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Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 5:14:56 AM   
wuzamarine


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I was 27 when I and my girlfriend of the time decided to do something different. We had done a little bit of swinging in the past and she loved being with other women but other girls tend to be a pain in the manner of scheduling etc. So we decided to experiment on the male venue and had a friend come over who was black and very well hung. Everything had started off really smooth and just the act of being sexual with my girl in any manner was a good time but I was very pleased to see her so turned on. Everything went smooth but as it fired up thru till end, it became something I had never even looked for in the past. She was bend over with him fucking her from behind, I was making out with her passionately and getting really turned on by her and her explosively hungry nature when he exploded and came inside her. Her lips locked to mine in a way I never felt before. It was as though we had the most explosive orgasm ever together and I wasn’t even inside the girl. But that was only the beginning. Now I was rock hard and she appeared to just be getting started to my delight.
When I touched the girl, she trembled but she wasn’t pushing me away. Nope, she was ready to go! I think the moment right before I went inside her was the first time I understood what is meant by, wanting to fuck “thru” someone. Maybe there was some jealousy. Maybe part of it was the urge to stake my claim, but I wanted that pussy NOW. And she was MORE than ready. I could feel the nerve ending in her pussy fire off when I slammed into her. Oh, she was plenty wet. No need at all for ‘lick it and stick it’. Just got too town on that ass! I thought I was going to break the poor girl but she kept begging for it. I came very quickly and a lot too.
Not ‘like Peter North’, I thought I passed Peter North himself. I was fucking shaking from the inside. But I didn’t go soft. I laid on top of the girl for a second while I was still inside her just to catch my breath but, I was WAY too turned on. I carried right into round two like the ace Mike Tyson. But just like ol’ Mike, the TKO always comes in round two if you survive round one. I was beat the fuck up. Ol’ girl looked pretty happy herself. Didn’t hear a single complaint from her.
If anything has ANYTHING to do with sex this good, I will take a double order with a large coke please!
If this is what being 'bad' is, then I am Satan's evil twin brother.
It’s like being promoted from management to executive. Things look a little different when you step back and look at it from a ‘top down’ level. Looking outside the box. If you look at it for what it is, it’s pretty damn beautiful.
I grin when I write this, I am 8 in and he was 10in. I know the fact that I could tear into her then was because I am just a little bit smaller .
It’s has nothing to do with being bi or gay or racial or anything silly people try associate with it. It has nothing to do with degrading a woman. On the contrary, it is very much the opposite. And to put a relationship into an environment where trust is default and cheating is just no issue at all. Two people are able to sit back as ‘friends’ and laugh about the good times instead of harping on what the other one is thinking. There are many caveats to an open relationship.
I think every guy in the world wants to make love to their woman when she is all hot and bothered. This is a sure fire way to catch her fully there. Talk about taking a woman at her weakest moment. Try it when she is still already in orgasm.
I will note that this girl already had an erotic demeanor. Some girls have it, some girls don’t. She was a very sexual woman to begin with. I will admit that this demeanor ‘highly’ contributed to the environment. It is very easy to put yourself in a position to slut your woman off, if she is one. It’s like releasing a tigress into her natural state. Beauty in its own. I was married to a ‘rock in the bed’ and dated a wild girl for a very long time. There are huge differences between the two types and they are as different as night and day. Some women are sexual and comfortable with their bodies and/or sexuality. I do not understand the latter, they are not the ones I am typically attracted too.
I think (in my fairly experienced and somewhat educated opinion), it has 99.99% to do with pheromones. The amount present during kinky shit and level of attractions. Take all of your math and plug pheromones in as your function and some come interesting realities get spit out. And if pheromones are the feast, I just enjoy cooking up Christmas dinner, a lot. 
I don’t think we ever make love so passionately and intensive as that time. We were one round and straight into 2 with no down time and loving it. Our sex life for the longest time after was amazing. It changes your perspective a bit.
To this day I have not experienced or even fathomed a moment more erotic than that moment. It has even taken time to figure out exactly what it was that made it so miraculous. The entire scenario is somewhat uncharted territory. Not much on this one in the handbooks and sex education classes, can’t see the family shrink being much help either.
What the fire was, was her. It was the erotica of see ‘her’ at her peak and in wild and kinky orgasm while doing dirty things. Top cheese, nirvana, the big o. And both of us KNEW it was even ‘hotter’ because it was while doing such kinky acts and doing it together with my full approval. Put jealousy out the windows and let your shirt out a little and some pretty interesting things begin to happen.
Over the years the attraction to it has grown and has manifested some pretty interesting and fun variations of the original. You give a guy enough time to ponder something that makes him smile a whole lot and he can come up with some kinky ass shit but the origin and fundamentals all come from the same place. And believe me, I want no stds either and there are many ways to have very wet and raw fun safely. I think that the more you take safety into consideration, the kinky things become when you have a creative mind.
If you take it for what it is, there really isn't a single thing to be jealous about. I think if some basic principles are respected, you can pretty much relax about everything.
What sucks is that experience can also be the kiss of death. You know what is out there. You know how much it makes you smile. But it does you no favors when your back on the singles market. Just the mention of it closes doors very quickly. The lat 6 years have been pretty lonely.
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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 5:24:46 AM   
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Female about to offer input....

