RE: A "hint" for "subs" looking for... - 4/28/2006 4:24:48 AM   
JohnWarren


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ExistentialSteel

quote:

ORIGINAL: JohnWarren
Never one to turn down my Libby, I answered in the affirmatively.  It was only then, she pulled on a leash she had been holding in her hand and a golden woman, naked but for a bright blush came into the room.


I just hope you had a suite and she wasn't in the hotel hallway naked........................come to think of it, I kind of wish she had been in the hallway naked.


Black Rose takes over the whole hotel.  Nakedness in the corridors (but not in the lobby is acceptable).  In short, she was.

< Message edited by JohnWarren -- 4/28/2006 4:28:11 AM >

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