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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 3:25:18 PM

masterdeltafire

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*nods in feeling passion. My foot missed the old days of kickboxing sending the bag thru the wall.. ahh yes, tequila,

*nods sagely... make mental note to reinforce walls with concrete.. need new kickboxing bag.

As for Eros, it is a hour and a half south of me. Or should i say two-3 hours depending on the lovely minefield of potholes we call freeways and the people in their 30's not wishing to see next birthday driving 100 on freeway.

as for what ive learned.... bring truth serum, keep truth serum close by, bring lie detector machine, hook both up to the girl... re-affirm girls can lie thru teeth while saying they love you and get even the best to believe them... Gag girl, ensure food water, chasityy belt with lots of love, ensure she is signed sealed delivered.... Sprinkle into the mix believing 99% of girls lie thru their teeth and the lifestyle is noting more than goldilocks and the thousands cocks playing "this one is too hard this one is too soft."

Add a new kickboxing bag, reinforce it to the chains, then knock the bloody friggin hell out of it seeing if you can break record how many kicks it takes to kick one thru the wall.

Beyond that i had fun being lied to Mommy Goddess and mother Eatrth, may i have another player to fuck up people's lives please.

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 3:31:29 PM

CrappyDom

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Anyone who would train someone online and speak of training....well where's my violin when I need it?

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 3:31:50 PM

IrishMist

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quote:

I spend 8 months training one towards real life, pouring all of my knowledge into one.

8 months online, with no face to face meeting? Sorry but I don't feel sorry for you at all.

quote:

15 years Lifestyle, and long ago it was only ones truly devoted to it. Now one in maybe 500 is devoted, thinks the collar is truly their prized posession, their master's love is genuine, does not play games, and hungers and thirsts for that knowledge

After 15 years in the lifestyle, you should know that for a very small few, fantasy ( online, refusing to meet face to face ) beats reality all the time.

quote:

Is this all the Lifestyle is, is just kinky sex

For some, yes.

quote:

Is this just a game to yall? has the lifestyle sunk this far in 15 years there are virtually
no true real lifers left?

Someone please...........tell me.......WHAT THE FUCK IS A TRUE LIFER....and how does one become a 'TRUE LIFER'? /snicker

Geesh, I really hate whiners.

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 3:37:57 PM

juliaoceania

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There have been many good replies to your plight, but I just wanted to ask if you "collared" this person online? I think it is fine to explore feelings online with consenting adults, but collaring online will probably only end with the relationship playing out online. It does not surprise me that it was an internet game and not real to this person, for they never felt the real collar on them.

I wish you luck and hope you find someone "real" in the future. Try looking locally, you live in a large area. Someone else made the point that if they have not met in a couple of months they forget it, I would second that opinion. It can take a couple of months sometimes if someone is a couple of hours away to set everything up with work and family schedules, but after that you have to question how real they are.

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 3:45:46 PM

bandit25

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Wait a minute! There are just as many fake doms as there are fakes subs. Guys who put Master before their names and think that's all there is to it. Everyone complains that there are "so many fakers" and they usually mean subs, but let's not forget the "turn on your web cam and get naked" doms or, like one guy who contacted me and wouldn't leave me alone. He was married. I told him that I don't get involved with married guys. He whined that there are a LOT of women on CM that do so I told him to contact one of them. He continued to harass me, saying that he wanted me and since he was a dom, I had to submit. I was like...Whatever!

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 6:09:35 PM

LaTigresse

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I feel for you. I have given one young lady a deadline of May 7th to either follow thru or its bye bye. Not an easy thing for me. I hate having the feeling I am "quitting" or not giving someone a fair chance. However I have a life to live and its too damned short to let others waste it. Give yourself some time to regroup then open yourself to finding or being found, by a decent truthful person.

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 6:27:12 PM

Calandra

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I've been there... I spent time training online and found it to be gameplaying... but I also met/trained both cubby and nomi online and they have been with me for 7 and 5 years now... Training online is no substitute for real life, but it can be a start when you find someone who is sincere, but unable to join you in real life quite yet...

My heart is with you, regardless of what some of the harsher people are posting...

