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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 9:33:54 AM

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AFF is a joke. Nothing but fake ads and cam girls.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 9:48:37 AM

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I would be very curious to know more. I seem to be missing the correct code word my friend.
I what I am seeking would make just about every woman's knees buckle.
I don't understand the dom sub thing enough.
I am pretty sure I am dom, but I was raised by a real true modern day feminist and I don't disrespect a woman.
I love degrading them, but disrespect is not in my vocabulary.
Yet I will post "cute guy seeks sex hungry slut" and the next post from a guy would be "dom wants to show sub what true pleasure id from pain" and the girls pussy get's all wet.
Huh?
I have been to s&m parties and watched them beat the living crap out of each other. More along the lines of MMA than S&M. I still don't get it.
If I even lifted a finger to a woman, my mother would beat my ass, royally.
I think my dom, is more of a 'pimp , hoe'. but there are no title headings to coin that scenario as of yet.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 9:53:41 AM

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I don't think I am living in the past.
Maybe a past reference point, but that is all.
I have positively identified a slutty woman to be the key to hitting my tickle spot.
I don't think that is living in the past.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 9:54:21 AM

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I would be very curious to know more. I seem to be missing the correct code word my friend.
I what I am seeking would make just about every woman's knees buckle.
I don't understand the dom sub thing enough.
I am pretty sure I am dom, but I was raised by a real true modern day feminist and I don't disrespect a woman.
I love degrading them, but disrespect is not in my vocabulary.
Yet I will post "cute guy seeks sex hungry slut" and the next post from a guy would be "dom wants to show sub what true pleasure id from pain" and the girls pussy get's all wet.
Huh?
I have been to s&m parties and watched them beat the living crap out of each other. More along the lines of MMA than S&M. I still don't get it.
If I even lifted a finger to a woman, my mother would beat my ass, royally.
I think my dom, is more of a 'pimp , hoe'. but there are no title headings to coin that scenario as of yet.

Okay. I consider there to be two places where D/s can take place: in the bedroom and out of it.

Outside the bedroom, it's having her do things for you - fetching you a glass of water, kneeling at your feet, etc. If you've been brought up that that flies in the face of feminism, then that may not fly.

Inside the bedroom, she serves. Any way you want, within reason. As long as she gets her satisfaction from making you happy, no harm, no foul.

And the sooner you get past your consideration of what your mother would want to what you want, the sooner you'll be happy.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 10:05:33 AM

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Actually you are a little off base.
I am rejecting way before I get the chance to be rejected.
I am lucky to get to the point, to reject.

As far as the race thing. That easy and there is a very good reason why it is to popular.
It's taboo. When you are looking at your partner and imagining her doing the dirtiest, you just plug the whole enchilada in. Race and penis size have EVERYTHING to do with creating a mental buffer that says, "this is for sex and sex only", she wants his cock and cum only!
A guy is pretty comfortable with his girl fucking other guys, just as long as I don't have to hear about the funny fucking joke he told you on the phone that day.

Hopefully that clears the racial thing up. I get that question a lot.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 10:06:52 AM

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Here is the twist because you are 100% correct and completely wrong at the same time.
I do go out an look. I just don't date. I can count the number of sexual encounters I have had since '05 on 1 hand including the number of girl. It's pretty sad. But, I see these girls all the time. They are typically the spouse. It's as though a girl won't admit she like kinky sex until your in neck deep.

My problem, I was in one of those stagnant bedroom marriages before the good one. I want nothing to do with option #1
I avoid it like the plague.

And the crickets begin to chirp....

I don't think anyone plans on having a stagnant bedroom situation......lol

I'm not a particularly kinky person, per se, but M is, and I like M and I like doing crazy things with HIM.

I might very well seem incredibly boring if someone was actually LOOKING for me to *show* how kinky I can be. For me, it's not really about the *kinky thing* it's about M.

The situation you described in your original post isn't something I'd necessarily want to do inandofitself, but I'd do it with M, BECAUSE it's with M and I'd very likely enjoy the whole experience. There are lots of things I've done with him that I very likely wouldn't with anyone else.

If he'd said from the start what he'd be doing, with me or to me in 5 yrs time, I'd probably have been a lot more wary about asking him to own me, lock , stock and barrel.......but to be honest , I don't expect he planned it for a moment. He just chose an adventurous, open-minded person and so did I......from then on it became what it is.

There are an unlimited amount of places to go between *stagnant bedroom* and *totally wild, exceptional experience*.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 10:06:55 AM

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I think you are hitting the nail on the head.
getting past it is a mother though....