Paragraphs are used for a reason, no one likes a wall of text.

The Creative Writing section is further down the home page. If you have a question, it would behoove you to pose it as such.

Welcome to the forums.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 5:28:13 AM   
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Thanks

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 5:29:38 AM   
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I only edit for friends.

Was there a question in your post?

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 5:33:23 AM   
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At the beginning and at the end with a whole bunch of details in between.
No one can accuse me of lock-o-articulation.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 5:40:31 AM   
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I really enjoyed reading your account wuzamarine. You may find it again, just in a different way, as it'd be with a different person.

If I knew you'd had such amazing experiences with someone, I'd probably feel slightly worried I'd be a disappointment in some way.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 5:59:25 AM   
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I think that what has scared me to death for the past 6 yrs. I haven't dated. At all. nothing.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 6:00:56 AM   
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I am really beginning to wonder if I am going to hit the 10 yr mark. This does not make me smile.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 6:09:25 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: wuzamarine

I think that what has scared me to death for the past 6 yrs. I haven't dated. At all. nothing.


Now that statement is a hell of a lot more interesting than the bravado-filled original post, in my opinion.

It's hard when we experience something so amazingly fantastic...but so far in the past...and continue to jones for it without success.

My question to your statement above is...why? (<-----please note the use of a question mark )



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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 6:14:03 AM   
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I am kind of confused, what is it you are looking for?  A woman? A guy? Both? And what is the input you want?

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 6:33:00 AM   
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Unlike BonesFromAsh, I didn't see any bravado, just a descriptive account.

I know one person in my life (ex) who said * I know that sex from hereonin will be a disappointment* and he indeed DID have 4 yrs of not even really trying for that reason.

You simply might never have *that* type of experience again but if you abstain altogether, you won't even leave the starting gate toward any OTHER type.

By the way, the aforementioned person has been in a very happy, *perfect* relationship for the last year. Sometimes you just have to risk disappointment I suppose.

Most people that have a *hard act to follow* situation, do eventually find something satisfying. The stars may never align in the same way ....but there's more than enough ways for them to line up to make you smile...........but you have to be out there looking at them.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 6:36:37 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: wuzamarine

What sucks is that experience can also be the kiss of death. You know what is out there. You know how much it makes you smile. But it does you no favors when your back on the singles market. Just the mention of it closes doors very quickly. The lat 6 years have been pretty lonely.




So you are wondering how to find like minded women since a "regular relationship" will not fulfill your needs?

My guess is either you decide to stop trying to turn everything into a replication of that one night and begin a relationship with a woman you connect with. (I don't think our partners need to know every sexual exploit you've ever had.)
Enjoy discovering her, and all the depths of that, because you don't need bells and whistles to have intense experiences.

OR

Look on places like AFF for women who are into threesomes.


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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 6:38:08 AM   
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Using fast reply....

Another thing to consider. Sex with different people is ............ different. Sometimes better, sometimes worse. Sometimes neither, just different. Embrace that.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 6:42:19 AM   
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I know, I'm not a woman, but...

