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what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 12:06:17 AM

omahadom68

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i like to say hi to all here ..i have something i like to ask .if your slave and you were in a 3 was and she was to push you a way and not have any thing to do with you and then aftr it was over she would not talke a bout any thing you ask her tel 2 or 3 days aftr and you had to push her in to talkeing a bout it and she would try to lie a bout how she was feeling a bout it and why she push you a way .....but she said i was feeling so good and i didt want any thing to stop the feeling i was haveing and thats why she would not talke to you a bout it ...what would you do or what punishment would you gave her

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 12:32:35 AM

amayos

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quote:

ORIGINAL: omahadom68

i like to say hi to all here ..i have something i like to ask .if your slave and you were in a 3 was and she was to push you a way and not have any thing to do with you and then aftr it was over she would not talke a bout any thing you ask her tel 2 or 3 days aftr and you had to push her in to talkeing a bout it and she would try to lie a bout how she was feeling a bout it and why she push you a way .....but she said i was feeling so good and i didt want any thing to stop the feeling i was haveing and thats why she would not talke to you a bout it ...what would you do or what punishment would you gave her

Honestly? I'd place the punishment where it's needed most. I'd look in the mirror and give myself a prodigious punch in the face for being such a noodle, and I'd find myself a spell checker, too.

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 12:43:48 AM

LaMalinche

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I would grow a pair and learn to communicate more effectively.

What language was that post written in anyway?

Best,

LaMalinche

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 1:53:59 AM

Wulfchyld

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Omahadom, they are on your ass because it sounds as if you have pressed your girl into something you shouldn’t have.

As for punishment, punishing her will push her on out the door. I would have to say that in a Vanilla relationship you would both be 50/50 on the guilt-o-meter. But this ain’t Nilla.

The problem is a training problem, for both of you. Before you beat your chest and say. “Dom’s don’t train” think again. What makes a trustworthy Dom is his/her self-control. That is a trained and developed virtue. Whether you do through meditation, feedback, Cracker Jack boxes, Zen or unfaltering fortitude it has to be trained. As primal creatures our natural proclivities are selfishness and all the little nastie’s that come with it. Primal nature is a devious, deceitful, manipulative, self-serving imp on our shoulders. We have to slap his little ass off there and rise above. If you wish to grow from the experience with your slave both of you need to sit down and revaluate a few things;

Honesty, Communication, Trust, Communication, Truth, Communication, Limits, and did I mention Communication?

For some reason or the other, training or what have you, your slave/sub doesn’t realize that her responsibility to you is to divulge her thoughts, feelings and her very soul. How does she know to do this? She is taught to do it, she journals, she reports, and then she is shown through daily example by you how important communication is.

You have come to the right place. There are oceans of wisdom in the threads and many, many people here, in every aspect of D/s that will help you understand and enlighten you. I would recommend searching the threads with you girl and become enlightened together.

Respectively
Loki

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 4:22:45 AM

Dustyn

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Well, gee... I know this will be a novel idea and what not, but how about you figure it out between yourselves and hire a transcriptionist.

Pardon me, I need to go beat the dents out of my brain now.

- Dustyn

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 4:44:41 AM

mistoferin

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Aside from the fact that I just never understand it when a Dominant comes on here to ask other Dominants how to punish their own submissive....

In reading both your post and your profile, I found nothing that indicates that the two of you have put much thought into the totality of what a D/s or M/s relationship encompasses or how the responsibilities of each party within that dynamic a defined.....either that or you do seem to have a problem effectively communicating that, at least in the written word.

I would suggest, as Loki did, that the both of you do some reading here on the boards and as many other sources as you can find, if you are not already involved in a local real life group ~ find one and become involved, and above all else...work on the communication skills between the two of you.

There are many reasons why your 3-some may have turned out the way that it did...from being pushed too fast, to not having clear boundaries or expectations defined BEFORE it occurred...or it could be just as simple as not being prepared for the emotion of the moment, especially if this was her first time with such an experience. Too many factors and you have not provided nearly enough information for anyone to really put a finger on it. The bottom line though is that in order for the two of you to have the experiences and outcomes that YOU want to have....the two of you will have to really communicate with each other to define what your expectations are.

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 4:57:02 AM

feastie

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Loki said it best. Communicate, communicate, communicate. Badgering her about it, ain't gonna work. And before you do something that pushes a limit or button again, you'd best think about it's ramifications thoroughly from all viewpoints, not just your personal one. "Punishment" is a hot button topic for me, I simply don't believe in it. In this case, however, I'll make an exception. Go stand yourself in the corner for a month and ponder thinking with the big head more often than the little one.

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 5:15:16 AM

Wulfchyld

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quote:

Go stand yourself in the corner for a month and ponder thinking with the big head more often than the little one.

feastie, you are too much! God I love redheads.

Loki

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 5:26:05 AM

Areflectionofyou

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the only one that failed was you....communicate. She didn't want to stop the situation to please you, and you are gonna punish her for pushing her limits????? maybe you need training?

