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RE: Dom Topping Dommes - 4/29/2006 9:46:41 AM

TexasMaam

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lolololol!

I loved your above post: "I must be strange then,for when I look at a Domme,I only see a peer. No matter what else she looks like. It's odd that I'm able to make that disconnect now-I'm more inclined to chatter about toys and philosophy than I am sex."

I suppose what we do is engage in occasional "Peer Group Sessions" then, eh?

; )

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RE: Dom Topping Dommes - 4/29/2006 9:53:21 AM

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Hmm,could be...It's all a matter of intent,after all...........

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RE: Dom Topping Dommes - 4/29/2006 9:57:26 AM

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<laughing!

Intent, is it?

OK I'll accept that.

I never intend to wind up as a sniveling, sobbing lump of submission at His feet, that's fer damn sure!

I might pass out on the cross, but he'd better be damn careful to take Me down carefully and not break a single fingernail or muss My hair, n'either!

; )

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RE: Dom Topping Dommes - 4/29/2006 10:40:42 AM

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Dear Mistoferin, Ladies and Gentlemen;

The response was to submitting as a Female Dominant to a Male Dominant. There is nothing in any of my posts that remotely touches on respect or lack thereof. Furthermore, there is nothing in any of my posts that remotely touches on the inability or ability to learn from others, to include other dominants -- male or female; and or male or female slaves.

That said, every interaction be it grand or small, is an opportunity to learn, share knowledge and or skills. Educational is much different from an approach, regarding this particular thread of the act of domination over another dominant. It would be folly to think that I would know everything; because I don't and I know it. However, I seek if and when the opportunity presents themself; to learn or even brush off some rust of what I already know and or perhaps share a new view on the same topic at hand. I will politely listen/look at areas which do not interest me as well. I will try something new as to say in my heart, mind and soul that I did it physically before I made a judgment. I dare say, it is easy for anybody to jump to conclusions based on assumptions; such as new fads and or kinks. However, I do try to keep an open mind on such however, I am human and prone to human failures as well as successes.

As far as respect goes, it is hard to earn and easily lost. Any dominant that has the intent to make me a statistic of conquest for his/her giggles and grins, making light of my knowledge and experience that was hard earned first hand and physically done, will loose my respect immediately. All individuals are products of what they have been exposed to; physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually and creates who they are. Beginner to Advanced individuals slave or Master/Mistress will be given my respect, regardless if earned or not. Others may demand respect; however I will just wish for respect.

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RE: Dom Topping Dommes - 4/29/2006 11:11:27 AM

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Just wondering is it common or "normal" for a Dom wanting to Top a Domme? or vise versa. Does this make either lose credibility as to them being Dom/e? I don't post here often so not sure if this has been discussed. Just looking for information.

GYA, I've had a number of requests over the years to top other dominants, and received offers from dominants wanting to top me so it is a common phenomenon. But I just don't have any burning desire to top self labled 'Dom' men (or women for that matter) or have them do me. I too see other dominants as my peers and tend to befriend those of similar mind who are not out to try and pop other doms cherries so to speak. Give me a vanilla man any day for good horny aggressive lets fuck sex...he has no illusions of power, nor a need for them, and just sees slap & tickle sex for what it is.

Sex, S&M, B&D, fetish, topping/bottoming are all things we do and engaging in such doesn't define a person as been someone's dominant or submissive nor as someone been dominant or submissive.

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RE: Dom Topping Dommes - 4/29/2006 11:16:35 AM

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Thank you very much LadyHugs for the clarification. I really wasn't trying to be accusatory in my question to you. It was difficult for me to understand exactly what it was that you were saying because...well honestly....because of the medium in which we are interacting. Without the benefit of hearing things like voice inflection or seeing body language...sometimes it is just difficult to interpret what is the exact message the other person is trying to convey. I only sought clarity. Thank you very much for doing so.

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RE: Dom Topping Dommes - 4/29/2006 11:25:56 AM

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Dear Mistoferin;

No offense taken.

And, I do whole heartedly agree that this medium lacks in "hearing" the voice, the soul and spirit of the posters indeed. The medium lacks in visual as well as the body transmits an aura that reflects the spirit of the moment and or the words.

Being in person with another, is so much easier.

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RE: Dom Topping Dommes - 4/29/2006 11:44:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: grabyourankles

Just wondering is it common or "normal" for a Dom wanting to Top a Domme? or vise versa. Does this make either lose credibility as to them being Dom/e? I don't post here often so not sure if this has been discussed. Just looking for information.

thank you

The Dommes I know in person have all had the dubious pleasure of meeting one or more of the "a Domme is just a slave who hasn't met her Master" types. This happens both online and offline.

These fellows got filed (speed varying with how annoying/persistent they were) under A for asshole.

I would think it would certainly inflate his importance, in his own head anyway.

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RE: Dom Topping Dommes - 4/29/2006 12:01:05 PM

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My experience over the years has been that it is a mistake to label others, and that one can also make a mistake labeling themself.

Negotiated casual role play aside, one can not know in advance how one's personal power will interact with that of another one has never met.

Yes one certainly limit the degree of response one allows oneself to take. There can be many good reasons for this.

It is not unusual to find lifestyle poly families where different partners are dominant to some and submissive to others of the group.

One person who is dominant to all he or she has ever met tomorrow may find a person whose charisma draws their submissive side.

I feel that no honest caring relationship between consenting adults ever diminishes a person. Slaves, subs, switches and doms are all valued parts of this lifestyle, and I respect all of them.

As always, your mileage may vary.

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RE: Dom Topping Dommes - 4/29/2006 11:38:20 PM

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**edited** Never mind. Its not coming out from my fingers the way its coming from my head

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