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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/5/2011 11:55:28 PM   
sansa


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Status: offline 		i've known my Master for about 7 years now. He and i have played off and on over those years, so i wasn't afraid of how He well He would like me, my body, how i serve, etc.

my fear when i begged His collar was of rejection. Rejection seems to be something that has plagued me in the past, and i fear it as much as i fear the sensation of falling (literally physically falling, as in off a ladder or off any high place...can't do suspension because of it)

i fear not being good enough for Him to want to build a future together, with me.

i fear He will one day come to me and tell me He's found someone else to build that future with, and that she's uncomfortable with my being in the picture.

i fear that no matter how much i love Him or how much i do to try to please Him, it will still end up the same as all relationships have ended for me. Painfully.



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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/6/2011 1:29:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sansa

i've known my Master for about 7 years now. He and i have played off and on over those years, so i wasn't afraid of how He well He would like me, my body, how i serve, etc.

my fear when i begged His collar was of rejection. Rejection seems to be something that has plagued me in the past, and i fear it as much as i fear the sensation of falling (literally physically falling, as in off a ladder or off any high place...can't do suspension because of it)

i fear not being good enough for Him to want to build a future together, with me.

i fear He will one day come to me and tell me He's found someone else to build that future with, and that she's uncomfortable with my being in the picture.

i fear that no matter how much i love Him or how much i do to try to please Him, it will still end up the same as all relationships have ended for me. Painfully.





I can completely relate.

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/6/2011 1:32:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

What a great question.

I never used to be afraid of anything involving relationships or meeting men.

After my last relationship, that has changed.

I am afraid I will never meet anyone that I feel as intensely about as I did with my ex or whom I could truly, truly be myself with.

I am afraid that I will never really trust anyone again.

I am afraid that our communication system will further deteriorate the way we meet and get to know people.

I am afraid that I will never meet anyone who actually "gets" the whole me.

I am afraid that I will just stop caring about meeting someone and just become a glamourous old lady telling stories about my checkered past.


I think, when you are afraid of all that, it's probable that you correct it even before it happens. When you keep trying you show your worth.

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/6/2011 6:45:13 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		i was- and still am- sort of scared about perhaps getting totally bored with Him and falling in lust with someone else or Him going off me and dumping me...

And it almost happened.... i have been totally bored with Him, but fortunately not fallen in lust with another... He also has gone off me, but He had the decency not to dump me...

things could have been well bad but we're still good

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/27/2011 3:22:15 PM   
Genobee


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Status: offline 		Fears? Idk... off the bat I guess nothing is really that scary...
If I meet her and start to feel something for her I suppose there is a fear of rejection or un-compatibility though.

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/27/2011 3:56:14 PM   
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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/27/2011 5:07:59 PM   
Ishtarr


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Status: offline 		What I feared most with the last two men I met was:

- That I overestimated him (which turned out to be unfounded) or that his wife would hate me (which turned out to be true... two years later... (never doubt your instincts)).

- That I wouldn't be able to trust him after what happened in the relationship before that (which turned out to be unfounded).

I'm never really scared about meeting serial killers or something like that, because I do my home work and play it safe for a long time.

And I'm never really scared about not being found pleasing/attractive or something like that, because I loose interest quickly when people just aren't that "into" me.

Ishtar

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/27/2011 5:45:49 PM   
kdsusa7894


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Status: offline 		Mine would be that I don't come across as the REAL me. When I feel unsure I tend to get more sarcastic. I am sarcastic normally but in a very low-key way, when I am unsure or nervous I have a tendency to go a little overboard with it. That I will never find the one that completes me and is willing to take the time to figure me out and what I need to fulfill me. That the person I thought they were turns out to be totally false. Just to name a few, lol.

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/27/2011 5:57:18 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		I'm afraid of:
Not measuring up.
Being ignored and invisible, not mattering to anyone.
Not being respected.
Regrets. So I try to live my life in such a manner that I try things and reach out while still being careful. I don't like feeling regretful....cautiously optimistic is more my speed and also jumping in with both feet lol.

