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xssve -> RE: Difference btw Male/Female Doms... (12/11/2010 7:25:47 AM)
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"Bad Apple"syndrome probably applies - i.e., anything good tends to be done quietly, while "bad" things tend to generate a lot more noise.
It could also be, that given that any normative definition of a dominant woman is a relatively recent development, and still not entirely accepted, may motivate some female dominants to overcompensate, i.e., they feel they have to be more aggressive than their male counterparts to get respect - simple repression could account for it too - i.e., along with the institutional notion of male supremacy inherent in the paradigms of most major organized religions, including Christianity, there are also some responsibilities implied, i.e., it's not just license to do whatever you want there are some implicit limits, that men, after a certain age, after they've sown their "wild oats" are expected to conform to if they desire social respect, and this matrix of social expectations, formal and informal, is what comprises a "value system", and is instilled essentially from birth, including gender roles, i.e., Boys get Blue, Girls get Pink, etc.
The point here is, that feminine traditions provide a lot of instructions on how to be properly submissive, but tend to provide very little guidance in terms of how to be dominant with anyone but children, so the tendency will be to mimic whatever behaviors they observe in masculine domination, which might be the high points, and not the subtleties - again, primacy effect.
This is a phenomena associated with repression and strict external controls - when the external controls are suddenly removed, there are no internal controls to compensate; it takes time for internal controls to develop, and it's mostly through trial and error, on a largely individual, person by person basis.
Presumably, as women dominants become more accepted, some of those excesses will get mediated, as "mainstream" female dominants will no more wish to associated with female abusers than mainstream men wish to be associated with wife beaters, and some combination of internal and external social controls will develop.
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