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RE: Journals? "Forums"? - 1/31/2011 11:28:21 PM

TotallyDude

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This is a two-part question. First off, do you keep a journal? Personally i've kept a journal for almost as long as i can remember (the very first one i ever got had Taz on it =p haha)
If you do, what do you think the benefits of journaling are? Do you keep a physical one or an online one (if you have an online one, do you have recommendations of blogging platforms)? Does your D/M give you writing assignments, or is it mostly up to you?
If you don't, care to share any of your reasoning?

I do keep a journal. It's a habit I got into in high school, mostly because when you're a Dude there are aspects of your life you learn to keep private. I mean, the jocks I got drunk with wouldn't have been all that jazzed if I started talking to them about Byron (although really he was all about getting liquored up and getting laid) or JD Salinger or Jawbreaker or any of my other semi-secret obsessions. Even after I started being a little more open about who I was and what I was into, it still felt comforting to scribble out my thoughts at the end of the day if for no other reason than to get them in order and to give myself a record to look back on.

Apart from occasionally blogging or posting journals on a few sites like this one, I never got into the online journaling thing. LiveJournal seemed like ten pounds of drama in an eight pound sack and besides, the whole point of me keeping a journal was to keep my thoughts private (or share them with a very few people) not to spill The Dude's innermost thoughts to a whole community of attention seekers and drama junkies.

A few times in relationships I've been given writing assignments, though these assignments don't always end happily. When I'm told to "Write what you really feel" I take that literally and the results are sometimes tragicomic...

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RE: Journals? "Forums"? - 2/1/2011 7:34:25 AM

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getting thoughts in order and making a record -- that's one of my reasons, too. ^_^ it's nice to look back and see where you've come from and what progress you've made.

and you get points for the use of "tragicomic" ^_^

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RE: Journals? "Forums"? - 2/5/2011 7:41:14 AM

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I don't keep a journal. Used to when I was younger. Also, when I was (briefly) in an abusive relationship I did because I knew he'd found it and was reading it, so I found it a useful way to keep my plans of escape secret by pretending in that that all was well!

As for communicating with other subs, well I do find that useful. I didn't use to at all, but we have a sub who we see fairly often and me and her have become good friends. I choose not to tell my vanilla friends and family about my relationship dynamic, so it's useful to have someone to whom I can say 'you'll never guess what he made me do' or 'my nipples bloody sore' or whatever - y'know good girly gossip, but without having to be careful what I say! I'm also her first proper sub friend, and she finds it really helpful to talk about other doms she may be meeting or chatting to with a view to meet. It helps that she knows him too, and of course, he knows we chat alot and is fine with it.

Hope your group works out well, sounds like a good idea!

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RE: Journals? "Forums"? - 2/5/2011 11:47:00 AM

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My Lord and I both have "a book". It became a good way for My Lord and I to get our thoughts out on a scene we had, something that is bothering us or a scene we wanted to try. We trade them back and forth. I read his and he reads mine. It's very interesting to go back and read about something that happened ages ago, but has since been resolved. It's also very revealing about what has changed in our relationship.

Sometimes we use them as jumping off points for a conversation. It keeps both of us in tune with each other. I'll write something and then hand it off and then something I've said will spark something that he feels the need to write down.

With that said, I know I write more than he does. However, when he does write, it's beautiful.

Real life forum/meeting. I've got close friends that have their toes (and other parts) into this flavor of life, I can chat with them.

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