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 6:40:57 PM

LadiesBladewing

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Heck, dear... I'm sorry this happened, but you're right here in my own back yard. There are some good people around here, on both sides of the dynamic. Don't let yourself get discouraged by the one who played you.. look at it this way -- if you quit, they -won-... they got your goat, and made you lose your love for something you cherished. No deceitful person is worth that!

Now that you've had your rant, it might be time to think about where all that energy can be expended that might get you where you -want- to be, instead of where you've currently ended up.

Best of fortunes for the opportunities yet to come,

Lady Zephyr

quote:

ORIGINAL: masterdeltafire

Warning: those with faint hearts and fragile computers please leave the post now before continuing reading. Major rant and blowing off steam.

*slams fist through the wall and begins to wonder.

I spend 8 months training one towards real life, pouring all of my knowledge into one. And where does it get me? "Oh I'm sorry Master, this was all a game. Thank you for playing waste all your time, breath, and experience on one who has played you like a fiddle."

15 years Lifestyle, and long ago it was only ones truly devoted to it. Now one in maybe 500 is devoted, thinks the collar is truly their prized posession, their master's love is genuine, does not play games, and hungers and thirsts for that knowledge.

Is this all the Lifestyle is, is just kinky sex and lets keep score just how many doms girls can screw over before they say fuck it all and give up their one true passion of teaching?

Is this just a game to yall? has the lifestyle sunk this far in 15 years there are virtually no true real lifers left? Is there anyone left who thinks the collar is sacred, like a wedding ring, and their most prized posession and does not play these fucking games?

*Smashs yet another hole thru the wall and walks out. God I'm sick of this.. And people wonder why the true Doms are so hard to find?

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 6:44:22 PM

RiotGirl

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A couple of months??? If I haven't seen a face in two weeks, I am gone.

Heck, Himself wouldnt even wait that long.. darn pushy men.. <grins>

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 6:47:54 PM

TallDarkAndWitty

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quote:

ORIGINAL: RiotGirl

Heck, Himself wouldnt even wait that long.. darn pushy men.. <grins>

The heart wants what it wants...*wink*

Did you two meet online?

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 6:49:09 PM

thetammyjo

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You didn't say how you met this person who betrayed your effort and time. If things were only online, then I'm sorry, but that is probably not the wisest way to find a partner, Ds or otherwise.

But the sad fact is that the world if full of people who are players and full of people who while interested are not up to 24/7 relationship (I'm assuming this is what you were working toward). That first group can be experts at tricking others. The second group may not know whether something is right or wrong for them until they give a go -- when it doesn't they might admit it isn't or lash out to protect themselves emotionally. When its online it is so much easier to ignore the signs that things are right too.

Only you will be able to judge what really happened and that means you'll need to get some space first.

Take care of yourself now, focus on you and getting regrounded. It hurts on multiple levels to be left or betrayed regardless of which side of the whip you are one.

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 6:51:40 PM

LadiesBladewing

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quote:

ORIGINAL: masterdeltafire

As for Eros, it is a hour and a half south of me. Or should i say two-3 hours depending on the lovely minefield of potholes we call freeways and the people in their 30's not wishing to see next birthday driving 100 on freeway.

I have to ask you if you've factored into the "Getting involved with the local community is too far away and takes too long to get there" equation how many hours you spent online training this girl... it might be a thought to invest that time into making inroads into the local community, and seeing if there might not be something out there that would be a better investment of your time. It's all about taking positive steps to get where we want to be.

Lady Zephyr

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 6:55:14 PM

Kendra

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it happens to the nicest ones
looking for space or a quiet time can have my beach house for a month.. ill be away working so you wont have to deal with any humans

kendra

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 7:23:29 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

errr....
I'm not sure what kind of response you're looking for here.
I understand that you're probably feeling quite a bit of emotion; anger, frustration, disappointment, and a million other "negative" feelings. This too shall pass...

As I say to my youngin... "Now, what did you learn?"
The lifestyle leaves plenty of room for fakes? Yup.
Online communication provides for easily taking advantage of others and facades? Yup.
Protocol has taken a backseat to inclusivity? Yup
But surely you already knew this.