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 6:23:01 AM

PlayfulOne

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So you pushed here into a three way she didn't want to be part of and your suprised because she was hurt and upset. Where's Arpig with the idiot awards when we need them.

How about you punish yourself by not having any more 3 ways and working on the communication and foundation of your primary relationship. Punish her by telling her that even though your the Master (rolls eyes) your sorry for being an idiot.

geeeeeeezzzzzzz, where do these poeple come from?

K

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 6:42:51 AM

leatherorlace

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Dayummmm, I had to read his post twice before, I realized that he had completely confuzzled Me. Reading the other posts was refreshing, the comments were kind, but, I could swear that, I smelled the burnin' of rocket fuses a couple-three times.
I didn't read his profile, but, I normally would before, I replied to anothers post. Primal idiocy is a symptom of a libido that is driving wedges between folks that are exploring life together without adequate knowledge about the consequences of a horny males lecherous fantasys. heheheheeee
I'm still wonderin' if he's upset because she enjoyed the third persons attentions or whether she's pissed at his being lamer than she ever imagined. Entering into a triad or poly- lifestyle is difficult enough with folks that you've talked with, but to encourage a partner to go beyond their limitations whether they're moral , religious or social programming is a dangerous path and filled with snags and brambles to cause you to trip and stumble.
The next time that you have an unrealized fantasy that you want to indulge, you might want to hire some "pro'" to play with you and your buddy. That way you won't traumatize the tender gender. lol
Gentry

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 7:13:00 AM

ownedgirlie

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How sad. She is showing all signs of being traumatized, and you want to punish her? What a sure-fired way to complete the beginnings of totally fucking someone up.

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 8:39:32 AM

TNstepsout

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I would force her to read the above question until she's dizzy and falls down.

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 8:44:46 AM

KatyLied

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No punishment for her.
English 101 for you.

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 8:45:31 AM

Reasonable

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Relax and look at the big picture-Obviously the screw up was mutual-get over the denial and figure it out.

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 9:05:03 AM

gypsytasha

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punishment when a sub is confused upset and more then likly hurt emotionally , where is yur compassion, yur comforting time out space where one can talk about what it means to belong and what the expectatiions are, but yu have to forgive this one as i dont like 3 ways it puts two subs in compitition one with another each seeking your approval i really believe the key element her is communication take her inot your embrace and softly whisper to her what it is yu expect and is she up to these expectations

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 9:45:13 AM

CanadianGuy

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I don't think the "you're a bad person if English is your second language" stuff is a bit much, but I agree with most of what is said. Asking for punishment ideas is fine, but only when it's meritted. Sounds like his girl needs to be understood and comforted, not beaten.

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 10:39:28 AM

omahadom68

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well thinkyou ....i would like to communicate this.. we have been in 3 ways be for this is the first time she push me a way and out of thing ,s the rule is to not do that. she fuck up .and she cant figure out why she did it all she know,s is she was so in to hem and what was going on with the sex .but after it was over she didt want to inform me of why she did it or on how she was feeling now that been 3 day,s a go ..she said she didt want to inform me of her feeling at that time becos she didt want to stop the feeling she got out of it but now she know,s she fuck up by not going by the rules and by not informed me of her feeling,s and not obeying me when i said come here .....and yes i think amayos is right a giveing my self a punch what i need to do at the time was to get her by the hair pull her little ass out and gave her a paddling that she wouldt for get

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 11:06:18 AM

theRose4U

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quote:

ORIGINAL: omahadom68

well thinkyou ....i would like to communicate this.. we have been in 3 ways be for this is the first time she push me a way and out of thing ,s the rule is to not do that. she fuck up .and she cant figure out why she did it all she know,s is she was so in to hem and what was going on with the sex .but after it was over she didt want to inform me of why she did it or on how she was feeling now that been 3 day,s a go ..she said she didt want to inform me of her feeling at that time becos she didt want to stop the feeling she got out of it but now she know,s she fuck up by not going by the rules and by not informed me of her feeling,s and not obeying me when i said come here .....and yes i think amayos is right a giveing my self a punch what i need to do at the time was to get her by the hair pull her little ass out and gave her a paddling that she wouldt for get

Grabbing my WTF to english dictionary...ok so you got her into a 3 way with another man...she enjoyed it and was into what YOU wanted her to do. Then because she's enjoying following your instructions you're going to pull her up by the hair and punish her...DAMN I thought Darwin said your species had died out.

This was your brillient idea and you want to punish because she followed instructions...I'd say that the person that's goofy here is getting the correct punishment...being left alone while your slave seeks another.

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RE: what punishment would you gave a bad slave - 4/29/2006 11:21:58 AM

CanadianGuy

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ORIGINAL: theRose4U
ok so you got her into a 3 way with another man...she enjoyed it and was into what YOU wanted her to do. Then because she's enjoying following your instructions you're going to pull her up by the hair and punish her...

Your dictionary malfunctioned. He said that he wanted to punish her for pushing him away during a threesome, which was against their rules, and for refusing to talk about her feelings in the following days.

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