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How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 12/28/2010 6:31:01 PM

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I'm a retired SHW strongman. I still lift, but merely recreationally now - I can still do all the events, but not in one day anymore, and I don't do some of the more dangerous ones. (EG, I'm quite strong)

Is the desire to "let go" and really "enjoy" a sub natural? Is it abusive? (I've slipped a couple times, and grabbed/bit much too hard - left some pretty significant bruises.)

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 12/28/2010 6:35:34 PM

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Bruising isn't necessarily a problem, if you find someone who wants to play to the level you want to achieve. You may have difficulty doing that, and I wouldn't recommend going over someone's limits, so pace yourself!

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 12/28/2010 9:19:27 PM

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Is the desire to "let go" and really "enjoy" a sub natural? Is it abusive? (I've slipped a couple times, and grabbed/bit much too hard - left some pretty significant bruises.)

Natural? You bet. Abusive? Could be.

The trick is to get informed consent. That means, you need to negotiate beforehand and discuss the semantics of words. "Grab me!" to her might mean wrapping an arm around her waste and pulling her close while, to you, it might mean catching her arm in a vise-like grip. It makes a difference.

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 3:07:11 PM

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I am interested as well... been running a group of subs for awhile now. as many as 9 or 10 at a time... some have a definition that is nothing harder than a slap akin to that across a child's bottom for lying. Others bring pieces of wood for me to beat them with.

I can take it or leave it.. the actual beating part, but I do enjoy a woman who gets off on pain. I don't want to do tissue damage, but I could use help figureing out how to cause extreme pain without injury.

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 3:10:36 PM

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You might want to figure that out before you run groups and actually do things.

Just makes sense to me.

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 3:15:35 PM

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Read his profile. I'm betting they're all in his mind.

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 3:18:13 PM

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Damnit Celeste, you've made him hide it! Now we'll never see what you were referring to...

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 3:21:55 PM

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His porn star size package for one. His huge stable of women who he demands lick his bathroom floor clean, e coli be damned. And other such obvious clues to the fact that mommy got him his very own computer for Christmas and this is what he's doing with in instead of going on facebook like the rest of the kids.

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 3:24:04 PM

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Heck, I thought tissue damage was the goal
*snickers*

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 3:29:12 PM

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Heh. Thanks for the summary

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His huge stable of women who he demands lick his bathroom floor clean

This? This has always bothered me. When someone licks something 'clean', it's not clean, it's covered in saliva. In what universe is that not icky?

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 3:48:39 PM

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quote:

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Damnit Celeste, you've made him hide it! Now we'll never see what you were referring to...

InsatiablyCurious!VC

Before he hides it again, it's a really good laugh

quote:

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I am the man some women fight over to get the privelage of joining me in my storage locker dungeon.

I am the man for whom women rent a Uhaul van and buy the appropriate things to be lashed to the cargo tie down points so I can drive them to an isolated location and have my other subs do as I direct with them.

I am the man with the restraints, riding crop and firm hand. The ginormous penis and a condition called Satyriasis (google it) round out the package.

With all due respect to the guy on the Dos Equis commercials, I am THE most interesting man in the world (if you are a subservient cumsumpster wench who knows her place and can learn to accept and beg for the treatment she so richly deserves.)

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 3:57:56 PM

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ROFLMAO!

That made an extra plus to my already good New Year!

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 4:12:29 PM

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Great question.

As a semi-casual lifter myself I've found myself in situations where I worry if I "let go and enjoy myself" I'll end up breaking the girl. From my limited experiences I've found that telling a girl you're worried doesn't usually communicate anything, a simple demonstration of "I can lift this easily, keep that in mind when you ask me to get rough" helps get a lot across and leads to a lot of informed fun.

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 4:34:58 PM

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His huge stable of women who he demands lick his bathroom floor clean, e coli be damned.

I use water and diluted bleach instead of slaves. Am I doing it wrong?

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 4:36:14 PM

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Technical question for the ladies-At what point is a man officially considered Ginormous?

Inquiring minds wanna know

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 4:43:57 PM

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quote:

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I use water and diluted bleach instead of slaves. Am I doing it wrong?

Ha, yes, I'm using a steam cleaner, tell you the tiles are nice and shiny most of the time... Since I don't plan to live here forever I can't be arsed to change the tiles and the previous owner thought it was a splendid idea to have the floor tiled white and the walls tiled in black, go on, ask me about limescale and what I think of the choice... Though in an act of rebellion I exchanged the toilet seat to bright red just to have a splash of colour... Don't get me started on that orgy in black and white....

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 5:03:22 PM

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Just looked and profile is up.

I read it and the only thought I had was not in your wildest dreams.

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 5:22:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

Technical question for the ladies-At what point is a man officially considered Ginormous?

Inquiring minds wanna know

http://www.pbase.com/bmcmorrow/image/44209765/original

But do zoom out ;)

Or if he can fill those trousers

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 5:39:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

Technical question for the ladies-At what point is a man officially considered Ginormous?

Inquiring minds wanna know

At the point where I can't do this surprise dip thing I do when giving blow jobs. It's just that simple. I hate not giving a good one and being too big with my little mouth... just makes it frustrating! I need the power of a good blow job!

(Another hint though... most who think it's big or small... typically haven't a clue. I guess they are looking down from the wrong angle or have been popping pretty colored pills, after falling down a rabbit hole. I tend to file that with the bit; Baby I am going to make you feel so good, treat you so right! I end up telling them, when you want something done right, do it yourself, because those that brag... have nothing on those silent types that just do it!)

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RE: How to balance between Dom and Savage... - 1/2/2011 8:18:16 PM

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Is the desire to "let go" and really "enjoy" a sub natural? Is it abusive? (I've slipped a couple times, and grabbed/bit much too hard - left some pretty significant bruises.)

I don't feel that the desire to let go is unnatural at all. However, as the Dominant,
she has placed herself in a very vulnerable position of trusting you not to harm her,
so it would be wise that you retain some semblance of control over your actions.
Bruises will heal soon enough. Loss of trust...not so much.

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