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/27/2011 8:19:14 PM   
angelfire83


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Status: offline 		i guess my biggest fear is that i will love him more then he loves me. i am afraid that i wont be good enough for him. i am still very very very new to this scene. i am working on my fears like my fear that i wont be able to please him. i am afraid that he will find someone better. like OsideGirl
said he and i also were good friends for many years. we dated briefly in college then became amazing friends just becuse or timing was off. now that we are back together and i know all his secrets i know his past. i know what has ended past relationships. i am afraid that if we dont make it work this time and something stupid and small get is our way like my fears over nothing. the fact that i get hug up on termanology. i am just afraid that something small will cause us to break up and i will never get a chance to be with him again.

not being with him not having im n my life not being able to see him and everything is my biggest fear because he makes me happier then i knew was even possible.

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/27/2011 10:51:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Most relationships end badly, otherwise they wouldn't end. The most important thing is to learn from past experiences. For example, I learned that if a man says he's looking for a FWB, he's not likely to change his mind as he gets to know a woman (it's not like an annoying acquaintance growing on you and becoming a good friend). I also learned that if a man brags, prances around, and tells women to call him God, it's not always because he's trying to be a comedian. He might be a narcissist.

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/27/2011 11:19:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal

What did you fear or dread might happen or, even if you were perfectly fearless and had a prospective master who perfectly put you at ease, what did you have a niggling worry about?


Greetings CaringandReal,

On a mental level I feared getting to the point of no return and finding myself in a situation that I couldn't walk away from even if I desired to do so. Also, poly made me very uncomfortable and I usually dismissed a prospect if he expressed an interest in going in that direction. But I've come to terms with my uneasiness and no longer feel squeamish. And the descent I once feared is something I cannot live without.

Namaste,

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/28/2011 3:28:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		What frightens me is that I will cross paths with, meet, or start a discussion with a man who is perfect for me, and I will not recognize him as such.  

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/28/2011 4:00:49 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied
What frightens me is that I will cross paths with, meet, or start a discussion with a man who is perfect for me, and I will not recognize him as such. 
I'm not a submissive, but this is a thought I identify with very well...   M

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/28/2011 10:25:51 AM   
mummyman321


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Status: offline 		What really frightens me? The Domme will put spiders on me when I am all tied up!!!! Anything with 8 legs is just not natural!!!!
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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/28/2011 11:03:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

What frightens me is that I will cross paths with, meet, or start a discussion with a man who is perfect for me, and I will not recognize him as such.  


Why do you think you would not recognize him? My fear is that I will keep meeting, cross paths with and start discussions with men who are not perfect for me.

That also sucks.

I think if I met someone who might be perfect for me, I would at least HOPE I would recognize it.

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/28/2011 11:57:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

What frightens me is that I will cross paths with, meet, or start a discussion with a man who is perfect for me, and I will not recognize him as such.  


But isn't that a two way street? Let's hope he recognizes your awesomeness just in case you're having an off day.

Namaste,

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/28/2011 4:07:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		I used to be really frightened about him getting bored with me, or him not genuinely liking me as a person and just using me for sex, or him settling with me, because he didn't think he could find anyone better and he was tired of searching. Now, I'm just really frightened he's going to cut off all my hair in my sleep. =O.O=

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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/28/2011 7:24:23 PM   
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But isn't that a two way street? Let's hope he recognizes your awesomeness just in case you're having an off day.


Point taken.  And thank you.




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RE: What Frightens You? - 1/28/2011 9:05:52 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		This is weird and probably the most honest I have been with myself regarding relationships..
I fear meeting (and falling in love with) someone who will insist on more of a committment than I can offer.
Evaluating my life has made me recognize my deliberate destruction of relationships that make me wish for a till death do us part (and hopefully we go together) sort of love.


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