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Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 6:07:23 PM   
DomForce


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Status: offline 		Well, I guess, this happens to all of us. Please share it with me how you feel and how you deal with it.

Many thanks and I really look forward to reading the replies.

xxx
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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 6:08:43 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I would hope he would being that I only do committed, loving relationships. Anything less is just a fuckbuddy and they really don't hold my interest.


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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 6:09:43 PM   
Hillwilliam


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Status: offline 		It's an awesome thing.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 6:12:00 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		We didn't play until after we fell in love. Both of us with each other.

There's no way I would have gotten into a relationship with someone who didn't care about me. For me to give emotional vulnerability, I have to have it from him also.

However I can't tell if this is a personal relationship or a client, as the two are very different.


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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 6:13:17 PM   
Twoshoes


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Status: offline 		Step one: Make them fall in love with you.
Step two: Make them do whatever you want.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 6:13:34 PM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		Well.... if the feelings are mutual..... It's a very good thing.... if not... well... never found that to be so good for anyone.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 6:16:07 PM   
poise


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Status: offline 		I get the feeling that you aren't too thrilled with your sub falling
in love with you? Or are you referring to one of your clients, in
which case that would be A sub, and not necessarily your sub.
Is this an issue you are trying to deal with personally, or are you just curious?

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 6:25:01 PM   
DomForce


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ORIGINAL: poise

I get the feeling that you aren't too thrilled with your sub falling
in love with you? Or are you referring to one of your clients, in
which case that would be A sub, and not necessarily your sub.
Is this an issue you are trying to deal with personally, or are you just curious?



I am not referring to a client. It is a genuine, personal submissive of mine.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 6:37:15 PM   
MissEmily6


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Status: offline 		I find that they are much more cooperative in this state.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 7:03:05 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		the question is more do you love your sub?

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 7:12:23 PM   
lovingpet


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Status: offline 		If he didn't want me to fall in love with him, he wouldn't be right for me.  I can't really relate to your question.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 7:15:22 PM   
ReginaMirus


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Status: offline 		DEAL with it? You say it like it's a bad thing...

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 7:19:32 PM   
poise


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ORIGINAL: DomForce
I am not referring to a client. It is a genuine, personal submissive of mine.

You're the Domme. If this type of behavior displeases you, make him/her stop it?

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 7:19:47 PM   
LadyConstanze


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomForce

Well, I guess, this happens to all of us. Please share it with me how you feel and how you deal with it.

Many thanks and I really look forward to reading the replies.

xxx



Since I am in a relationship I only have play partners (nope, they are not fuck buddies, in that respect I am monogamous) and would I feel that somebody is falling in love with me, I would sit him down, give him a prep talk, see how he takes it and then decide.

Adoration and a bit of of a crush is great, but falling in love is a feeling that I can't give back and while I love to play consensually with sensations and feelings, love is not one of them, I'd consider it wrong to nourish hope where there is none and if you don't feel the same way, in the long run it usually causes resentment and anger, not worth it.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 8:32:24 PM   
Zevar


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ORIGINAL: DomForce

Well, I guess, this happens to all of us. Please share it with me how you feel and how you deal with it.

Many thanks and I really look forward to reading the replies.

xxx


Love can enhance a relationship that is mutually exclusive. Love can bring forth areas in life that one did know could come forth until Love creates a presence between which was priorly inclined toward less than what Love’s fullness is. When Love is fully expressed one to another it can increase the intensity of any experience shared. Once the power of Love is experienced it has a way of engaging your heart, mind, soul and body unto that which can only be experienced toward an indescribable bond. Once all else is forsaken for Love only then can the true reason for this Human existence begin to become clearer as our glimpse is more steadily focused toward the awesome beauty that only Love can produce, one to another. In some small way I hope to have been of help.

Take very good care of you and moreover anyone who begins to Love you!

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 8:40:49 PM   
Kana


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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 8:45:16 PM   
anniezz338


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I've seen this rerun before. Just tell them the truth. If the truth is that's not what your in it for, the sooner the better.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 9:38:50 PM   
NuevaVida


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DomForce

Well, I guess, this happens to all of us. Please share it with me how you feel and how you deal with it.



There was nothing for him to "deal" with.  He welcomed and embraced it.  He hoped it would happen so he was glad when it did.


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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 9:46:00 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		It seemed as tho I would date a girl for a month or so ...and they would tell me they loved me. It happened more often than I care to remember. Dunno I stopped believing them... doubt that helps but that was my experience with the L word.

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RE: Your sub is falling in love with you - 12/15/2010 10:45:23 PM   
RedWinter


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Status: offline 		I think it depends on what you're looking for in life.

I would want my sub to fall in love with me just as much as I would want to be in love with him. I think it depends on what you want from your sub, if you want a lifetime of love and devotion, then love is definitely something that you would want. It's something I want.




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