Although you didn't walk away from this with what you had hoped for, you can't say you walked away empty-handed. If nothing else, you just got 8 months of experience of training a submissive. Can you look back on that and say "What did I do right? What did I do wrong? What would I change next time?" I fully believe that anytime we teach, we also learn. You had 8 months of experiences in teaching. Try not to stay too focused on the last day of that 8 months. Her saying one time "ha ha, jokes on you." doesn't nullify the 8 months of dynamics that preceeded the punchline. It just changes which path you take with that particular person.

Many times, people feel angry because they felt made a fool of. "How could I have been so stupid?" When that's the case, sometimes it's healthier to look forward instead of back. Instead of thinking "Man, I got played." thinking "How can I better detect players in the future?" or "How can I refine my training methodologies?" might be more constructive thought processes.

I wouldn't be so quick to assume that 15 years ago (early 90's) everyone was "true" and "real". (Those are words I try to avoid anyway, because they just set us up for failure and disappointment.) Many people with a substantial amount of time/experience under their belt in *anything* will tend to look back and glamourize "The good old days." Don't get too caught up in looking back at yesteryear when there's so much to look forward to tomorrow. Change happens. Being able to keep up with such change is a virtue.

Like it or not, there are people in this lifestyle (and there always have been) who simply don't adhere to good character. Your character is built in how you handle the not-so-friendly situations you encounter. We live. We learn.

..Good answer Propietrix...I am with you on this one..you gave a solution to said problem.....and BTW to the OP.....were you also not heartbroken recently due to another submissive who had left?...if so..maybe you need to rethink your choices..be well...Tempting

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 8:18:28 PM

merrymasochist

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I'm sorry this happened to you. Unfortunately the scenario you just lived through can happen just as easily in real time as it does via computer. Sometimes things work out, sometimes they don't work out. It happens on both sides of the coin.

The best one can do is to get the anger up and out, review what went wrong and why, learn from the experience, let go of the bad memories, hang onto the good ones and pick yourself up and try again when you feel ready.

Good luck and I hope you feel better soon.

Sincerely,
merry

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 8:25:25 PM

CrappyDom

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What probably happened is the girl found a local group, realized what an idiot you are, decided to cut her losses and threw her computer out the window.

Lucky her...

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 8:35:03 PM

cariad

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girl is sorry to hear You went through this, and has gone through it many times herself.....girl has been in the lifestyle for 17yrs now and believes the collar is as sacred as her wedding ring was before he became abusive towards her.

girl would not ever wish this kind of pain on anyone (ok so she would wish it on her ex husband but that is another rant for another day....LOL) for any reason.

girl hopes to one day again say that her collar is her life, but until she knows she has found the One for her she is happy in knowing that while she has been hurt by many, she has learned from them and is feeling better knowing that although she may have been emotionally and on occasion physically hurt by them she is stronger for it.

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 8:55:07 PM

Misstoyou

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ORIGINAL: meatcleaver

I wouldn't take anyone serious until I can look them in the eye.

Same here. The complimentary b.s. is fun and nice to hear, but nobody is *real* to me until I meet them.

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 9:19:48 PM

masterdeltafire

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Thanks the ones on support. As for the flamers.. I will reserve judgement seeing ya'll rot in hell. It is ones who back the pathetic whores like the players that give them the incentive to contantly do this, both real life and online to ppl.

As for those ones of support, at least there is some hope in the Lifestyle. And yes, I know houston has many clubs. It does give me some encouragement on the ones who understand this little rant and my respect still to those.

As for the others, Please do rot in hell next to the ones who do this to ppl. With that said I'm done with this issue. Please if a mod would close, would be appreciated.

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RE: *screams bloody friggin murder. - 5/1/2006 9:38:18 PM

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I'm very sorry about your experience.
I tend to agree with your estimation of minimal honesty online, and for that reason, I don't even invest in much sharing beyond basics until I meet a person face to face.
I have no interested in baring my life and intimate information to random strangers I'll never meet, so unless he is going to be where I am within 2-4weeks, all communication gets suspended. M

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