FirmhandKY
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Another hint:
Photos.
There are lots of stuff that you can discuss about photos. You can get into arguments about the old "You must have a photo in your profile or I won't answer your email." requirement, and all that ... but this point isn't about that argument.
This is about what a submissive woman wants from a dominant man, and how she lets photos do her talking.
So, ok, men are more attacted to the visual. Visual has an impact that words can never have. A pretty, shapely woman in a picture often shuts off the higher reasoning facualties of a man, and causes him to go into cardiac arrest. Provocative poses and exposed flesh compounds this reaction, making it difficult for all but the most composed, and controlled men to initate a conversation based on anything other than the fleshy stimuli.
So what does the woman generally get when she posts those types of photos?
You got it. Horny, brain-dead, gasping, illiterate (at least temporarily) horn dogs and players.
And then she complains about all the HNGs and wannabes?
Give me a break.
Oh, sure, she may also get emails from the type of dom she says she wants - they aren't proof against a pretty face and fetching body - but most likely they will get buried in the email avalanche.
There is nothing wrong with a woman posting photos like that, especially if she is just looking for a play partner, and an attractive one at that, who isn't really interested in what she thinks, and she isn't really interested in what he thinks.
Now, if what she is interested in is the character of the man, or dom first, and primarily, then such photos are a hindrance, not a help. Dispense with them.
Does that mean no photos at all? No, not at all. We are all well aware that photo profiles are the first searched and found. That they are used by this site, and other sites as advertisement (so the slinky sexy photos are encouraged - sometimes to the detriment of any individual woman).
To me, there are two things that I want to see in a public photo of a woman that I might be considering approaching:
1. Her face.
2. Her general body form.
Faces are one of the most important things about a person. It's what you are going to be seeing a lot of, and how your mind categorizes and sorts the people you know. There are all kinds of tells about a person's history in their face- at least that you will unconsciously believe, even if you know a different history of the person. A face gives you a picture in your mind to latch onto when or if you start to email and chat.
A beautiful (to me) face can outweigh a lot of other bodily inperfections.
I'm also looking at how she presents herself in the photos, and how much effort she may have taken. It doesn't have to be a lot of work, and I guess it's more a judgement about whether her tastes may match mine. There are a lot of cam photos at there, and some of them are ok. Most of them, however, simply suck. A "glamour shot" is also a turn-off to me, no matter what she looks like. I've SEEN women before and after glamour shots, and often it simply isn't pretty, so glamour shots make me hesitant.
Of course, she could simply not post any photos at all, and many women do make that decision. And it's actually a pretty good one, but much harder on her in the sense that she will get a lot less attention. But ... does she really want the type of attention that having photos gives? Giving a couple of photos with the first email or two pretty much gives all the benefits I covered above.
But if she doesn't put any photos on her profile, it is simply critical that she address her physical attributes in some positive way. No, she doesn't have to put her measurements on her profile, although that is certainly appreciated. She should at least give a general overview about her general fitness, body type, and perhaps hair length and color. For the simple reason that all of these things maybe pretty good indicators - in an intellectual sense - that helps a man make a swag decision of whether or not the possiblity of attaction exists.
She must also have a more detailed profile. She must put more than a sentence or two into it, and be specific.
Now, let me say it crudely.
If a woman puts several sexy photos on her profile, and little written information, she gives me the impression of an empty-headed little twit, who has floated through life based simply on her appearance. Shallow, no depth, and of no interest to me, even if I find her visually attractive and sexy.
If she doesn't have any photos, and not much in her profile, she is still an empty headed little twit, but an ugly empty headed little twit.
There are exceptions, I'm sure. The woman who has a special situation, or such, and that's fine, these are simply generalizations based on observations. But aren't generalizations all you have to go on, when you are browsing profiles?
FHky
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