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Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 2:12:35 PM   
genvieve


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Status: offline 		Ok, my Dominant and i have been having this discussion for some time now, and i was curious as to the response. This question is mainly for the submissives, but i would be interested to see Dominant responses as well.
 
submissives:  you have been involved with a Dominant long enough that you are to the point of vaginal intercorse with He or She.  Do you also allow the Dominant anal access?
 
Also, for the purpose of this question, i would like to know Y/your age groups, if you don't mind.  i'd really like to know if the time-period from which you've grown will make a difference in your answers.
 
Thanks so much!
 
-genvieve

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 2:43:36 PM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		I'm 40 and yes I do allow my dominate access to my anal area. We negotiated that he owns my body completely when we signed our contract. Plus, I love him and wouldn’t deny him that even when I don't really care for it and could do without ever going there.

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 2:49:35 PM   
SweetEscravo


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Status: offline 		My dom and I have been working up to anal....it is extremely and rediculously painful for me, but he is trying to get me used to it. 

If the couple enjoys it, why wouldn't they do it?

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 2:54:30 PM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		I'm 46 and it's a personal choice between the parties involved. When Himself took the power of ownership, he took complete ownership over all the body parts and does with them what he will.

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 2:56:41 PM   
akisha


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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 3:06:19 PM   
perverseangelic


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Status: offline 		Allow? Hrm. Doesn't seem like quite the right term.

Anal is a bit of work for us, so it takes a good deal of work up and as such isn't really a daily activity, but if he wants, he gets.

ETA-- I'm 23. He's 22


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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 3:11:09 PM   
seekerofwisdom


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Status: offline 		It's entirely up the couple whether vaginal sex means access to anal sex as well. Some folks do not like anal sex at all and should not need to go there. Some prefer it to vaginal sex. Some don't care. I don't think there's a "rule" about this sort of thing. In my own case, we reached the point of vaginal sex relatively soon, but neither one of us was much interested in anal until later. (I'm 42.) 

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 3:20:05 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

ORIGINAL: genvieve
submissives:  you have been involved with a Dominant long enough that you are to the point of vaginal intercorse with He or She.  Do you also allow the Dominant anal access?

Depends on the person.  One limit does not entail the other.  

Doing anal sex is a lot more involved than vaginal sex, it makes sense to have that as a separate discussion.

quote:

i'd really like to know if the time-period from which you've grown will make a difference in your answers.

Thanks so much!

-genvieve

I'm 26 and an active slut- I've had anal and vaginal sex with some people within hours of meeting them.

What matters only if how YOU feel about the issue, how YOU feel together and where YOU both want to go.

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 3:34:13 PM   
Wildfleurs


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quote:

ORIGINAL: genvieve

Ok, my Dominant and i have been having this discussion for some time now, and i was curious as to the response. This question is mainly for the submissives, but i would be interested to see Dominant responses as well.
 
submissives:  you have been involved with a Dominant long enough that you are to the point of vaginal intercorse with He or She.  Do you also allow the Dominant anal access?


I don't *allow* it, he has it because he has all of me.  Its not something he comes to me for permission for.

quote:


 
Also, for the purpose of this question, i would like to know Y/your age groups, if you don't mind.  i'd really like to know if the time-period from which you've grown will make a difference in your answers.


I'm 28, my owner is 50.

C~

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 3:39:47 PM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		I am 35 and I do not "allow" him anything.  He takes what he wants when he wants it and that includes anal sex.  When I said that I wanted to become his, I consented to whatever he wants to do.  If I think something will harm my well-being then I discuss it with him and he makes the choice of what to do.

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 3:40:03 PM   
IrishMist


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quote:

submissives:  you have been involved with a Dominant long enough that you are to the point of vaginal intercorse with He or She.  Do you also allow the Dominant anal access?


Of course.

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 3:42:34 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I am 38 and I can say it is not on my limits list

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 3:54:23 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		As so many others have said, it's not really my choice.

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 4:04:15 PM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		The concept of allowing my owners anything is so far off base i cannot even conceive it. They own me, all of me. I am 44, Master is 50, Mistress is 48.