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 10:09:24 AM

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I need to talk to you a LOT more my friend!!

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 10:22:48 AM

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You hit the core and from every angle milady.
wary is actually my problem I hit and it is because I am so afraid of ending up in an 'option #1' scenario that I screen for the kinky side but I get railroaded into that "wary" category.....

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 10:27:44 AM

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AFF is a joke. Nothing but fake ads and cam girls.

People have the same complaints about many dating sites.

You could have instead looked at the other part of my post, instead of focusing on the negative.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 10:33:51 AM

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On a second note on the issue. If a guy is giving his girl the open door to have sex with other men, would it not make sense/be respectful to appeal slightly to his interest a little vice being selfish and only wanting another romeo in the the bedroom where her and his personalities click beautifully?
I will avoid the latter thank you...

You want her to be turned on and a lot. But making foolish decisions will never do you any favors.
I have always seen people be only respectful in these situations. Especially from the men, I have never had a single issue. Wish I could say the same for the girls. One of the things that drove me away for wanting fmf was all the headaches associated with it.
But the is and should always be a level protection. If even a false one. A marker point persa.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 10:51:28 AM

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You hit the core and from every angle milady.
wary is actually my problem I hit and it is because I am so afraid of ending up in an 'option #1' scenario that I screen for the kinky side but I get railroaded into that "wary" category.....

I don't date and never have, so any partners I've had were friends first. That, of course means that they were already people I really rather liked, was fond of, trusted and knew pretty well.

I'd be absolutely rubbish if I was in any type of dating scenario. If I'm not of any interest as a friend, then I'm not going to be of any interest at all.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 11:01:25 AM

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I think you are hitting the nail on the head.
getting past it is a mother though....

That depends on your perspective. Personally, it doesn't matter to Me if it's something I experience again. If it does, great. If not, it's not a big deal to Me. There are way more important things in My life than sexual experiences.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 11:12:02 AM

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Not me. I get depressed when I am around bad sex.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 11:18:04 AM

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To be honest with you, I think that you have inadvertently depicted the number one delima between male vs. female.
As a guy, Washington DC could just get nuked, the stock market fell off the planet and aliens can be slowly feeding us all to the machine but if the sex is good and kinky, I'm good to go!

Many females cannot understand this point.
They want the same thing but as soon as it is placed as a relational marker, all shit hits the fan.
Another reason for me to look/target/spearhead for a woman whom has a larger libido than mine...

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 11:23:44 AM

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I do, a very little bit at a time.
I know that this is the solution. I just don't really care for it.
I don't like sleeping around and I hate going through the interview process and all of the disappointments.
After everything is said and done, your suggestion has the only real solution. It's just not the one I was looking for I guess.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 11:26:13 AM

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Perhaps you should try men?

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 11:31:57 AM

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I have no interest in another mans hairy ass.
I love pussy way too much.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 12:02:03 PM

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To be honest with you, I think that you have inadvertently depicted the number one delima between male vs. female.
As a guy, Washington DC could just get nuked, the stock market fell off the planet and aliens can be slowly feeding us all to the machine but if the sex is good and kinky, I'm good to go!

Many females cannot understand this point.
They want the same thing but as soon as it is placed as a relational marker, all shit hits the fan.
Another reason for me to look/target/spearhead for a woman whom has a larger libido than mine...

I said this to you on the other thread that you created that is basically on the same topic.

The truth is, not everybody wants the same thing. Believe it or not, some people have no interest in threesomes, others are apathetic about the situation, and some would like to do it again. It's not universal.

I don't know how you have approached this in other places, but here, with what you've had to say in the two threads, you come across as someone who is very focused on this. Something that, as a woman who's engaged in MFM, would have Me yelling "NEXT". When I've chosen partners for this, it isn't people that come across as obsessed by the idea.

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I hate going through the interview process and all of the disappointments.

That's something that's part of the territory, especially is you aren't partnered. If you join a couple for threesomes, they are interviewing you. If you are partnered, you do the interviewing.

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RE: Looking for female input... - 11/21/2010 12:03:15 PM

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I thought it was best to answer this one a little more in detail because it is somewhat of a hot topic.
many woman from what I have found need a mind connect to = sex. Not all. I have been fortunate enough to have been around a category of woman for a brief period of time who had to learn how to turn that switch 'off' and where perfectly fine with it. connect to = sex I honestly think is an American learned trait. It is sociological in nature, not nurture. Ask any escort.

Guys separate the two pretty easily. Almost by default.

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