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The Classic Dominant
A dominant with Herculean powers of persuasion, who portrays himself standing triumphant over both of his submissives: a timeless triptych of perfect power exchange. The whip he carries over his shoulder is almost invisible, emphasizing that ownership is achieved through cleverness rather than sheer force.

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To me the "classic" Domme look is high heels, corset, full face makeup, either very long hair or striking blunt cut.

Not sure about a classic Dom look, straight guys wearing lots of leather just look ridiculous to me.

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a tool belt from home depot to hang all your toys from

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Ok, I realize this is an imaginative (aka "Fun"--remember "Fun," you cynics?) thread, so here's how I've always visualized the Classique Dominant. I don't think any master in real life would have all of these qualities, however just a handful of these would suit me well:

--Mysterious
--Worldly
--Sophisticated
--Very Intelligent, and brilliant in the fields you know something about
--Disquieting, disturbing
--And Creepy
--Physically Strong
--Unbending
--Perceptive
--Unpredictable
--Ruthless
--Hungry
--Air of Superiority
--Wordy, fluent
--Arrogant
--Menacing
--Elitist
--Rapacious
--Brutal
--Principled, in his own way
--Great sense of humor...at the worst possible times
--Forgiving
--Caring
--Careful
--Patient
--Plotting
--Hidden
--Strong self-control
--Understanding, empathic
--Ucompromising
--Sense of entitlement
--Nobility of spirit
--Expects worship
--Perfectionst
--Excellent sense of timing and drama
--Knows how to have fun (his kind)
--Modest, understated
--Passionate

edited to delete a duplicate of "self-controlled." I guess I think this is important!

< Message edited by CaringandReal -- 1/1/2011 9:03:42 PM >

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C&R

Damn, I missed 5ive of them!

CP

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I won't speak to how 'classic' it is, but in My mind, that's not what being Dominant is about for Me. Being Dominant to Me is about running this dynamic. I do it in My way and not the way other people think it should be done. It really wouldn't matter to Me if the majority of the folks out there don't agree with the way that I do it. Heck, I'm pretty sure that's the reality of it anyway. I'm not everybody's kind of Dominant.

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I know it when I feel it.

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ORIGINAL: ThePeripatetic

So I'm listening to Frank Sinatra's "The Heart of the Matter" album (I know, I'm a strange 26yr. old) and it suddenly dawned on me... Classic Dominant! He was suave, confidently masculine, could rock a felt fedora, and had shady ties to the mafia (i.e. a dark-side). Not to mention marrying a 21yr. old Mia Farrow when he was 50!

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse


Except that.......... a woman was able to wrap him around her lovely fingers and tie him into knots. Ava Gardner

Before he gave up and went after a weaker, younger, more impressionable, Mia. Poor consolation prize if you ask me........which you didn't.

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

.........In my eyes? That there isn't a 'classic dominant'.

I'm trying to think of something that I would consider to be classically dominant and too much variety pops up. The intoxicating Southern Gentleman with a well-cut suit and soft linen covering hard muscle. The rough mannered worker (think classic cowboy) with well worn clothing.

The only thing I can think of that is the same is the look in their eyes. That hungry, devilish look that simply lets you know that you are the meal to the predator. Doesn't matter what they are wearing or what they do. That look is the only thing that stays the same.

So... what's your answer to your question?

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

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The Classic Dominant
A dominant with Herculean powers of persuasion, who portrays himself standing triumphant over both of his submissives: a timeless triptych of perfect power exchange. The whip he carries over his shoulder is almost invisible, emphasizing that ownership is achieved through cleverness rather than sheer force.

Prin,

The above comes pretty close to my view but I would substitue quiet power for cleverness!

CP

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

I tend to keep track of what types of both sides of the slash that come into CM as new folks and one new gal mentioned she had only been the site for 3 days and already had 13 pages of messages from Doms and that got me pondering what kind of "dom" would approach a fem in that manner.

So you thoughts as to what a classic dominant would be in your eyes.

CP

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

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ORIGINAL: CelticPrince

I tend to keep track of what types of both sides of the slash that come into CM as new folks and one new gal mentioned she had only been the site for 3 days and already had 13 pages of messages from Doms and that got me pondering what kind of "dom" would approach a fem in that manner.

So you thoughts as to what a classic dominant would be in your eyes.

CP

Obviously the douchebag doms approached the new meat in exactly the same manner that you did.

So hard to tell the difference.

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Not to sound disagreeable, but that's not exactly what you asked.

While I'm at it, exactly who are these "observes" anyway and how, supposedly, did they get a vote?

I won't speak to how 'classic' it is, but in My mind, that's not what being Dominant is about for Me. Being Dominant to Me is about running this dynamic. I do it in My way and not the way other people think it should be done. It really wouldn't matter to Me if the majority of the folks out there don't agree with the way that I do it. Heck, I'm pretty sure that's the reality of it anyway. I'm not everybody's kind of Dominant.

Sure. I could have canned you an answer about how a Dominant should be this or that. I do have My own interpretations. At the same time, I'm not trying to fit into anybody else's mold of what they think a Dominant is supposed to be. I tend to think some folks would be better off if they did the same thing.

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

OP, I don't know so much about what makes a classic dominant, just a good man with dominant qualities for me. I'll spare you all the typical honest, loyal, must be the domliest of all boring natter.

I need a man just like the one I have, he alleviates my fears, we solve problems as a team, we love, we argue, I respect him because he has earned it and when I feel like the world around me is falling apart, I only need to turn to him and even if he can't fix it immediately, he does what he can, and when needs a soft place to fall or my strength which is considerable, he has that as well.   

None of this romace flowery BDSM novella bullshit, I am too entrenched in the real world for that.

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I know it when I feel it.

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Hello CP,

If you have a look at the thread I linked in my answer, you'll see I did offer my interpretation of a dominant "look". As I said, this has less to do with physical appearance and everything, at least for me, to do with attitude and/or behavior.

I get the feeling you're trying to get people to offer a description that would fit into what I call a 'Hollywood dom/me' role. I could offer the example of Heathcliff played by Laurence Olivier in the original Wuthering Heights movie, but while he was a sexy brooding character...he was also weak, angry, vengeful and overbearing. Not, in my opinion, the way a dominant individual conducts him/herself.

If Hollywood is what you'd like, here's a couple of examples I'd like to offer. Listen to the words and ignore the actor speaking them....the words are what matter.

Integrity

Character

As I said, dominance and submission, for me, are personality traits and characteristics and not some 'lifestyle' label or role you throw over yourself when attending a munch or engaging in kinky play with your partner/s.

The interesting thing is, all of the examples I offered could be used to describe both dominant and submissive people, regardless of the 'lifestyle' role they choose to place themselves in. Anything else is going to be an individual, and personal, experience. With that in mind...how can there be only one "Classic Dominant" example?