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 4:11:53 PM   
darq


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Status: offline 		OK, I've noticed A LOT of people who are like ... Oh my Dom has whatever he wants from me. And thats all well and good ... That works for YOU.

As for the OP ... Whether or not you grant him access to any part of your body is between you and him. If it makes you horribly uncomfortable or you just cant see yourself being able to do it, then dont force yourself.

I, for one, do not have sex with Doms. (OK, with anyone ... Not just Doms ... lol)

No, I'm not a virgin ... I just choose to have that part of myself as a limit for now. I am not interested in any manner of sexual intercourse whatsoever. If a Dom can accept that and utilize my services elsewhere, awesome! Things may develop between him and myself to a point where that particular limit changes. If thats not something he can accept, then I quietly move on.

Just thought I'd share another point of view.

editted to add ...

I'm 25 and not currently involved although I tend to match up with Doms aged 35 and over.

< Message edited by darq -- 5/1/2006 4:21:15 PM >

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 5:04:32 PM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: genvieve

Ok, my Dominant and i have been having this discussion for some time now, and i was curious as to the response. This question is mainly for the submissives, but i would be interested to see Dominant responses as well.
 
submissives:  you have been involved with a Dominant long enough that you are to the point of vaginal intercorse with He or She.  Do you also allow the Dominant anal access?
 


I will answer from a Dominant's perspective.

I have had anal sex with 4 different women.  Many women just can't have anal period!  Sometimes it's the combination of the two individuals involved.  I have had anal with alandra on several occassions.  It takes alot of effort, patience and lub for me to safely and enjoyably have alandra anally.  Even with all that, it still a bit of a struggle for alandra.  However, I do have a very good friend that uses alandra anal from time to time.  It is without question very much easier for the two of them.  In truth, alandra's body and my size are at odds for this type of sexual activity.  My kyra on the other hand is a very easy process.  There is no lub required and I am able to slide in her anal with very little extra stimulation that is occuring for vaginal sex.  This was actually the case with the other two girls I had as well. Thou neither was quite as easy as kyra, she is very much my anal slut *G*

So, it really depends on the individuals involved and the relationship it self.  I can take alandra when I want this way.... but frankly, the pleasure levels are not there for myself or her.  I don't take what I want from my girls because I can... I take what I can because it is pleasurable and free from harm for my girls.



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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 5:41:30 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		My personal opinion....the answers above perhaps may be a bit different based on wether the person considers themselves slaves or submissives, I am not sure. Also, I would expect to be able to discuss it freely and if the submissive has reservations discuss those in great detail. My opinion is that a slave gives their entire self up to their master or mistress to do with them as they wish. I feel that a submissive on the other hand considers that they have more say or rights in what is done. My perception on this may not be entirely 100% correct as I am still learning also.

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 5:46:43 PM   
genvieve


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Status: offline 		Ok...this is my fault.  i apperantly need to revise the question.  And thank you all for your responses...however varried, they are quite the elightenment.
 
i use the word allow because it is my believe that we as submissives allow the Dominant access to us.  It is easy to say that they have access to everything and anything...but what about polotics? Does the Dominant have the right to tell you how to vote?   Or is that different all together.
 
So... i would like to modify the question.
 
Will you, upon playing with the Dominant for the very first time (assuming that vaginal sex is allowed) also allow anal sex?  Be honest.  And i appreciate the giving of age groups...this helps a lot.

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 5:52:15 PM   
pissdoll


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Status: offline 		i have been with a few men who have absolutely been against anal sex under any circumstances...
but at this point in my life, i doubt i would end up with a master who wasn't open enough to do so.  in my mental checklist, anal sex is equal to oral and vaginal (although proper hygiene is a MUST).

now as to whether or not he can fit it in....THAT is a completely different story

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RE: Allowences from the submissive - 5/1/2006 5:53:30 PM   
genvieve


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Status: offline 		~chuckles to pissdoll~  Alrighty... well, that's an excellent viewpoint.

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