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RapierFugue -> RE: Looking for a dynamic or a person? (1/26/2011 1:42:38 PM)
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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
Of course one can never assume what an entire planet thinks, but that is just semantics. I was curious to hear more of your thought process , but that is ok if you don't want to share. [;)]
Process? There's a process? I want my money back - I never got the paperwork on that one!
I can't recall if it was you I spoke to about the propensity some folk around here have for picking apart the "thought processes" of others (appallingly badly), but WTF ... as it's you :)
Experience teaches us (or should do) that if we imbue relationships with characteristics we are seeking, then the likelihood is that we will, in some way, colour our interactions with that other person, very rarely to the betterment or development of that relationship. Therefore, while we may, while younger, have plunged in with both feet, so to speak, in projecting either ourselves or our wants/needs/desires, in time we learn that things are what they are, and the best, and most rewarding, course of action is to merely see what is, and leave what may be to the actual, genuine interactions themselves.
Or, to put it another way, even if you paint it yellow that doesn't necessarily make it a canary. It might well be a duck. Better to sit back, enjoy it, and see if it quacks, or sings, in time.
Now you might say "but that's just you ... what about everyone else?", to which I would refer you back to paragraph 3 ;) My experience is that many people (though not all by any means) do genuinely do the same thing, but whether that's because that's what I do, and they reflect that, or whether it's because I attract people who do that, or whether it's because they believe the same thing, is left as an exercise for the reader ...
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