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CelticPrince -> Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 11:25:43 AM)
This is a ponderance for all that consider themseves in the D/s path and extends to all of the sub cultures of B?D and S/m.. Essentially for those that have been on the path for awhile...........what was the core attraction that brought here.....Not CM but the path of D/s? And the same question to our many relatively newcomers. What causes the question to come forth is the increase of new folks that include some form of sexual activety folded into their nick such as m"analsub4you" etc. That is a made up example and does not refer to anyone in particular. Laughs.........candor is expected here folks as it may help lurkers to participate more in the boards.............and perhaps breing so candid comments from the "D" sides who generally stay silent on the boards. CP

AquaticSub -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 11:32:36 AM)
These names are new? I've been using various personals/sex/sexuality/lifestyle sites/groups since I was 18 and I've always seen them. As for turning to this... thing... whatever you want to call it, I didn't turn to this. This has always been a part of me. I just didn't have names and labels till later.

DarkSteven -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 11:45:20 AM)
What aquatic said, but less greenly. It's not like I saw this world and decided to change - I saw this world and realized that it fit me.

mbes -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 11:49:44 AM)
The sex is great and all, but it's all about the trust. Which makes the sex better! [:D]

CelticPrince -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 11:53:28 AM)
quote: These names are new? I've been using various personals/sex/sexuality/lifestyle sites/groups since I was 18 and I've always seen them. AS, Methinks you missed the point! It is not new as to the use of such nicks;but of the reasons they are used as opposed to "emily4you" for example. CP

CelticPrince -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 11:54:37 AM)
quote: What aquatic said, but less greenly. It's not like I saw this world and decided to change - I saw this world and realized that it fit me. DS, I get it but why did it fit you back then as now? CP

AquaticSub -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 11:57:44 AM)
I think you like to think I miss your points because I ask you to define your terms. [;)] My point is that they have been using them as opposed to "emily4u" for years. There isn't a new influx of them. This is nothing new at all. People use these nicks for the same reasons they always have. If you want to know why they are being used, asking the people who use them would probably get you better answers.

Kana -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 11:57:59 AM)
I'm a simple boy. I like to make slutty chicks scream. Hence, BDSM...

mbes -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 12:02:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana I'm a simple boy. I like to make slutty chicks scream. Hence, BDSM... Ok, and that. I like boys who like to make slutty chicks scream! [:)]

porcelaine -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 12:05:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince This is a ponderance for all that consider themseves in the D/s path and extends to all of the sub cultures of B?D and S/m.. Essentially for those that have been on the path for awhile...........what was the core attraction that brought here.....Not CM but the path of D/s? And the same question to our many relatively newcomers. Greetings CelticPrince, My attraction stemmed from a desire to wield control and eventually morphed into a need to surrender it in the years that followed. I don't believe my participation merely stems from the typical associations, but reflects the larger aspect of my personality that's very service oriented. Engaging in my personal relationships in this mindset expands what's intrinsic yet deepens it in a manner that I cannot replicate elsewhere in the same fashion. As such, it isn't a separate path from my everyday existence, but has been encompassed to the degree where 'it' has become a bidirectional flow instead. Namaste, ~porcelaine

Focus50 -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 12:55:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince This is a ponderance for all that consider themseves in the D/s path and extends to all of the sub cultures of B?D and S/m.. Essentially for those that have been on the path for awhile...........what was the core attraction that brought here.....Not CM but the path of D/s? The "core attraction" was the filling in of a huge void. The frustration of egalitarian (vanilla) relationships which didn't fulfill my greater control needs vs the fact that I'm not an abusive arsehole who'd just have things my way and be done with it. To satisfy my core needs, I needed two things.... 1) A partner I could command and control at my whim. 2) (The harder one) A partner who needed and thrived on being commanded and controlled. IE, a complementing dynamic - something that happy vanilla and gay relationships also have in common. Focus.

leadership527 -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 1:41:20 PM)
laughs. I think you're screwed on this question CP. For instance, my off the cuff answer was that I'd been dominant my whole life (and Carol has been sub) and so running into this whole mess on the Internet it was a no-brainer. The problem in that answer is that you have no idea what I mean by dominant... Neither does anyone else here. With so little commonality on even the most basic of concepts I'm finding it near impossible to have meaningful exchanges in this format & venue on such a meaningful topic.

littlewonder -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 1:50:27 PM)
its my cultural upbringing and i find leaders to be attractive.

newbie2750 -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 4:42:49 PM)
I need the structure and security that D/s provides.

LPslittleclip -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 8:46:15 PM)
it was the part of me that was missing. as i am a masso service sub, i was frustrated in my life and now i am doing much better,i have been collared for over 3 years now to my Mistress

vancraft -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/1/2010 10:16:52 PM)
it lets me remember and forget things

CelticPrince -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/2/2010 2:52:06 AM)
quote: I'm a simple boy. I like to make slutty chicks scream. Hence, BDSM... [/quote Kana, Damn now that is a candid and concise answer! CP

DesFIP -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/2/2010 4:11:07 AM)
I don't want to have to make all the decisions. And I can't turn decision making over to someone who doesn't make great decisions with less angst than they take from me. Oh yeah, and I wanted to be tied up and have great sex.

shivermetimbers -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/2/2010 6:25:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CelticPrince This is a ponderance for all that consider themseves in the D/s path and extends to all of the sub cultures of B?D and S/m.. Essentially for those that have been on the path for awhile...........what was the core attraction that brought here.....Not CM but the path of D/s? And the same question to our many relatively newcomers. CP After nine months of hard corps breath control, someone slapped me on the ass, and did knife play combined with CBT and bondage a day later. I was hooked ever since. Seriously, it was just a stumbling upon information that people existed who understood my basic makeup. I just thought I was a psychological aberration, kind of a freak. I found that there were people who connected with the things I enjoyed, understood it, and many more like them. It was in my case, by accident, because I thought stuff about whips, chains, dominance, submission was pretty much for the movies and magazines. I also felt there was something different about myself, and found there were others such as me in my makeup as a person. It's been quite some time now since I discovered this world, and the path has strayed here and there, sometimes not being walked upon for stretches, but at the same time, it continues, and I learn not only about this world of BDSM, but also about myself. I love the ever changing dynamics of the self exploration. It isn't a day to day, every second and every breath taken kind of way of living, but it is indeed a different way. Where I started is no where near where I am now. Not in a better way, mind you, just evolved. How I view the world we live in, and how I view the world of wiitwd.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: Core reasonings for turning to D/s (12/2/2010 7:25:02 AM)
FR Really? We're having this thread again? http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3312057 Funny how all these different stimuli lead you to ask exactly the same question, CP...

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