Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

What life event made you desire to be a submissive?


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> What life event made you desire to be a submissive? Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 12:25:14 PM   
AzLeatherMan


Posts: 11
Joined: 1/1/2011
Status: offline 		I am wondering what life event caused others to desire to be a submissive. I desired to be a male submissive following an experience with a 35 year old woman who spanked me when I was a teenager.
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 12:28:25 PM   
AquaticSub


Posts: 14867
Joined: 12/27/2005
Status: offline 		I was born.

I have no memory of ever not having kink and power dynamics in my fantasies. As a child I was drawn towards the characters who slung women around. My first loves where Rhett Bulter, John Wayne, Han Solo, Indiana Jones and I found myself strangely intoxicated by the Phantom of the Opera. Both by the scarred  Phantom who possessed the singer's mind and the determined Viscount who plowed through her objections to falling in love.

< Message edited by AquaticSub -- 1/1/2011 12:29:29 PM >

_____________________________

Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

Member:Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair

(in reply to AzLeatherMan)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 12:31:27 PM   
LillyBoPeep


Posts: 6873
Joined: 12/29/2010
Status: offline 		i'm more along the line of AquaticSub -- a lot of my early fantasies were really kinky, with male Dominance as a central theme.
i was raised really old-fashioned and did NOT want to absorb that, so i was slightly disappointed in myself when i met M and realized that being submissive made me happy. =p haha

oh well!

(in reply to AquaticSub)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 12:50:32 PM   
osf


Posts: 3288
Joined: 10/19/2009
Status: offline 		i acquired a gosling

_____________________________

all around nice guy and creative misogynist

i'm not very skilled so i just hit harder

i want a woman to make into the woman she never wanted to become

(in reply to LillyBoPeep)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 1:17:38 PM   
81song


Posts: 293
Joined: 1/22/2005
Status: offline 		As for me it was not just one thing but a  hosts of nuns, catholic guilt, and getting beat a lot. But I don't know still trying to figure it out in a way I remember I use to like to tie up my balls when I was very small so maybe I have always been this way.

(in reply to osf)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 2:20:42 PM   
soul2share


Posts: 7084
Joined: 12/18/2007
From: somewhere out there.....
Status: offline 		Aqua and BoPeep pretty much said it.....even tho I was considered a femnist in school...I didn't take any crap from anyone about the whole female vs male thing, deep down, the fantasies had definite D/s overtones.

What actually brought me into the life was boredom....I was bored one night, typed in BDSM into my search engine and voila!  I discovered that I wasn't just some weirdo, that there was a whole bunch of people who felt the same way.  OMG!!  what a relief!  And the ride has been fantastic since that night!

_____________________________

I have to stop saying "How stupid can you be?"...people are starting to take it as a challenge!

*Not a fuck was given.*

(in reply to 81song)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 2:30:01 PM   
mbes


Posts: 465
Joined: 12/14/2006
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

I was born.

I have no memory of ever not having kink and power dynamics in my fantasies. As a child I was drawn towards the characters who slung women around. My first loves where Rhett Bulter, John Wayne, Han Solo, Indiana Jones and I found myself strangely intoxicated by the Phantom of the Opera. Both by the scarred  Phantom who possessed the singer's mind and the determined Viscount who plowed through her objections to falling in love.


This. Except I like the Phantom a lot better than the other guy.

(in reply to AquaticSub)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 2:36:35 PM   
littlewonder


Posts: 15659
Status: offline 		There is no life event. I am a submissive personality. I grew up in a culture where husband is head of household, the leader. Wife is the follower. It's what I'm comfortable in and what i seek  in a partner.


(in reply to mbes)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 2:57:11 PM   
phoenixmoonn13


Posts: 398
Joined: 6/11/2010
Status: offline 		its me i was born this way

(in reply to littlewonder)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 3:24:00 PM   
CalifChick


Posts: 10717
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: AzLeatherMan

I am wondering what life event caused others to desire to be a submissive. I desired to be a male submissive following an experience with a 35 year old woman who spanked me when I was a teenager.


It sounds like you desired to be a bottom, not a submissive. 

