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barelynangel -> RE: Financial Considerations in Choosing to Submit (11/14/2010 1:19:13 PM)
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OP, do you have an idea of what financial security is? Its much different from choosing someone "based on his bank account." Its about THE MAN. A man who knows how to have financial security. I don't think you understand what a Man's financial security, stability and yes wealth says about him. It says a lot.
Serious question here -- what do you care what happens between two people in their relationship? You ask questions of what if, hell, EVERY relationship and choice a woman makes about a Man has a WHAT IF factor to it. Why only ask what if wherein a woman may have a financial security or hell even a financial consideration in a relationship?
Do you really think men who have been financially successful are that stupid that they don't know this expectation of the women they choose to be with? I mean seriously, do you really think the Men are THAT stupid?
So what if the answer is YES to your questions? I mean seriously, what if a woman is with a Man simply for his money and she is willing to please him as long as he keeps her in a style she wants to be kept? Are you going to really sit here and say its WRONG? Because that sure is what you are implying. Why is it wrong, people in history did it all the time. Hell that is what MOST women were required to do -- marry up, get with a Man who can keep her.
Why do you imply women who do this OBVIOUSLY can't stand on their own two feet? You do realize women who are sugar babies tend to be very intelligent and capable of not only standing on their own two feet but also learn from the men they are with?
I love the assumptions people come up with. Why do you think that a woman who wants a Man for his financial security is using D/s as a guise? To me, that concept is a HUGE concept of D/s. You have a Man who holds all the power based on her need for financial security and she in turn submits to him because of same. However, financial security tends to be a PORTION of her expectations for the man. Rarely if ever have i seen a relationship based SOLELY on her need for financial security. But i see many relationships where a PORTION of her expectations of the man is financial security.
There are MANY women wherein the Man doesn't wish his slave to work. Are you telling me that SHE should just shrug and have NO expectation of financial security, his ability to give her a retirement fund, his ability to pay the bills, his ability to know how to save and maintain a comfortable level of living? Seriously -- to me a woman would be stupid to not have financial security as part of her considerations of him.
I enjoy a certain level of living, and if a Man wants to own me, he will have to show he is 1) financially stable, 2) financially secure, 3) capable of handling finances responsibly etc. This isn't THE ONLY think i consider in the man but it is a big part of it. To me, money is power and i enjoy powerful men. I cannot see a man who is incapable of taking care of himself, incapable of being financially stable or secure as being powerful. I cannot see a man who lives paycheck to paycheck as a Man who can "take care of someone else."
Do i hold this against men, no, i understand many women who will take on men who aren't financially stable or secure. I simply am not one of them. I can't tell you what would happen if he somehow lost his ability to be financially stable or secure, i may very well determine i am better off on my own. Or i may decide to tough it out with him. But you aren't speaking of relationships, you are speaking of considerations of men who a woman MAY wish to be in a D/s or M/s relationship. BIG difference.
There are many things that hold a relationship together, and yes, i don't care what anyone says, financial stability and security IS something many women look at. If a woman wants a man for his ability to provide for her in a style she wants, so what? It utterly amazes me why so many people get their knickers in a twist about this. What do you care.
angel
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