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Halcyone -> RE: Cybering in the scene. (4/30/2006 9:38:46 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MistressWolfen
by holistic I was referring/considering the whole thing (relationship) and being (the people involved), so looking at the balance between the emotional, the mental, the spiritual and the physical and acknowledging that although indeed some of these can be met in a distance relationship that people are physical entities that need physical interaction to be holistically (whole/complete) in balance and for a relationship to meet those needs it must address the physicality as well.........phew......love when questioned and have to define....thanks...lol
Thank you, MistressWolfen! I do agree, this sort of relationship doesn't provide a balance when you set physical beside the emotion, mental and spiritual aspects. That's one of its shortcomings and probably our biggest frustration. The lack of the physical, touch, scent, taste, is very limiting.
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ORIGINAL: LadyMorgynn
So... what do you DO? What kind of orders are given/followed? What do you get out of it?
That's a fair question and I gave some general examples in my first post to this thread. To be more specific...
Sir is a teacher. Often he'll have me track down and arrange sources for his research or classes, or study something in order to discuss it with him so that he can present it to his students.
He controls how I dress. This involved my providing him with the details of my wardrobe, both in list form and in pictures.
He's given me a week to week schedule I'm to follow. The entire day isn't mapped out but there are tasks I'm to complete every day. If I'm not able to for whatever reason, I'm to let him know as soon as possible.
He controls my orgasms. I'm only allowed to come when he gives me permission. This goes when I'm away from the phone, webcam and computer, and when we're together.
I perform for him in any way he asks me to. Sometimes this is over the phone or computer, where I'm required to prepare myself for him, position myself for him, do to myself what he tells me to. Sometimes this involves pain, sometimes pleasure. Our "play" sessions require that I serve as his hands, which is limiting, but one makes do with what's available.
We share at least one meal a week, in which we prepare and enjoy the same recipes, on the same evening, at the same time.
Several times a week, he'll leave me a list of special tasks I'm to perform for him that day. These have ranged from sitting down to write a short story to playing with myself in a restaurant bathroom.
What I get out of it is the love, support, encouragement and control from the dominant man I fell in love with. I recognize that being in the same room, acting as Sir and miss, would be and will be different from what we've experienced while apart. But the emotions behind what we do are not dissimilar.Many of the actions and tools are the same.
Edited to add to the list of things we do - And yes, sometimes we do cyber each other. We're both writers. We both recognize that words on the screen aren't real. They certainly have a real effect however, in the hands of someone who knows how to use them. [;)]
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