Your question, "what life event caused others to desire to be a submissive", makes as much sense to me as if you asked what life event caused others to desire to be... heterosexual.


Cali



_____________________________

AKA "The Undisputed Goddess of Sarcasm", "Big Bad Cali" and "Yum Bum". Advisor to the Subbie Mafia, founding member of the W.A.C. and the Judgmental Bitches Brigade, member of the Clan of the Scarlet O'Hair-a's and Team Troll

(in reply to AzLeatherMan)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 6:32:20 PM   
sweetbiggal


Posts: 62
Joined: 6/27/2010
Status: offline 		Was born this way.  Didn't really know there were more folks like me until I had a computer and internet connection.  

(in reply to AzLeatherMan)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 8:29:43 PM   
windchymes


Posts: 9410
Joined: 4/18/2005
Status: offline 		When that doctor held me upside down by my little heels and smacked my little ass to make me cry, I knew.

_____________________________

You know it's going to be a GOOD blow job when she puts a Breathe Right strip on first.

Pick-up artists and garbage men should trade names.

(in reply to sweetbiggal)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 8:52:10 PM   
glynn012954


Posts: 19
Joined: 8/6/2004
Status: offline 		Good question---My Mom was the dom half of a female led household. She ruled over my dad, brother, and me. She gave my sister a free pass for everything. My sister has grown up to be just like her. My brother rebeled and doesn;t have anything to do with the family after he graduated and left home, and I have become a lot like my dad a submissive. So what does that say about why we all turned out the way we were I don't know

(in reply to windchymes)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/1/2011 9:20:40 PM   
WestBaySlave


Posts: 501
Joined: 9/24/2008
Status: offline 		Hitting puberty. The hormones flooded in and I began figuring out what I wanted in sex, romance, and a relationship. 

(in reply to AzLeatherMan)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/2/2011 2:16:06 AM   
Minotauros


Posts: 45
Joined: 11/1/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes
When that doctor held me upside down by my little heels and smacked my little ass to make me cry, I knew.


That made me smile ... and I bet you tried as long as possible not to cry

(in reply to windchymes)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/2/2011 2:23:01 AM   
CherryNeko


Posts: 330
Joined: 12/29/2010
From: Mexico City
Status: offline 		Awww there was no life event for me... *cries*

_____________________________

How many mornings do we have
Before this night ends?
I'm dying surrounded by white flowers
Which scatter in the sky...

(in reply to AzLeatherMan)
Profile   Post #: 16
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/2/2011 8:54:56 AM   
slavekal


Posts: 1486
Joined: 7/20/2004
Status: offline 		Born this way.  When I knew about it was the first time I saw Catwoman (Julie Newmar) on TV.  When she snapped the whip and kicked her boys around, I got instantly hard.  I wasn't even in kindergarten yet.

_____________________________

"The Courage to Submit: the submissive male's guide to finding a dominant woman"
http://www.lulu.com/product/paperback/the-courage-to-submit-the-guide-for-the-submissive-male-seeking-a-dominant-woman/5968917

(in reply to CherryNeko)
Profile   Post #: 17
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/2/2011 10:15:05 PM   
Carmesie


Posts: 1
Joined: 9/25/2010
Status: offline 		Finding a Dom. :)

6 months ago I would have denied with my last breath that I was submissive in ANY WAY WHAT SO EVER.

Then I met Him. And his Domination made me feel safe enough to submit and be my authentic self.

(in reply to slavekal)
Profile   Post #: 18
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/3/2011 1:56:49 AM   
LillyBoPeep


Posts: 6873
Joined: 12/29/2010
Status: offline 		@ Carmesie -- isn't it nice when you find that? ^_^ that's how it was for me, too. 

(in reply to Carmesie)
Profile   Post #: 19
RE: What life event made you desire to be a submissive? - 1/3/2011 10:56:41 AM   
littleone35


Posts: 2828
Joined: 2/17/2005
Status: offline 		Like many of the others others no big life event unless you condiser birth to be a big life event. I was born this way.

Matt's littleone

(in reply to LillyBoPeep)
Profile   Post #: 20
Page:   [1] 2   next >   >>
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> What life event made you desire to be a submissive? Page: [1] 2   next >   >>
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.078