Being a Dom means that I am in control.  I can tease my woman any way I want, and almost always it will get her hot.  I think that you are associating a woman that is screamingly hot and ready to come, with that particular girl and that particular scene.  You can get LOTS of women screamingly hot, not just that one, and with all kinds of devious methods, not just that one.

Get out there and start meeting women again.  And try different things, not just MMF, and see what gets them hot.


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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 7:08:15 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: wuzamarine

I think that what has scared me to death for the past 6 yrs. I haven't dated. At all. nothing.


That's the crux of your problem. You're living in the past. Just appreciate the moment for what it is, a wonderful moment in time, not something that you need to recreate and nothing else will do.

It is definitely unfair to other women for you to base your standards off of your ex, so until you're able to appreciate a new woman for her unique traits it's probably best you don't start dating. Mostly because when you do meet a new woman who blows your ex away, she'll probably walk away herself because she realizes your fantasy is based in your history with another woman, and then you'll be kicking yourself twice.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 7:10:36 AM   
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I went back and reread the end. The problem that you have is that you wish to recreate this moment. And when you mention it to women, you get shut down. Well of course you do, because you're trying to erase the woman you are with and have the one from the past somehow appear in her.

There are other ways to experience sexual energy. Different with each woman. But demanding that they allow you to bring your friend along while you both see a different face than is on the woman in your bed is not the way. You need to be open to new experiences instead of being stuck in the past. Basically, it's as if you're talking about your ex all the time and nobody wants to be with someone who does that.

In a nutshell folks; this young man had a MFM with his ex and a friend, and he can't stop thinking about it. And he keeps trying to talk the new women he meets into doing this because sex with the new woman isn't good enough. And he doesn't understand why he gets rejected immediately and it ends the new relationship. He wants help to talk the new woman into doing this. But that's not the help he needs.

I'm also curious as to why the race of the other man was mentioned. Did that add to the hotness for you? Because picking someone based on their skin tone is a slap in the face. It says he doesn't matter as a person, as long as he's black and with a larger than average penis he's interchangeable to you, a living dildo if you will. There's also the fact that most women find larger than average men are too painful to have sex with, they bump the cervix and that hurts.


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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 8:39:19 AM   
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Yes, please, what BonesFromAsh said.  Paragraphs.

I'm trying to grasp the whole point to the post.  Yes, MFM is really hot sex.  (Sorry, Steven, it's not MMF.  There is a difference.)  It might be some of the best sex that I've ever had, but I don't obsess on it.  You might be doing that and that could be exactly the thing that is holding you back.  In your search for threesomes, you're voluntarily skipping over other relationships that you could have because you may be projecting that other situations won't stack up.  Nobody wants to be set up like that to feel that they don't compare.

I tend to see it like this:  At the end of My days, I'm sure I'm going to look back and remember some fabulous experiences.  Unless I meet My maker while I'm in the throws of passion, there's going to be a point that one of the threesomes that I've had is going to be the last one.  I'm not willing to get stuck wasting My life chasing the next one.


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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 9:22:10 AM   
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I think the answer to that one is a lot more complex that even I can answer.
On the headline, it would appear as 'looking for the same thing and zeroed in on it so hard that I pretty much gaff anything else off if it is not related'.
This goes back to my original question of how in the world to boys and girls meet on common ground the topic is kinky.

digging deeper the is an entanglement of children. I am a single dad of two teenager and her son was killed a very few month after we broke up, somewhat unexpectedly. We raised him together.

I goes a lot deeper that that as well.

But it has taken me 6 years to even be able to vocalize what makes me happy. Very much like learning how to sing and then forgetting how to hear.

The dating pool is a complete disappointment.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 9:23:42 AM   
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very much a female only, milady..

A wild little vixen. A slut that is happy to be a slut.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 9:31:59 AM   
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Here is the twist because you are 100% correct and completely wrong at the same time.
I do go out an look. I just don't date. I can count the number of sexual encounters I have had since '05 on 1 hand including the number of girl. It's pretty sad. But, I see these girls all the time. They are typically the spouse. It's as though a girl won't admit she like kinky sex until your in neck deep.

My problem, I was in one of those stagnant bedroom marriages before the good one. I want nothing to do with option #1
I avoid it like the plague.


And the crickets begin to chirp....

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