RedBottomGirl26
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Interesting question...hmm, I had to think about that for a bit. I also enjoyed reading a few of the other comments. Though, I must be the minority in saying that I never have wanted an overly strict person (when you've lived around it half your life, it's kind of something you don't crave much in a relationship, now...structure is quite a different story.
Ladypact, I totally understand where "Chip" is coming from, but that seems part for the course that most submissives need more ...um, how shall I say, directives than a vanilla person, but on the other hand, subs give way more than a vanilla person ever could, so it really kind of equals itself out (but only with the right person). I'm a little envious that he has so much structure, can I borrow a cup of that for myself haha.
Anyway, Minotauros, I am in the minority when I say I do not want a strict ogre. I want a firm but loving person, authoritative and with a voice yes, uncaring and unfeeling and emotionless, no.
I don't like ungrateful people who never seem to get pleased or satisfied, or that you don't really know what they want (it is good to have clear rules, and boundaries set up, but each party should already go into something knowing what they want and compromising along the way, of course that's assuming a D/s mentality only, I suppose in M/s or fatherly type roles might work quite different, but there should always be some amount of trust and respect.
Littlewonder, now I actually agreed with you somewhat on this post, suppose you have a wide range of feelings on different topics. I think you are right, someone "new" who says I want a strict Master, doesn't really know the meaning of the word strict, and might not ask for it if they really knew what some people were capable of. I know I've never put anything like that on mine. Though, I wouldn't say putting you want a stict Master would mean "love you and leave you types" for that person could have a genuine desire, however...it does show their newness & lack of personal experience would probably fade some of those desires away.
Oh excellent point on noticing that often times, if the Dom or Mistress feels they were a bit harsh, then they probably were...yes, that is a good strategy to employ about self-correcting. It is not just a good tool for subs, but I feel if more Doms self-corrected, then there would be less frustration. A sub should self-correct to prove good faith & a willingness not to be lazy and take responsibility, but at the same time, a Dom/Master should know what to do, the few times issues arise that need to be addressed.
I have time and again, found some many men claiming to be Dom, who were nothing of the sort (it is a real problem), some had characterisitics of Dom, but yet, when faced with real problems and situations, they all just go running away, then you know who the real Doms are in my opinion. Though, while a little more cautious and jaded now than I used to be, I am also still hopeful that eventually something worthwhile will come along. Someone who cannot face the music, is not really a Dom I'd wish to serve, and if he hasn't experienced a few things that I have, then how can I know if he's capable of leading and guiding me, if he has undergone similiar things than I have?
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What is a strict master/mistress/dom - 
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) they do. If I want thing x done and thing x happens, where's the need for strictness?
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